他其實沒那么喜歡你 第30期:害怕親密關(guān)系只是男人的托詞

This is What It Should Look Like, by Greg

這就是本該的樣子，格雷格

My friend Mike liked my friend Laura. After bandpractice he asked her out and now they're married.

我的朋友麥克和勞拉。在樂隊排練之后，他約她出去，現(xiàn)在他們結(jié)婚了。

My friend Russell met this girl Amy and they datedand got married.

我的朋友拉塞爾遇見了一個叫艾米的女孩，他們約會并結(jié)婚了。

My friend Jeff met a girl out of town and went andvisited her the next weekend and never stopped visiting her until he moved in with her.

我的朋友杰夫在另一個城市遇見了一個女孩，他第二個周末去見她，而且直到搬去她那里住之前從不停止去見她。

It's really that simple. It's almost always that simple.

真的就是那么簡單。大多都是這么容易。

Greg, I Get It! by Corinna, Age 35

格雷格，我知道了!科琳娜，35歲

I was dating a guy for a couple of months when it suddenly dawned on me that he didn't seemparticularly excited about me.

我和一個人約會了幾個月，突然間發(fā)現(xiàn)他不再對我感興趣了。

 

In the past, that would have made me try harder, make excuses for it, and even confront himwith it.

在過去，那會讓我試著更努力，為此找借口，或者甚至跟他對峙。

Instead I did a little experiment. I assumed he just wasn't that into me and I stopped callinghim.

相反我做了一個小實驗，我假設(shè)他只是沒那么喜歡我，然后不給他打電話。

As I suspected, he never called me again!

像我懷疑的那樣，他再也沒有給我打電話了。

I can't believe how much time I saved just by recognizing that I was the one doing all the work,and that I wanted more!

我無法相信認清楚我才是那個包攬了一切的事實給我節(jié)省了多少時間，而且我想要更多。

IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE GREG

如果你不相信格雷格

100% of guys polled said "a fear of intimacy" has never stopped them from getting into arelationship.

百分之百參與調(diào)查的男人說“害怕親密關(guān)系”不會阻止他們陷入一段戀情。

One guy even remarked, "Fear of intimacy is an urban myth."

一個人甚至說，“害怕親密關(guān)系”是一個都市神話。

Another guy said, "That's just what we say to girls when we're just not that into them."

另一個男人說，“那只是我們對不太喜歡的女孩說的推脫之詞。”