他其實沒那么喜歡你 第9期:也許他想慢慢來

The "Maybe He Wants to Take It Slow" Excuse

“也許他是想慢慢來”的借口

Dear Greg,

親愛的格雷格，

There's this guy who calls me all the time. He's recentlydivorced, and in AA.

有一個男人老打電話給我。他剛剛離婚，在戒酒協(xié)會戒酒。

We got back in touch recently, had lots of phone calls,and then hung out twice in one week and it was realcool.

最近我們經(jīng)常聯(lián)系，打了很多電話，一個星期出去玩兩次，真的很棒。

No flirting or making out or anything, but fun.

沒有調(diào)情做愛啥的，但是玩的很開心。

Since then, he calls me all the time but doesn't ever suggest we see each other in person again.

然后從那時起，他依然老給我打電話，但再也不提親自見面了。

It's like he got scared or something.

他好像在害怕什么。

I would understand if because of the divorce/alcoholic/starting-a-whole- new-life stuff he wantedto take things slow.

如果是因為離婚、嗜酒、開始新生活之類的事情讓他想慢慢來，我可以理解。

But he still calls me all the time to have long heart- to-heart talks.

但他依然老給我打電話進行交心的談話。

What the hell should I do with this guy?

我該拿這家伙怎么辦?

Signed Jen

珍來信

Dear Pillow Talk,

親愛的枕邊細語，

Sadly, not wanting to see you in person is massive as far as dating obstacles go.

遺憾的是，約會最大的障礙就是我不想見到你本人了。

And as far as the recently divorced/newly sober/starting-a- new-life parts, blah blah blah, I'mgetting sleepy, it's hot, I'm going down for a nap.

只要最近的離婚、戒酒、開始新生活的部分，吧啦吧啦，我聽著都打瞌睡，天氣熱了，我去小睡一會兒。

When I wake up from that nap I'll probably thrill to the news that your friend is taking control of hislife.

我午睡醒來后會興奮的告訴你，你的朋友掌控著自己的生活。

You, however, will still not be going on a date, because despite all of your excuses for him, he's stillnot asking you out.

然而，你依然不會有約會，因為盡管你為他找遍所有的借口，他仍然不會約你出去。

Now, if you're a person who enjoys a slightly satisfying phone relationship, talk on!

現(xiàn)在，如果你滿足于電話聯(lián)系些許的愉悅，那你繼續(xù)吧!

But at this point it seems like he's just not that into you.

不過由此看來他并沒有那么喜歡你。

Be his friend if you're at all interested on that level, but move your romantic inclinations onto amore suitable future husband.

如果你有興趣的話，至多成為他的朋友，但請把你的浪漫傾向移到更適合你的未來丈夫身上吧。

Hugs from here, Greg

來自格雷格的擁抱

If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you knowthat immediately.

如果一個男人真的喜歡你，但因個人原因他需要慢慢來，他會立刻告訴你的。

He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and goaway.

他不會讓你猜，因為他想要確保你不會挫敗離開。