戀愛時(shí)期的五重境界，你在哪一層?

新的研究表明，情侶之間的感情似乎脆弱到根本無法與可怕的七年之癢相提并論。一對(duì) couple之間的戀愛保質(zhì)期通常在兩年左右。

很多情侶最后會(huì)選擇分手。他們當(dāng)中的大多數(shù)沒有意識(shí)到變得有些平淡，只是戀愛關(guān)系中的一個(gè)階段，這是整個(gè)過程的一部分而已，并且這種感覺會(huì)發(fā)生在所有的情侶之間。

The first mistake couples make is believing that when the “infatuated” feeling fades, it’s a sign that the love is fading as well.

情侶們犯的第一個(gè)錯(cuò)誤就是——他們相信當(dāng)“迷戀”的感覺消失時(shí)，愛也在消退。

When it comes to relationships, experts agree there are five distinct stages. Every relationship goes through these stages. The ones that lastsuccessfully make it through all five, but most relationships get stuck and fall apart during stage three.

專家們認(rèn)為戀愛分為五個(gè)不同的階段。每段感情都經(jīng)歷了這些階段。有一些情侶成功地經(jīng)歷了這五個(gè)階段，但是大部分都在第三階段被卡住了。
 

mistake /m?'ste?k/ n. 錯(cuò)誤;誤會(huì);過失

infatuated /?n'fætj?e?t?d/ adj. 入迷的;昏頭昏腦的

fade /fe?d/ v. 褪色;凋謝;逐漸消失

relationship /r?'le??(?)n??p/ n. 關(guān)系;關(guān)聯(lián);一段感情

expert /'eksp?: t/ n. 專家;行家

distinct /d?'st??(k)t/ adj. 明顯的;獨(dú)特的

successfully /s?k'sesf?l?/ adv. 成功地;順利地

stuck /st?k/ adj. 被卡住的;不能動(dòng)的
 

Stage 1: Passion and Romance

第一階段：熱情和浪漫

This is the honeymoon or infatuation stage. It is filled with lots of kisses and touching each other for no particular reason. It is when you are completely taken by your mate and are blind to his or her flaws.

這是所謂的蜜月期或迷戀期。即使沒有什么特別的原因，你也會(huì)不自覺得想要親吻和觸摸你的愛人。你這時(shí)已經(jīng)完全接納了你的愛人，并且對(duì)他/她的缺點(diǎn)視而不見。
 

passion /'pæ??n/ n. 激情;熱情

romance /r?(?)'mæns/ n. 傳奇;浪漫

infatuation /?n,fæt??'e??(?)n/ n. 迷戀;醉心

particular /p??t?kj?l?(r)/ adj. 特別的;詳細(xì)的

flaw /fl?: / n. 瑕疵，缺點(diǎn)
 

Stage 2: Getting Serious

第二階段：開始變得很認(rèn)真

This is still within the infatuation or honeymoon stage. You are still blinded by love but have the clarity to see that this relationship has long-term potential. This is when the relationship becomes exclusive and you begin making long-term plans with your partner.

在這個(gè)階段你們?nèi)耘f會(huì)經(jīng)常手牽手、相互依偎擁抱，或許還會(huì)給對(duì)方一個(gè)可愛的昵稱。你開始和你的伴侶分享更私密的自己。

There is still lots of hand-holding, cuddling, and you give each other meaningful nicknames. You begin to share yourself more intimately with your mate.

這時(shí)的你們?nèi)蕴幵诿墼缕?。你仍然被愛?ldquo;蒙蔽”著，但你能清楚地看到這段關(guān)系的長(zhǎng)期潛力。當(dāng)這段關(guān)系變得獨(dú)一無二的時(shí)候，你開始和你的伴侶開始制定戀愛的“長(zhǎng)期計(jì)劃”。
 

clarity /'klær?t?/ n. 清楚，明晰

potential /p??ten?l/ n. 潛能;可能性

exclusive /?k'sklu: s?v/ adj. 獨(dú)有的;排外的

cuddling /'k?d(?)l/ v. 擁抱;偎依

intimately /??nt?m?tl?/ adv. 熟悉地;親切地
 

Stage 3: Relationship Plateau

第三階段：關(guān)系穩(wěn)定期

Stage three is when the relationship becomes real. The blinders are off and you see your partner for who they really are. Physical touch like hand-holding, kissing and other forms of physical intimacy may be starting to slow down a bit.

第三階段是關(guān)系開始變得真實(shí)的時(shí)候。你不再受愛情“蒙蔽”，你看清了你的TA的“真面目”。身體接觸——比如手牽手、親吻和其他形式的肢體接觸而產(chǎn)生的親密感可能會(huì)開始慢慢下降。

The hardest part about stage three is that you both begin to question the relationship: where is the passion we used to have for each other? is our love fading away? is he/she the one I can be with for a longer time?

第三階段最困難的部分是你們都開始質(zhì)疑這段關(guān)系：我們之間的激情呢?我們的愛消逝了嗎?TA是我能在一起很久的人嗎?
 

plateau /plæ'to/ n. 高原

intimacy /'?nt?m?s?/ n. 親密

Stage 4: Moving Beyond Infatuation

第四階段：走出迷戀

Once you’ve chosen to move past stage three and to stick with the relationship, you develop a deep and intimate bond. This is the time when couples really begin to merge their lives.

一旦你進(jìn)入第三階段，并打算堅(jiān)持這段感情，你們之間就會(huì)形成一種深厚而親密的關(guān)系。這是情侶們真正開始互相融合的時(shí)候。

Serious discussions concerning marriage, kids and finances ensue and plans are made to move the couple forward as a unit.

關(guān)于婚姻、孩子和財(cái)務(wù)的嚴(yán)肅討論隨之而來，將情侶們向前推進(jìn)了一步。
 

merge /m?: d?/ v. 合并;吞沒

finance /fa?'næns/ n. 財(cái)政;金融

ensue /?n'sju: / v. 接著發(fā)生;繼起
 

Stage 5: Becoming a Team

第五階段：兩人成為一個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)

Stage five of the relationship is when the couple becomes a solid team. The relationship moves past “me and you” decision-making and the team becomes more important than the individuals.

情侶關(guān)系的第五階段是當(dāng)這對(duì)情侶開始成為一個(gè)穩(wěn)固的團(tuán)隊(duì)。這種關(guān)系已經(jīng)超越了“我和你”，“團(tuán)隊(duì)”變得比個(gè)人更重要。

It’s when the couple has the best chance of making it to “happily-ever-after.” That’s not to say that there will not be challenges, hardships and bumps in the road. But it does mean that both parties are committed to staying and making the relationship work no matter what.

這是真正的“愛情階段”。這是讓他們“永遠(yuǎn)幸福”的最好機(jī)會(huì)。這并不是說在路上不會(huì)有挑戰(zhàn)、困難和顛簸，但這也意味著，無論如何，雙方都會(huì)努力維持關(guān)系并使之良好運(yùn)轉(zhuǎn)。
 

solid /'s?l?d/ adj. 固體的;結(jié)實(shí)的

individual /??nd??v?d???l/ adj. 個(gè)人的;個(gè)別的;n. 個(gè)人，個(gè)體

challenge /'t?æl?n(d)?/ n. 挑戰(zhàn);懷疑

hardship /'hα: d??p/ n. 困苦;苦難

committed /k?'m?t?d/ adj. 堅(jiān)定的;效忠的

當(dāng)你開始感到幻滅的時(shí)候，你首先要明白的是，感覺并不能長(zhǎng)久地維持一段關(guān)系。感覺是不可靠的，因?yàn)槭芮榫w和外部因素的影響。

為自己的戀情做點(diǎn)什么吧。不要只是想想而已，指望事情會(huì)變得更好。努力使你們的關(guān)系更進(jìn)一步，嘗試一些新事物，做伴侶喜歡做的事情，變得浪漫一些。

小伙伴們~你們的愛情正處在第幾階段呢?