如果害怕失敗，問(wèn)問(wèn)自己這6個(gè)問(wèn)題

萬(wàn)一不成功--我要怎么做才能重振旗鼓?

Failure is inevitable if you take a multitude of risks. Think about learning to ride a skateboard. The first time you get on the board you are a bit wobbly. In fact, you will probably wipe out more times than you can keep count, but eventually you will get the hang of it and be riding around with ease. The thing about falling is that you have to know how. You roll with it instead of letting yourself crash flat onto the pavement and you start to get back on the board not letting fear get hold of you. When you are taking a risk you plan for a failure and how you will negotiate your way back into the game.

在眾多的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)面前，失敗是不可避免的。想想學(xué)滑板的過(guò)程吧，第一次踏上滑板時(shí)，你不能掌握重心。實(shí)際上，在你掌握重心之前你肯定會(huì)失敗很多次，但是，最后你總會(huì)掌握竅門(mén)，最終運(yùn)用自如。關(guān)于失敗，你得明白要怎么去做。是你在控制著滑板，而不是讓滑板帶著你滑到人行道上去，你開(kāi)始學(xué)著戰(zhàn)勝自己的恐懼、找到滑滑板的訣竅。當(dāng)你的計(jì)劃有失敗的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)時(shí)，你將如何自處，如何掌握全局。

2. What If I Succeed?

要是我成功了呢?

Success is often the real reason people don’t take risks. We are afraid of our own power, abilities, and strengths and how that will rock the boat in our current lives. What we are afraid of isn’t our success, but the unknown. Your success will bring about new and exciting challenges that you can’t possibly predict.

成功往往是在人們認(rèn)為那個(gè)風(fēng)險(xiǎn)是自己無(wú)法承受的時(shí)候就來(lái)到了。我們不相信自己的力量、自己的能力、自己的優(yōu)勢(shì)，也害怕那些風(fēng)險(xiǎn)會(huì)完全的改變我們目前的生活。我們害怕的不是成功，而是對(duì)未來(lái)的未知性。成功會(huì)帶來(lái)你無(wú)法預(yù)知的全新挑戰(zhàn)

“We fear things in proportion to our ignorance of them.” Christian Nestell Bovee

“我們會(huì)害怕很大程度上是由于我們的無(wú)知。”---Christian Nestell Bovee

3. What’s Truly Worth Doing?

真的值得那樣做嗎?

Options! That is often what stops us from taking a risk – too many good things in life to do! You have to just choose something and move forward. You can make a list of the pros and cons of each idea, but eventually you have to choose and not regret the decision that you made. Taking a risk is better then being in the forever pattern of wondering what to do.

又是一道選擇題。選擇經(jīng)常讓我們放棄了冒險(xiǎn)的機(jī)會(huì)---生活中很多美好的事都沒(méi)法去嘗試。你只能做出選擇，然后在你所選擇的這條路上前行。針對(duì)每個(gè)意見(jiàn)你可以將各自的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)列出來(lái)，但是到最后，你還是得做出你的選擇，并且不要為自己做出的決定感到后悔。抓住機(jī)遇才是更好的選擇，然后就在一直思考要怎么做的過(guò)程中讓自己不斷前行。

4. What Went Right In This Failure?

這次失敗后要怎么補(bǔ)救?

Since failure in life is inevitable, if we do anything, it is important to reflect on what went right. Those are the things that you will keep when you take your next risk. Just like when you got on that skateboard and fell off, you quickly figured out what was working while you were riding down the path and you refine that over and over letting what didn’t work go. That refinement and reflection prepares you for your next leap!

生活中，不管做什么事，失敗往往都無(wú)法避免，反思下次要怎么做才是正確的就顯得尤為重要了。當(dāng)你下次在遇到這種問(wèn)題的時(shí)候，這些經(jīng)過(guò)反思得出的東西就能讓你避免做出一些不恰當(dāng)?shù)男袆?dòng)。就像你在學(xué)滑板摔倒時(shí)那樣，只有當(dāng)你摔倒了，你才能很快明白要怎么做才會(huì)做的更好，在一次又一次的摔倒之后你就會(huì)知道哪些事是不應(yīng)該那樣做的。為你下次的進(jìn)步多準(zhǔn)備一些這樣的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。

5. What If I Didn’t Care What People Thought?

要是我不在乎別人的想法呢?

Thinking about what your parents, friends and family think is often what keeps us back from taking a risk on something we are passionate about. If your risk doesn’t impact them financially or their security it doesn’t matter what they think. People often don’t move forward because they are afraid someone is going to make fun of them or think they are crazy or stupid. Don’t stop yourself from living your dreams because of someone else’s opinion. At the end of your life you don’t want to regret doing what you really wanted to do.

想想那些一直支持我們做自己喜歡的事情的父母、朋友、家人。要是你的決定不會(huì)影響到你的經(jīng)濟(jì)，也無(wú)關(guān)乎安全問(wèn)題，那就不要在意別人的想法。人們停滯不前的原因就是害怕被別人嘲笑，害怕被別人當(dāng)做傻子、蠢蛋。不要因?yàn)閯e人的看法而停下追尋夢(mèng)想的腳步。在生命的最后，你才不會(huì)因?yàn)闆](méi)有做到自己想做的事情而覺(jué)得后悔。

6. What If I Don’t Have All The Answers?

對(duì)于這些問(wèn)題，要是我都沒(méi)有答案呢?

You never will. It is that simple. You can prepare, plan and scope out your future with as much caution as you like, but you are not ultimately in control of everything. Life happens and it is so much better when you throw a little caution to the wind and ride with it!

你絕不會(huì)那樣的!這些問(wèn)題都很簡(jiǎn)單。盡管你不可能完全控制你未來(lái)生活的發(fā)生發(fā)展，但你可以準(zhǔn)備好、計(jì)劃好、只要你想，你也還可以仔仔細(xì)細(xì)的構(gòu)思屬于你的未來(lái)。只要你小心翼翼地御風(fēng)飛翔，生活總是能朝著好的方向發(fā)展的。