這9大行為，可能會(huì)毀了你的戀情！

研究表明，以下9種會(huì)終止一段戀情。如果你有這些行為，請(qǐng)趕快擺脫它們吧：

1. You are unhappy in your relationship. 

你在戀情里并不開(kāi)心。

If you often feel unhappy, uncomfortable, stressed, or evenburdened, it's the first and most important sign you're in adestructive dead-end relationship.

如果你經(jīng)常感到不開(kāi)心、不舒服、有壓力，甚至有負(fù)擔(dān)，這是關(guān)系破裂的首個(gè)也是最重要的標(biāo)志。

Just be honest with yourself, and admit that you're in a "toxic" relationship.Try to identify what "benefits" this relationship brings to you.For example, it saves you from the fear of loneliness.

對(duì)自己誠(chéng)實(shí)一點(diǎn)，承認(rèn)自己處于“病態(tài)”的關(guān)系中。試著找出戀情給你帶來(lái)的“好處”。例如，它可以讓你免于孤獨(dú)的恐懼，或者你害怕獨(dú)自一人。

2. You can't be yourself when you are with your partner. 

你和你的伴侶在一起時(shí)不能做你自己。

When you're with the "right" person you don't have to fakeanything: you can be yourself. You can be foolish and clumsy and not feel guilty about it. When you're together you behave naturally, as if you were alone.

你和“正確”的人在一起時(shí)，不必假裝什么:你可以做你自己。你既愚蠢又笨拙，也不會(huì)為此感到內(nèi)疚。當(dāng)你們?cè)谝黄鸬臅r(shí)候，你會(huì)表現(xiàn)得很自然，就好像你是一個(gè)人。

If in your relationship you have to turn to your acting skills too often, you deprive yourself of the experience of being authentic, which holds you back from developing your relationship.

如果在你們的關(guān)系中，你不得不經(jīng)常求助于你的演技，你會(huì)剝奪自己的真實(shí)，這將阻礙發(fā)展你們的關(guān)系。

3. Your partner is too controlling. 

你對(duì)象管你管的太嚴(yán)了。

Watch out if your significant other spies on you, monitors your phone conversations, social media, and e-mail, wants you to share everything with them, and even demands you turn over your paycheck.

小心你身邊的伴侶，對(duì)方可能會(huì)監(jiān)控你的電話，社交媒體和電子郵件，希望你和他們分享一切，甚至要求你交出薪水。

Such partners only pretend to be loving and caring. In fact, they take total control over your life in the form of emotional abuse and invade your personal space. This is unacceptable in a relationship.

這樣的伴侶只是假裝愛(ài)和關(guān)心。事實(shí)上，他們以情感虐待的形式控制你的生活，侵犯你的個(gè)人空間。這在戀愛(ài)關(guān)系中是不認(rèn)可的。

4. You live in isolation. 

你獨(dú)自一人相處。

Your loved one is trying to isolate you from your friends and family, forbids you from using your phone or car, or maybe even prevents you from finding a good job.

你的愛(ài)人正試圖將你與朋友和家人隔離，禁止你使用手機(jī)或汽車，甚至可能阻止你找到一份好工作。

It's a form of domestic abuse that leads to psychological and economic dependence on your partner.

這是家庭暴力的一種形式，會(huì)導(dǎo)致對(duì)伴侶在心理和經(jīng)濟(jì)上的依賴。

5. Your parter is too jealous. 

你對(duì)象的嫉妒心太重。

You're dating an overly jealous and possessive freak if he or she causes big scenes in public, controls your calls, socialmedia use, etc.

你和一個(gè)過(guò)分嫉妒和占有欲很強(qiáng)的人約會(huì)，那么他可能會(huì)在公共場(chǎng)合大鬧一番，控制你的電話，社交媒體的使用等等。

You have to realize it's not love. It's a form of psychologicalabuse, and it shouldn't be ignored.

你必須意識(shí)到這不是愛(ài)。這是一種心理虐待，不應(yīng)該被忽視。

6. Your partner always underestimates you and your achievements.

 你的伴侶總是低估你和你的成就。

It's time for you to leave if you often hear from your partnerthat you're just an ordinary person with so-so achievements. They're trying to convince you that no one will ever appreciate you, but the worst thing is that you start to believe it's true.

如果你經(jīng)常聽(tīng)到你的伴侶說(shuō)你只是一個(gè)普通的人，那么你還是離開(kāi)吧。他們?cè)噲D讓你相信沒(méi)有人會(huì)欣賞你，但最糟糕的是你開(kāi)始相信這話是真的。

It's your partner who needs help, not you! Apparently, youremotional manipulator has problems with self-confidence and tries to raise their low self-esteem by belittling you.

你的伴侶需要幫助，不是你！顯然，你的情緒是自信的問(wèn)題，對(duì)方試圖通過(guò)貶低你來(lái)提高他們的自尊。

7. It's almost impossible to plan your future together.

幾乎不可能一起計(jì)劃你的未來(lái)。

Mutual confidence, a sense of security, and plans for that far-off future together. It's all different in an unhealthy relationship: you don't even have short-term plans, and you're trying to find an excuse for why you're still together.

共同的信心、安全感和對(duì)未來(lái)遙遠(yuǎn)未來(lái)的規(guī)劃，在一段不健康的關(guān)系中是另一番景象: 你甚至都沒(méi)有短期計(jì)劃，而你還想找個(gè)借口解釋為什么你們要繼續(xù)在一起。

If you never talk or can't ever think about your future, it's one of those signs you're in a toxic relationship.

如果你從不發(fā)表意見(jiàn)，或永遠(yuǎn)不思考你的未來(lái)，那你已處于一種有害的關(guān)系中了。

8. Your partner always tries to make you feel guilty.

你的伴侶總是試圖讓你感到內(nèi)疚。

Your partner always tries to put the blame on you for what'sgoing on with your relationship. As a result, you often feel like you have to explain something, although you shouldn't.

你的伴侶總試圖把兩人之間出現(xiàn)的問(wèn)題歸咎于你。因此，你經(jīng)常覺(jué)得自己不得不解釋一些事情，盡管你不應(yīng)該解釋。

Your skilled manipulator doesn't want to take responsibility.He or she will do everything to make you feel guilty, thus achieving their own goals.

你得熟練地表現(xiàn)出自己不想承擔(dān)責(zé)任。因?yàn)樗蛩龝?huì)竭盡所能讓你感到內(nèi)疚，從而實(shí)現(xiàn)他們自己的目標(biāo)。

9. Uncontrollable episodes of impulsive aggression.

不可控制的沖動(dòng)暴力事件。

Sometimes even the cool-headed ones can flip out, but it shouldn't become a common thing. If your partner gets angryeasily, especially when the situation isn't that stressful, suchrelationships can be dangerous.

有時(shí)，即使是頭腦冷靜的人也會(huì)忘記控制自己，但這不應(yīng)該讓暴力成為一件普通的事情。如果你的伴侶很容易生氣，特別是在沒(méi)有壓力的情況下，這種關(guān)系會(huì)很危險(xiǎn)。

Uncontrollable impulsive aggression always leads to emotional, economic, and physical violence.

不可控制的沖動(dòng)總會(huì)導(dǎo)致情緒、經(jīng)濟(jì)和身體上的暴力。

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