“鐵閨蜜”還是“塑料花友情”？八種跡象告訴你答案

1. They always seem to be focusing on the negative side of things

他們總是注意事情的消極面

Friends share the ups and downs of their lives with each other. However, friends who are toxic tend to always talk about how everything that is bad without seeing any of the good.

朋友應(yīng)該彼此分享生活中的起起落落，然而，那些“有毒”的朋友總是談?wù)撌挛飰牡囊幻妗?/p>

They tend to ignore all the good which makes you ignore it as well bringing your mood and motivation down.

他們習(xí)慣性的忽略好的方面，也讓你忽略事物好的方面，從而心情低落沒有動(dòng)力。
 

focus /'f??k?s/ v. 使集中;聚焦

negative /'neg?t?v/ adj. 負(fù)的;消極的

toxic /'t?ks?k/ adj. 有毒的;中毒的

ignore /?g'n?: / v. 忽視;不理睬

motivation /m??t?'ve??(?)n/ n. 動(dòng)機(jī);積極性;推動(dòng)
 

2. They never listen to any of your problems

他們從不傾聽你的任何問題

They always call you when something is wrong with them but never seem to have time for you when you have a problem. They expect you to be there for them when something goes wrong but are nowhere to be found when you need help.

他們出現(xiàn)了問題總是來找你，但是到你需要他們的時(shí)候他們卻沒有時(shí)間給你。他們希望當(dāng)發(fā)生一些糟糕的事情時(shí)你在他們旁邊，但是當(dāng)你需要幫助時(shí)卻找不到他們。

Friends who do this leave you feeling more lonely than you realise.

這樣的朋友比你想像的更讓人覺得孤獨(dú)。
 

expect /?k?spekt/ v. 期望;指望

nowhere /'n??hwe?/ adj. 不存在的;毫無結(jié)果的

realise /'r??la?z/ v. 認(rèn)識(shí)到，明白
 

3. They get mad at you easily

他們很容易對(duì)你生氣

It’s perfectly normal to experience friction and have arguments in yourrelationships.

交往中有小摩擦發(fā)生爭(zhēng)吵非常正常。

Toxic friends seem to always get angry with you for the smallest things you do. Any argument that you have always leaves you feeling guilty and apologetic. Friends like this are toxic because they aren’t able to work out problems in a mature way.

“有毒”的朋友似乎很容易因?yàn)槟阕龅囊恍┬∈律鷼?。這些爭(zhēng)吵總是讓你感覺內(nèi)疚和負(fù)罪。像這樣的朋友有害是因?yàn)樗麄儫o法用一個(gè)成熟的方法解決問題。
 

normal /'n?: m(?)l/ adj. 正常的;正規(guī)的

experience /?k?sp??r??ns/ v. 經(jīng)驗(yàn);經(jīng)歷;體驗(yàn)

friction /'fr?k?(?)n/ n. 摩擦;摩擦力

argument /'α: gj?m(?)nt/ n. 論證;論據(jù);爭(zhēng)吵

relationship /r?'le??(?)n??p/ n. 關(guān)系;關(guān)聯(lián)

apologetic /?p?l?'d?et?k/ adj. 道歉的;賠罪的

mature /m?'t???/ adj. 成熟的;充分考慮的
 

4. They aren’t happy for your success

他們不為你的成功開心

People who love you will be happy when they see your happiness. It’s important for friends to be happy for each other and celebrate each other’s good fortune to maintain healthy, supportive relationships.

愛你的人看到你幸福他們也會(huì)開心。朋友為彼此感到開心并能一起慶祝彼此的好運(yùn)是一件很重要的事，幫助建立健康，互相支持的關(guān)系。

Friends who don’t appreciate your success and celebrate with you are friends who are toxic to your life.

不欣賞你的成功而且也不愿意和你一起慶賀的朋友對(duì)你的生活也有害。
 

happiness /'hæp?n?s/ n. 幸福

celebrate /'sel?bre?t/ v. 慶祝;舉行

fortune /'f?: t?u: n/ n. 財(cái)富;命運(yùn);運(yùn)氣

maintain /me?n'te?n/ v. 維持;繼續(xù)

supportive /s?'p?: t?v/ adj. 支持的;支援的

appreciate /?'pri???e?t/ v. 欣賞;感激
 

5. They always want to talk about themselves

他們總是想要談?wù)撟约?/p>

Friends like this always seem to be talking about their accomplishments. They never think to ask about you or your life, and it seems like they don’t really care.

這樣的朋友總是談?wù)撟约旱某删?。他們從不想問你或者你的生活，好像他們也不在乎?/p>

Friends like this are harmful to your life because they leave you feeling like you are unimportant.

這樣的朋友對(duì)你的生活有害，因?yàn)樗麄冏屇愀杏X自己一點(diǎn)也不重要。
 

accomplishment /?'k?mpl??m(?)nt/ n. 成就;完成

unimportant /?n?m'p?: t(?)nt/ adj. 不重要的;瑣碎的
 

6. They don’t care enough to keep in touch

他們不在意維持聯(lián)系

Life is complicated. It’s important to understand that sometimes people can’t always call or talk to you but they are thinking of you.

生活是復(fù)雜的。對(duì)我們來說，知道有人平時(shí)不能打給你或者跟你聊天但是他有關(guān)心你想著你是一件很重要的事。

However, relationships get toxic when the other person isn’t thinking of you and makes no attempt to keep in contact.

但是，當(dāng)他根本不關(guān)心你也沒有想要保持聯(lián)系的時(shí)候，這種關(guān)系是有害的。

You find yourself being the only one reaching out, while they seem uninterested in maintaining the relationship. This is toxic because to have a healthy life you should engage in mutually fulfilling relationships with people who care about you as much as you care about them.

你發(fā)現(xiàn)總是你主動(dòng)，而他們對(duì)維系這段關(guān)系顯得漠不關(guān)心。這樣的關(guān)系是有害的是因?yàn)槟愕纳钚枰】档慕煌P(guān)系，需要雙方投入，需要對(duì)方能像你關(guān)心他一樣關(guān)心你。
 

complicated /'k?mpl?ke?t?d/ adj. 難懂的，復(fù)雜的

attempt /?'tem(p)t/ n. 企圖，試圖

contact /'k?ntækt/ n. 接觸，聯(lián)系

engage /?n'ge?d?/ v. 從事;答應(yīng)，保證

fulfill /ful'fil/ v. 履行;實(shí)現(xiàn);滿足
 

7. They never consider your feelings

他們從不考慮你的感受

Friends who never consider how their actions or words affect you are toxic to be around.

從不考慮他們的行為或語(yǔ)言是不是影響了你的朋友在你身邊是有害的。

They do things to benefit themselves even if it means your feelings are being compromised.

他們做事只考慮自己的利益，即使那意味著你必須妥協(xié)退讓

It’s unhealthy to have people like this in your life because you should surround yourself with people who don’t better themselves at the expense of others.

有這樣的人在你生活中是有害的，因?yàn)槟銘?yīng)該和那些不以犧牲別人的感受來提升自己的人在一起。
 

benefit /'ben?f?t/ v. 有益于，對(duì)…有益

compromise /'k?mpr?ma?z/ v. 妥協(xié);讓步

expense /?k'spens/ n. 損失，代價(jià)
 

8. They pressure you to do things you don’t want to do

他們迫使你做你不想做的事

When you’re around them, they pressure you into doing things you aren’tcomfortable and make you feel like a loser when you don’t do them.

當(dāng)你在他們身邊時(shí)，他們讓你做一些你感覺不舒服的事，而且讓你感覺你不做就是一個(gè)失敗者。
 

pressure /'pre??/ n. 壓力;壓迫v. 迫使;密封

comfortable /?k?mft?bl/ adj. 舒適的，舒服的
 

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