完不成目標(biāo)和計(jì)劃的5種人你是哪一種？

人們沒(méi)有達(dá)成目標(biāo)有許多原因，不過(guò)往下讀，你會(huì)驚奇地發(fā)現(xiàn)，個(gè)人目標(biāo)設(shè)定失敗是有解決辦法的。

Type A: Non-Committal Attitude

A類：態(tài)度不堅(jiān)定

In my experience, the number one reason for failure is that you haven’t really committed to the change in the first place. The age old New Year’s Resolution: “This year I’m going to get fit” will be heard far and wide, but if you really commit to the goal you need to ask yourself how you are going to do it.

根據(jù)我的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，目標(biāo)失敗的首要原因是，從一開(kāi)始你就并沒(méi)有真的下決心去改變。“今年我要減肥” 這條新年決心年年處處都能聽(tīng)到，但是如果你真的決定實(shí)現(xiàn)這個(gè)目標(biāo)，你需要問(wèn)問(wèn)自己該如何去做。

Solution: Clarity is needed to encourage commitment. If you really want to get fit, think it through—decide on the type of exercise you plan to do, and decide what days of the week and at what time you will do it. Having this all decided in advance makes it more difficult to make excuses. Tell people who support you what you intend to do, and even consider finding yourself an accountability buddy who will check up on you and encourage you to keep going.

解決辦法：清晰地制定目標(biāo)，來(lái)激勵(lì)自己完成任務(wù)。如果你真的想減肥，仔細(xì)想想：確定一種你打算去做的鍛煉項(xiàng)目，然后確定一周中的哪幾天、幾點(diǎn)鐘去鍛煉。提前確定這些會(huì)讓你更難為自己找借口。告訴那些支持你的人你的計(jì)劃，甚至可以考慮找一個(gè)值得信賴的朋友督促并鼓勵(lì)你繼續(xù)執(zhí)行下去。

Type B: Aversion to Planning

B類：不愿做計(jì)劃

Many people don’t like to be seen as planners. They see planners as being stifled and boring, and assume that routines and schedules are not for them. I know this because for many years I fought against routine: I was too young and too cool to plan anything; spontaneity was my best friend. What I found many years later was that by planning, I could achieve more—by planning, I could get things done and leave time to be more creative and spontaneous.

許多人不喜歡做計(jì)劃。在他們看來(lái)，有計(jì)劃的人無(wú)趣，而且讓人透不過(guò)氣來(lái)。他們認(rèn)為慣例和時(shí)間表和自己無(wú)關(guān)。我很清楚這一點(diǎn)，因?yàn)槎嗄陙?lái)我也在和慣例作斗爭(zhēng)：我這么年輕這么酷，不用計(jì)劃任何東西;自發(fā)性是我最好的朋友。然而許多年之后我才發(fā)現(xiàn)，通過(guò)制定計(jì)劃，我可以實(shí)現(xiàn)更多——通過(guò)制定計(jì)劃，我可以把事情做完，而且留出時(shí)間，讓自己更有創(chuàng)意做更多想做的事。

Solution: Set a goal and plan out how you are going to achieve it. Start small: if you want to write a book, plan and schedule the first chapter. When you achieve this first milestone, you will see how easy it was to do so and then plan the next chapter. Plan regular small steps in yourcalendar and you will be amazed at how much more you will achieve in life.

解決辦法：設(shè)定一個(gè)目標(biāo)，并計(jì)劃該如何實(shí)現(xiàn)它。從小事開(kāi)始：如果你想寫(xiě)一本書(shū)，先為第一章做好計(jì)劃和時(shí)間安排。當(dāng)你完成第一階段時(shí)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)是如此簡(jiǎn)單，然后繼續(xù)為下一章做計(jì)劃。在你的日程表上為小的步驟做好規(guī)律的計(jì)劃，你會(huì)驚訝地發(fā)現(xiàn)在你的生活中可以實(shí)現(xiàn)更多目標(biāo)。

Type C: Non-Believer

C類：不相信自己

Most of you will be familiar with the Henry Ford quote “If you think you can or think you can’t you are probably right.” This holds true with goals: if you set a goal and deep down don’t believe you can actually achieve it, don’t waste your time.

大部分人應(yīng)該都熟悉亨利-福特的這句名言：“如果你認(rèn)為你行，你就真的行;如果你認(rèn)為你不行，你就真的不行。” 在設(shè)定目標(biāo)上也是如此：如果你設(shè)定了一個(gè)目標(biāo)，而打心底里你不相信你可以實(shí)現(xiàn)它，那就別浪費(fèi)時(shí)間了。

Solution: Only set goals you believe you can achieve. What can you do if you don’t believe in your own power to achieve any of your goals? Positive affirmations can help you to achieve your goals, so try to make all your thoughts positive and supportive. Monitor your thoughts, when they are negative try and replace them with a positive one.

解決辦法：只制定你相信自己可以實(shí)現(xiàn)的目標(biāo)。如果你不相信能憑自己的努力實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)，那你還能做什么呢?積極的肯定可以幫助你實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)，所以盡量讓你的想法積極樂(lè)觀。關(guān)注你的想法，當(dāng)出現(xiàn)負(fù)面想法時(shí)，試著用積極的想法來(lái)取代它們。

Type D: Easily Led

D類：容易受他人影響

Then there are those who look to others for affirmation, but instead they get discouragement. “Don’t go for a run—come for a beer instead, it’s way more fun.” Well, it’s more fun for your friend, who won’t feel guilty that they are not exercising when you are. So many peopleunwittingly try to sabotage your success, and they often do so because if you improve, they’ll be forced to focus on their own stagnation. They will try to drag you back to their level at everyopportunity.

還有一些人喜歡從別人那里尋求肯定，但卻總是被打擊。“別去跑步了，來(lái)喝杯啤酒吧，這更有趣。” 好吧，對(duì)于你的朋友來(lái)說(shuō)這更有趣，他們并不會(huì)因?yàn)槟阍阱憻挄r(shí)他們沒(méi)有而感到內(nèi)疚。所以許多人不經(jīng)意中試圖阻撓你的成功，他們這樣做是因?yàn)槿绻氵M(jìn)步了，他們就不得不面對(duì)自己的止步不前。所以他們要利用每一次機(jī)會(huì)試圖將你拉到和他們一樣的水平。

Solution: Hang out with people who support you. If that’s not possible, if you have a sibling orspouse who discourages your goals and dreams, start to recognize when it happens and remain committed to your goal. When you start to recognize that other people are preventing you from living your life, you will stop allowing it to happen.

解決辦法：和支持你的人在一起。如果做不到這一點(diǎn)，如果你有一個(gè)朋友或伴侶總是打擊你的目標(biāo)和夢(mèng)想，你要意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)，并繼續(xù)保持對(duì)目標(biāo)的決心。當(dāng)你開(kāi)始意識(shí)到其他人在阻止你活出自己的人生時(shí)，你將不會(huì)允許它發(fā)生。

Type E: All or Nothing

E類：急于求成或一事無(wú)成

I’ve met many of the “all or nothing” type in my time—they want it all, and they want it now. If it won’t happen tomorrow there is no point in doing it !

我遇到過(guò)很多這種類型的人——他們想要實(shí)現(xiàn)一切，而且想要立即實(shí)現(xiàn)。如果明天沒(méi)有夢(mèng)想成真，就沒(méi)有意義去做了!

Solution: Reality check—nothing happens immediately. Learn to set smaller goals that give you more instant gratification along with your larger goals, so you can have the best of both worlds.

解決辦法：現(xiàn)實(shí)一些——沒(méi)有什么會(huì)馬上發(fā)生。在制定較大目標(biāo)的同時(shí)，學(xué)會(huì)制定一些能讓你很快獲得滿足感的較小目標(biāo)，這樣就可以兩全其美了。

Awareness is the key factor when it comes to making changes. By understanding yourself and your excuses you will be better able to make decisions which will serve you and get you a step closer to achieving your goals this year.

你想尋求改變時(shí)，意識(shí)是關(guān)鍵因素。通過(guò)了解你和你的借口，你會(huì)更好地做出適合自己，并讓你離今年的目標(biāo)更進(jìn)一步的決定。