這9大行為，可能會毀了你的戀情！

研究表明，以下9種會終止一段戀情。如果你有這些行為，請趕快擺脫它們吧：

1. You are unhappy in your relationship. 

你在戀情里并不開心。

If you often feel unhappy, uncomfortable, stressed, or evenburdened, it's the first and most important sign you're in adestructive dead-end relationship.

如果你經(jīng)常感到不開心、不舒服、有壓力，甚至有負(fù)擔(dān)，這是關(guān)系破裂的首個也是最重要的標(biāo)志。

Just be honest with yourself, and admit that you're in a "toxic" relationship.Try to identify what "benefits" this relationship brings to you.For example, it saves you from the fear of loneliness.

對自己誠實一點，承認(rèn)自己處于“病態(tài)”的關(guān)系中。試著找出戀情給你帶來的“好處”。例如，它可以讓你免于孤獨的恐懼，或者你害怕獨自一人。

2. You can't be yourself when you are with your partner. 

你和你的伴侶在一起時不能做你自己。

When you're with the "right" person you don't have to fakeanything: you can be yourself. You can be foolish and clumsy and not feel guilty about it. When you're together you behave naturally, as if you were alone.

你和“正確”的人在一起時，不必假裝什么:你可以做你自己。你既愚蠢又笨拙，也不會為此感到內(nèi)疚。當(dāng)你們在一起的時候，你會表現(xiàn)得很自然，就好像你是一個人。

If in your relationship you have to turn to your acting skills too often, you deprive yourself of the experience of being authentic, which holds you back from developing your relationship.

如果在你們的關(guān)系中，你不得不經(jīng)常求助于你的演技，你會剝奪自己的真實，這將阻礙發(fā)展你們的關(guān)系。

3. Your partner is too controlling. 

你對象管你管的太嚴(yán)了。

Watch out if your significant other spies on you, monitors your phone conversations, social media, and e-mail, wants you to share everything with them, and even demands you turn over your paycheck.

小心你身邊的伴侶，對方可能會監(jiān)控你的電話，社交媒體和電子郵件，希望你和他們分享一切，甚至要求你交出薪水。

Such partners only pretend to be loving and caring. In fact, they take total control over your life in the form of emotional abuse and invade your personal space. This is unacceptable in a relationship.

這樣的伴侶只是假裝愛和關(guān)心。事實上，他們以情感虐待的形式控制你的生活，侵犯你的個人空間。這在戀愛關(guān)系中是不認(rèn)可的。

4. You live in isolation. 

你獨自一人相處。

Your loved one is trying to isolate you from your friends and family, forbids you from using your phone or car, or maybe even prevents you from finding a good job.

你的愛人正試圖將你與朋友和家人隔離，禁止你使用手機或汽車，甚至可能阻止你找到一份好工作。

It's a form of domestic abuse that leads to psychological and economic dependence on your partner.

這是家庭暴力的一種形式，會導(dǎo)致對伴侶在心理和經(jīng)濟上的依賴。

5. Your parter is too jealous. 

你對象的嫉妒心太重。

You're dating an overly jealous and possessive freak if he or she causes big scenes in public, controls your calls, socialmedia use, etc.

你和一個過分嫉妒和占有欲很強的人約會，那么他可能會在公共場合大鬧一番，控制你的電話，社交媒體的使用等等。

You have to realize it's not love. It's a form of psychologicalabuse, and it shouldn't be ignored.

你必須意識到這不是愛。這是一種心理虐待，不應(yīng)該被忽視。

6. Your partner always underestimates you and your achievements.

 你的伴侶總是低估你和你的成就。

It's time for you to leave if you often hear from your partnerthat you're just an ordinary person with so-so achievements. They're trying to convince you that no one will ever appreciate you, but the worst thing is that you start to believe it's true.

如果你經(jīng)常聽到你的伴侶說你只是一個普通的人，那么你還是離開吧。他們試圖讓你相信沒有人會欣賞你，但最糟糕的是你開始相信這話是真的。

It's your partner who needs help, not you! Apparently, youremotional manipulator has problems with self-confidence and tries to raise their low self-esteem by belittling you.

你的伴侶需要幫助，不是你！顯然，你的情緒是自信的問題，對方試圖通過貶低你來提高他們的自尊。

7. It's almost impossible to plan your future together.

幾乎不可能一起計劃你的未來。

Mutual confidence, a sense of security, and plans for that far-off future together. It's all different in an unhealthy relationship: you don't even have short-term plans, and you're trying to find an excuse for why you're still together.

共同的信心、安全感和對未來遙遠(yuǎn)未來的規(guī)劃，在一段不健康的關(guān)系中是另一番景象: 你甚至都沒有短期計劃，而你還想找個借口解釋為什么你們要繼續(xù)在一起。

If you never talk or can't ever think about your future, it's one of those signs you're in a toxic relationship.

如果你從不發(fā)表意見，或永遠(yuǎn)不思考你的未來，那你已處于一種有害的關(guān)系中了。

8. Your partner always tries to make you feel guilty.

你的伴侶總是試圖讓你感到內(nèi)疚。

Your partner always tries to put the blame on you for what'sgoing on with your relationship. As a result, you often feel like you have to explain something, although you shouldn't.

你的伴侶總試圖把兩人之間出現(xiàn)的問題歸咎于你。因此，你經(jīng)常覺得自己不得不解釋一些事情，盡管你不應(yīng)該解釋。

Your skilled manipulator doesn't want to take responsibility.He or she will do everything to make you feel guilty, thus achieving their own goals.

你得熟練地表現(xiàn)出自己不想承擔(dān)責(zé)任。因為他或她會竭盡所能讓你感到內(nèi)疚，從而實現(xiàn)他們自己的目標(biāo)。

9. Uncontrollable episodes of impulsive aggression.

不可控制的沖動暴力事件。

Sometimes even the cool-headed ones can flip out, but it shouldn't become a common thing. If your partner gets angryeasily, especially when the situation isn't that stressful, suchrelationships can be dangerous.

有時，即使是頭腦冷靜的人也會忘記控制自己，但這不應(yīng)該讓暴力成為一件普通的事情。如果你的伴侶很容易生氣，特別是在沒有壓力的情況下，這種關(guān)系會很危險。

Uncontrollable impulsive aggression always leads to emotional, economic, and physical violence.

不可控制的沖動總會導(dǎo)致情緒、經(jīng)濟和身體上的暴力。

兩個人相處，就是要多包容多體諒。維持一段感情不容易，可別因為一些不妥的小行為而破壞了與你對象之間的感情哦～