一到秋冬季節(jié)就想談戀愛？心理學(xué)家說(shuō)，這是種??！

這不光是人品問題，心理學(xué)家說(shuō)，這是一種病。

隨著冬日降臨，陰郁的漫漫霜夜(frosty nights)即將到來(lái)，又有人開始尋找圣誕季情人了。

We are now knee-deep in “cuffing season”, whereby single men and women search far and wide for a companion to keep them warm and sexually satiated during the chilly months.

我們現(xiàn)在都進(jìn)入了“騷動(dòng)季節(jié)”，單身的男人和女人到處尋找伴侶，為了在寒冷的日子里可以相擁取暖，滿足彼此的身體需求。
 

cuffing season /k?f??/ 騷動(dòng)季節(jié)

companion /k?m'pænj?n/ n. 同伴;朋友

satiated /'sei?ieitid/ adj. 充分滿足的

chilly /'t??l?/ adj. 寒冷的;怕冷的

什么是“騷動(dòng)季節(jié)”?

“騷動(dòng)季節(jié)”指的是單身人士在秋冬季渴望得到一段能把自己“拷牢”的認(rèn)真的戀情。

According to Urban Dictionary, the cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.

根據(jù)在線詞典Urban Dictionary，寒冷的天氣和長(zhǎng)時(shí)間的室內(nèi)活動(dòng)讓單身人士感到寂寞，因而渴求被“拷牢”。
 

weather /'weð?/ n. 天氣;氣象

prolonged /pr?'l??d/ adj. 延長(zhǎng)的;持續(xù)很久的

desperate /'desp(?)r?t/ adj. 不顧一切的;極度渴望的

但是，一旦夏日來(lái)臨，這些人又會(huì)拋棄自己的伴侶，重新踏上欲望的旅程。

This pattern is more than a simple by-product of fickle millennial dating culture, it’s a common trend that's been labelled “Seasonal Dating Disorder” (SDD).

這種模式不只是千禧一代輕浮約會(huì)文化的簡(jiǎn)單副產(chǎn)品，而是一種號(hào)稱“季節(jié)性戀愛癥”的普遍現(xiàn)象。

Just like “ghosting” involves no supernatural apparitions; SDD is not a medically-recognised disorder, however, it is no less socially prevalent.

正如ghosting(玩消失)和超自然鬼魂沒有半點(diǎn)關(guān)系，季節(jié)性戀愛癥也不是醫(yī)學(xué)意義上的失調(diào)，但是，這種癥狀在社會(huì)上卻很流行。
 

pattern /'pæt(?)n/ n. 模式;圖案

by-product /'ba?,prαd?kt/ n. 副產(chǎn)品

fickle /'f?k(?)l/ adj. 浮躁的;易變的

millennial /m?'len?rl/ adj. 一千年的;千禧年的

trend /trend/ n. 趨勢(shì)，傾向

label /'le?b(?)l/ v. 標(biāo)注;貼標(biāo)簽于

disorder /d?s'?: d?/ n. 混亂

supernatural /,su: p?'næt?(?)r(?)l/ adj. 超自然的;神奇的

apparition /æp?'r??(?)n/ n. 幽靈;幻影

prevalent /'prev(?)l(?)nt/ adj. 流行的;普遍的

情感心理學(xué)家瑪?shù)铝?middot;梅森(Madeleine Mason)指出，這種戀愛風(fēng)氣在二十幾歲的約會(huì)者當(dāng)中尤為常見。

她說(shuō)：“表現(xiàn)出這種戀愛模式的單身人士無(wú)法做出承諾(are unable to commit)。”

“他們用夏日狂歡和朋友作為這種模式的借口，但事實(shí)上是因?yàn)樗麄儫o(wú)法建立持久的情感紐帶(lasting romantic bonds)。”

"They may have the illusion they can settle down whenever they want to, but they can’t and until they do decide they want a lasting relationship will they realise they are unable to; that’s when I’ll see them in my office," she toldThe Independent.

梅森告訴《獨(dú)立報(bào)》說(shuō)：“他們也許以為無(wú)論何時(shí)，只要自己想安定下來(lái)，隨時(shí)都能做到，但其實(shí)這是種錯(cuò)覺，等到他們終于決定自己想要一段長(zhǎng)久的戀情時(shí)，他們會(huì)意識(shí)到自己做不到;這時(shí)候他們就開始來(lái)我這里就醫(yī)。”
 

illusion /?'l(j)u: ?(?)n/ n. 幻覺，錯(cuò)覺

relationship /r?'le??(?)n??p/ n. 關(guān)系;關(guān)聯(lián)

realise /'r??la?z/ v. 認(rèn)識(shí)到，明白

現(xiàn)年25歲的露辛達(dá)·伯頓·湯姆森坦承自己是“季節(jié)性戀愛癥”患者(a self-confessed SDD sufferer)。

"As the nights draw in and crunchy leaves litter the streets, for some reason I always end up wanting a boyfriend,” she told The Independent.

她告訴《獨(dú)立報(bào)》說(shuō)：“不知道為什么，每當(dāng)夜幕降臨，街道上散落著松脆的枯葉，我總是很想要一個(gè)男朋友。”

“There's something about autumn and winter that makes me want someone with whom to snuggle on the sofa, go ice skating and hold hands on crisp walks.

“秋天和冬天有某種東西，讓我想要一個(gè)可以在沙發(fā)上相互依偎，一起去滑冰，手牽手咯吱咯吱地踩著落葉散步的人。”
 

crunchy /'kr?nt??/ adj. 易碎的;發(fā)嘎吱嘎吱聲的

snuggle /'sn?g(?)l/ v. 偎依;舒服地蜷伏

crisp /kr?sp/ adj. 脆的;新鮮的

“It's great having a boyfriend through the cold months, but by the time spring rolls round I'm nearly always fed up of them, so break things off.

“寒冷的日子里有個(gè)男友感覺很好，但是每當(dāng)春天快來(lái)臨的時(shí)候，我也差不多厭煩他們了，于是就分手了。”

“There's nothing better than being single in summer - long balmy evenings are perfect for casual fun and flings."

“沒有什么比夏日單身更愉快的了——悠長(zhǎng)芬芳的夏夜最適合隨性的尋歡作樂。”
 

balmy /'bα: m?/ adj. 芳香的;溫和的

casual /'kæ?j??l/ adj. 隨便的;非正式的

fling /fl??/ n. 擲，拋;嘲弄

伯頓不是唯一一個(gè)戀愛欲望隨季節(jié)而波動(dòng)的人。

來(lái)自英國(guó)赫特福德郡的24歲女孩薩曼莎·摩爾近十年來(lái)一直都是季節(jié)性約會(huì)者，她承認(rèn)自己從16歲到現(xiàn)在只有一個(gè)圣誕節(jié)是單身的。

“Every autumn, I start looking for a new boyfriend. No one wants to be on their own during winter – it’s depressing,” she told The Sun.

她告訴《太陽(yáng)報(bào)》說(shuō)：“每到秋天，我就開始尋找一個(gè)新男友。誰(shuí)都不想在冬天孤單一人——這太令人抑郁了。”

到了夏天，她坦言自己又做好了單身的準(zhǔn)備，并將自己無(wú)所顧忌的心態(tài)(devil-may-care attitude)歸咎于炎熱的天氣和火辣的社交場(chǎng)面。

來(lái)自英國(guó)北安普敦的25歲女孩西恩·瑞恩也同樣如此。她聲稱如果自己?jiǎn)紊淼脑?，夏?ldquo;就大不相同(wouldn’t be the same)”。

"Lads hold me back," she said.

她說(shuō)：“小伙子們羈絆住了我。”

然而，有些單身人士“騷動(dòng)”是希望找到固定的伴侶。

Laura Ecclestone from Somerset admitted that she finally feels ready to settle down after lifetime of seasonal dating.

來(lái)自薩默塞特的勞拉•埃克爾斯通坦言，經(jīng)歷了這么多年的季節(jié)性約會(huì)，她終于準(zhǔn)備好要安定下來(lái)了。

“As summer fades, I start thinking it would be nice to have a partner to stay in, order a takeaway and watch a film with. I’ve done this for years now,” she said.

她說(shuō)：“隨著夏天過去，我開始考慮，是不是有個(gè)固定伴侶更好?？梢砸黄鸶C在家里，一起叫外賣，一起看電影。我有這個(gè)想法已經(jīng)好幾年了。”

是不是搞不清自己到底是“季節(jié)性戀愛癥”患者，是有一顆騷動(dòng)的心，還是二者皆有?

梅森梳理出了四條癥狀，一起來(lái)看看。

1. You can't bear the thought of being alone over Christmas/New Years and put all efforts in the autumn to find a partner.

你無(wú)法忍受在圣誕節(jié)或新年孤單一人，因此在秋天不遺余力地尋找一個(gè)伴侶。

2. By Valentine's Day (or anywhere from three months of dating) you start to feel bored or trapped within the relationship and start finding excuses to spend less time with your partner.

到情人節(jié)前(或約會(huì)三個(gè)月后)你開始感到厭倦，被這段感情困住，于是開始找借口減少和伴侶在一起的時(shí)間。
 

thought /θ?: t/ n. 思想;想法

Christmas /?kr?sm?s/ n. 圣誕節(jié)

effort /'ef?t/ n. 努力;成就

Valentine's Day /'væl?nta?n/ 情人節(jié)

excuse /?k?skju:s/ n. 借口;理由

3. The idea of being single fills you with relief after some time and you break up or act in ways to make your partner break-up with you.

約會(huì)了一段時(shí)間后，你開始覺得單身更輕松，于是你提出分手，或者故意做一些事，讓對(duì)方和你分手。

4. You have done this at least the past three years.

至少在過去三年里，你都是這么做的。
 

小伙伴們~既然已經(jīng)知道自己的問題在哪，就快出發(fā)尋找那個(gè)能把你鎖住的人了吧!