Quora精選：一個人吃飯會難過嗎？

Why do I feel sad when I see people eating alone?為什么我看到有人單獨吃飯的時候會覺得難過？

 

獲得916好評的答案@John Burgess

Because you're projecting how you would feel if eating alone... sad.因為你在設想如果你一個人吃飯會有什么感覺······就是難過。Your feeling, however, may not be at all in accord with what the lone diner is feeling. Introverts in particular are quite happy eating by themselves. In fact, certain kinds of company can spoil the whole occasion.但是，你的感覺可能與那位獨食者的感覺完全不一樣。尤其是性格內向的人，很喜歡一個人吃飯。實際上，某些同伴們反而會破壞整個氛圍。

 

獲得15好評的答案@Paul Zink

Most likely because you view dining as a social activity. That's fine, but for many — including me — it's an experience whose value lies primarily in the enjoyment of quality food, good service and the gracious ambiance of a good restaurant. I've dined alone in fine restaurants for decades with great satisfaction and no need or desire for company, which can often be a distraction from leisurely enjoyment of the dining experience.大概是因為你把吃飯看作是一種社交活動。這沒什么，但是對很多人來說（包括我），吃飯這種經(jīng)歷的價值主要是在于享受美味的食物、優(yōu)質的服務以及優(yōu)質餐廳里的美好氛圍。幾十年來我一直在一家很棒的餐館一個人吃飯，對此非常滿意，不需要、也不希望有人陪我，這只會讓我從愉快的用餐享受中分心。

 

獲得9好評的答案@John Stockwell

You are telling yourself a story as to why the person is eating alone. You are mind reading, or attempting to guess the situation of a person you know nothing about.你給自己講了個那人為什么單獨吃飯的故事，你在猜測他的心理，或者嘗試去猜測那個人的處境，盡管你對他一無所知。That person might just want to have a bit of peace and quiet while eating. They need not be the social outcasts that you think they are.那個人也許想在吃飯的時候享受片刻安寧，他們并不是你以為的那種社交的棄兒。Or perhaps it is you who have the problem? Maybe you are afraid to be alone? Maybe you grew up with a lot of siblings and have been surrounded with family members and were taught that you have to have people around you all of the time? Maybe you are afraid of what you will hear in your mind, when the sounds of the world shut off, and you are left with only yourself for company?或者有可能是你自己有這種問題？也許你很害怕獨處？也許你有很多兄弟姐妹一起長大，一直以來都和家人在一起，也被教育說你應該一直和別人在一起？也許你害怕聽到和整個世界隔絕開來并且只有自己一個人時你內心的聲音？

 

(來源:滬江)