15條“箴言”，會毀掉你的生活！

1.成功只有唯一的定義。

And it involves an established career, large house, acceptable body shape, marriage and annual holidays。

這里所謂的成功包括事業(yè)有成、大房子、好身材、美滿的婚姻以及充足的年假。

Everyone has their own path to walk in this life, and what brings true meaning and deep fulfillment differs for all of us。

每個人都有自己的人生路要走，我們每個人對什么是能給我們帶來真正意義和深刻滿足感的看法都不一致。

Let go of your need to fit to the status quo. Live, work, date, play, create, travel, eat, drink, move, laugh and sing in ways that feel right with your soul. That is true success。

擺脫迎合現(xiàn)狀的需要吧。生活、工作、約會、娛樂、創(chuàng)造、旅行、吃、喝、跑、歡笑還有唱歌，做任何與你的心靈相契合的事。那才是真正的成功。

2. Life is meant to be hard work。

2.生活，就是要努力工作

Life is meant to be easy, beautiful and overflowing with moments of joy and bliss。

生活應(yīng)該是舒適、美好而又充滿著快樂和幸福的。

The more you listen to your soul and build a life that's true to you, the more your actions will feel completely natural and effortless。

你越多的傾聽你心靈的聲音，創(chuàng)造一個忠實(shí)于己的生活，你的行動就會越多的感到自然和輕松。

If life is a constant struggle, you're running on empty and you dread Mondays, it's time to take an honest look at your life -- in a loving way。

如果你感到生活就像一個曠日持久的戰(zhàn)爭，讓你覺得空虛，害怕工作日，那么是時(shí)候以一種充滿愛的方式誠實(shí)的審視你的生活了。

3. Life happens to us。

3.生活是個偶然

Where you are now is a result of the choices you made in the past. Where you will be in the future is a result of the choices you are making right now。

你過去所做的選擇決定了你現(xiàn)在在哪里，而你現(xiàn)在所做的選擇又會決定你將來會去哪里。

You are an active participant in the creation of your life. So embrace your power as a creator, and start choosing thoughts, words and actions that make a positive impact and will come back to you in a million magnificent, beautiful, jaw-dropping ways。

你是你生活的積極參與者。所以發(fā)揮作為創(chuàng)造者的權(quán)力，并且開始選擇那些對你的生活產(chǎn)生積極影響的思想、言論和行動。這些思想、言論、行動會以無數(shù)宏偉、美麗、令人瞠目結(jié)舌的方式回到你身邊。

4. There is such a thing as normal, and we should measure ourselves against it。

4.一切皆有標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，我們應(yīng)該對照它來審視自己

There is no such thing as a normal human, but there is such a thing as a "normal" you -- where you're completely yourself, you love yourself deeply and you think and act in ways that feel aligned with your soul。

世間沒有任何“標(biāo)準(zhǔn)的人”，但卻有一個“標(biāo)準(zhǔn)的你”。這樣的你，完完全全是你自己。你深愛著自己，你依自己的心靈來思考、行動。

Let your internal compass be your only point of reference。

讓你心中的羅盤成為你唯一的參考指南。

5. There is an "us" and a "them."

5.除了家里人都是外人。

We draw a line around our social and family circles, keeping out everyone who doesn't fit neatly within our definition of normal, interesting or worthwhile。

我們把社會和家庭劃一界限，將那些與我們對規(guī)范、興趣或價(jià)值定義不同的人擋在外面。

While everyone has vastly different aptitudes, passions and quirks, everyone also has the same light within them. The light within you is the same light within me, within the stranger on the bus, and within anyone you consider your enemy。

然而每個人都有截然不同的資質(zhì)、興趣和怪癖，每個人也都有與其他人相同的地方。你的想法可以與我的相同，與公共汽車上的陌生人相同甚至可以與你眼中的敵人相同。

6. We have to compete for limited resources。

6.我們必須爭奪有限的資源。

Life is meant to be abundant and limitless. We create scarcity by believing in it, instead of focusing our efforts on creating, giving and contributing our gift to help humankind reach its highest potential。

生活應(yīng)該是富有和無限的。稀缺只是我們想象出來的，我們應(yīng)該把精力用于創(chuàng)造、給予，將我們的天賦用于挖掘人類最高潛力上。

Relax and feel it deep within your heart that you will always be provided for。

放輕松，感受你內(nèi)心深處的力量，你將永遠(yuǎn)不感到匱乏。

7. Happiness comes from external things。

7.幸福來源于外物。

We pin our happiness on external things like our appearance, bank balance, job title, travel plans, possessions and the opinions of others -- and then suffer as a result。

我們將幸福栓在外物，如外表、銀行存款、職稱、旅行計(jì)劃、財(cái)產(chǎn)以及他人的意見，然后心情因此而受到影響。

True, sustainable happiness comes from within -- by cultivating a mindset based on gratitude, mindfulness and acceptance。

真正可持續(xù)的幸福來源于培養(yǎng)一個基于感恩、正念以及接受的心態(tài)。

8. Holding grudges is a natural part of life.

8.怨恨是生活很自然的一部分。

When we feel that someone has "wronged" us, we cling to the memory and carry it around with us for weeks or sometimes years. What we fail to realize is that we are holding ourselves hostage, not just the perceived wrong-doer。

當(dāng)我們感到別人冤枉我們的時(shí)候，我們一直糾結(jié)著這件事，讓它幾周甚至幾年的影響著我們。但我們沒有意識到的是，我們成了自己的人質(zhì)，而不僅僅是被冤枉者。

The Buddha once said, "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

佛陀曾經(jīng)說過，“無法釋懷的憤怒就像抓著一把火燙的正打算扔到別人身上的煤炭;而你就是那個要被燒傷的人。”

Make forgiveness your new motto and see how much freer and lighter your soul feels。

把寬恕當(dāng)作你的新格言，你會感覺自己的心靈輕松自由很多。

9. There is something wrong with us。

9.我們自己有問題

We are plagued by feelings of inadequateness and worthlessness, postponing self-acceptance and self-love until a day in the future when we're thinner, wealthier, more confident and more popular。

我們被一種不適當(dāng)、一無是處的感覺所折磨。我們遲遲不愿自我接納和愛自己，直到未來有一天變得更瘦、更富有、更自信和更受歡迎。

You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete. As the Buddhist saying goes, "We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work."

現(xiàn)在的你就是完美和完整的。甚至當(dāng)你努力自我提升和成長時(shí)，你也是完整的。就像佛教有云，“我們都是完美的，但我們都可以稍稍努力讓自己更好。”

10. It matters what other people think of us。

10.別人對我們的看法很重要

We give away so much of our energy, power and inner peace by worrying about what others think of us。

為別人的看法而擔(dān)憂讓我們失掉了太多的精力、能量和內(nèi)心的平靜。

The truth is we can't ever know for certain what other people are thinking about us. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt and fear, remember it's a fictional story。

而事實(shí)是我們無法確知他人是如何看待我們的。因此，當(dāng)你的內(nèi)心被懷疑和恐懼侵占時(shí)，記住你的想法只是一個虛構(gòu)的故事。

11. We see things how they really are。

11.我們看到事物真實(shí)的模樣

How we experience the world is heavily influenced by our beliefs and past experiences。

我們的信仰和過去的經(jīng)歷深深的影響我們對世界的感受。

Our subconscious mind chooses pieces of information to serve to our conscious mind based on what we've programmed it to look for. Identify your dominant beliefs and replace the ones that aren't serving you。

我們的潛意識會選擇一些信息片段來為我們的意識心理服務(wù)。這個意識心理是基于我們的設(shè)定來尋找的。找出你的主導(dǎo)信念，并把那些無用的信念替換掉。

12. Meditation is something people do on a cushion at sunrise。

12.在日出時(shí)坐在墊子上才叫冥想

You can meditate and be mindful all throughout the day as you go about your life。

你從早到晚都可以冥想，你可以一邊進(jìn)行你的日常生活一邊冥想。

Pause and feel the weight of your body in your seat, the feeling of the fabric against your skin, and the slight sensation of the air on your face。

停下來，感受你身體的重量，感受面料和你的肌膚相觸碰，還有空氣在你臉上輕拂的細(xì)微體驗(yàn)。

Take a few deep breaths and let your whole being relax. Scan your body up and down for sensations, simply observing, without making any judgments。

深呼吸幾下，讓整個身心放松下來。掃視全身上下讓你產(chǎn)生快感的地方，只簡單的觀察，不做任何的判斷。

13. When we give something, we lose something。

13.我們在給予的同時(shí)也就失去了一些東西

Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached -- whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time -- you are nourished as well as the receiver。

給予和接受是一體的真理。當(dāng)你給別人一些東西而不帶任何附加條件時(shí)，不管這是一份禮物、一句奉承還是一段時(shí)間，你和接受者一樣都會感到充盈、滋養(yǎng)。

Not only do you experience sensations of satisfaction and joy, but your karma will bring more blessings and gifts back into your life。

你不僅僅會體驗(yàn)到一種滿足感和喜悅感，而且你的人緣會回饋給你更多的幸福和禮物。

14. We have to logically figure everything out。

14.我們必須理性的解決每一件事

We've been taught to trust our minds but not our intuition or inner voice of guidance。

我們被教導(dǎo)要相信自己的思想而不是相信直覺或內(nèi)心聲音的指導(dǎo)。

When you're grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you -- often in the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous "aha!" moment。

當(dāng)你被一個問題糾纏或者感到目標(biāo)模糊時(shí)，要學(xué)會依賴你的心靈和相信你的智慧。這智慧通常是一種直覺，一個偶然的指示， 或者一個本能“啊哈”的時(shí)刻。

15. We need to be more realistic。

15.我們需要更加實(shí)際

Many people think that daily happiness and joy is an unrealistic goal, and we should be more realistic。

大多數(shù)人覺得每天的幸福和喜悅是不現(xiàn)實(shí)的，所以我們應(yīng)該要更加實(shí)際一些。

Happiness is THE ultimate goal of our lives, and it is both worthwhile and attainable。

幸福是我們生活的終極目標(biāo)，它值得且可實(shí)現(xiàn)。

Understand your purpose is to blossom into the highest, happiest version of you and let go of any guilt you feel for making your happiness a priority。

你要知道，你的目標(biāo)應(yīng)該是變成最幸福的自己，丟掉一切的罪惡感，把你的幸福置于第一位。