他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡你 第90期:不喜歡身體接觸的男友

The "Maybe It's Just His Little Quirk" Excuse

“這也許只是他的小怪癖”的借口

Dear Greg, I met a guy who's really sensitive andsweet.

親愛的格雷格：我遇到的那個人非常機(jī)敏和暖心。

The problem is, he doesn't like to be physicallyaffectionate.

問題就是他不喜歡親密的身體接觸。

He tells me that he just doesn't enjoy beingtouched.

他對我說他就是不喜歡被撫摸。

We have sex, and it's nice, but he's not that into caressing me, either.

我們發(fā)生過關(guān)系，感覺不錯，但是他還是不喜歡撫摸我。

Everything else about him is great, so it seems like such a strange complaint.

他的其它各個方面都不錯，所以這看起來是一個很奇怪的抱怨。

Do you think not wanting to cuddle and be touched is a sign that he's just not that into me?

你認(rèn)為不想擁抱，不想被撫摸是他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡我的信號?

Or could it mean he has intimacy issues?

或者這意味著他有性行為問題?

I don't want to dump him over this, but I like physical affection!

我不想因?yàn)檫@個甩掉他，但是我喜歡身體的愛撫。

Sign: Frida

弗里達(dá)

Dear Starved for Affection, I have to say, little suspicious of someone who doesn't like one ofthe greatest pleasures on earth.

親愛的渴望情感的人：我得說，不去懷疑別人不喜歡的東西是這世上最大的樂趣了。

What else does he not like that you don't know about yet? Puppies? Babies? Having a soul?

還有別的他不喜歡的，但是你又不知道的嗎?比如：寵物?孩子?心靈交流?

And if you like being affectionate for all the obvious reasons, then why would you want todoom yourself to a no-touching zone with Mr. Uncomfortable?

既然由于一些明顯的原因，你喜歡柔情，那么你為什么要和不舒服先生忍受非接觸區(qū)。

Yes, some men have a hard time being physically affectionate, but actually not enjoying it?

沒錯，有一些男人很難進(jìn)行身體上的接觸，但是真的不喜歡嗎?

It's difficult to fathom.

這很難理解。

He may be really into you, but he's certainly not really compatible with you.

他或許真的喜歡你，但是真的確實(shí)不是很適合你。

I say move on, meet someone who enjoys the things you like, and have a long life filled withplayful grab-ass.

離開，去見那些喜歡你所喜歡的事的人，讓漫漫人生充滿好玩的性生活。

You will meet people who don't like to be touched, or kissed, or who don't like sex.

你會遇到一些不喜歡被撫摸，接吻或者不喜歡性的人。

You can spend a lo of time trying to fix them, or wondering if you should take it personally.

你要花好多功夫試著修補(bǔ)它們，你或者在想是否應(yīng)該不要太介意。

Or you can realize that they simply don't like to do the things you find absolutely essential toyour enjoyment of life, and then go find yourself someone who does.

或者你會意識到那些你發(fā)現(xiàn)對你生活樂趣絕對重要的事情，他們就是不喜歡做，那么去找那些喜歡這些事的人吧。