Quora精選：20多歲了，你該學(xué)會(huì)什么？

Q: What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their twenties?

問(wèn)：在20多歲應(yīng)該學(xué)會(huì)的東西中，你認(rèn)為哪些最為吃力？

Answered by Arjuna Perkins

Arjuna Perkins的回復(fù)：

Here are some of the things my 20's have taught me.

以下是我20多歲時(shí)學(xué)會(huì)的一些東西：

1. Humility. This is the decade of failure. And that's ok - it's probably the first time in your life you've had to contend with most of the things you're taking on. Supporting yourself, managing your time / stress / relationships, figuring out what role you want work / study / spirituality / etc. to play in your life. Very few get through their 20's without some serious soul searching and questioning of fundamental beliefs and habits... And I don't envy those who do. This is the best time in your life to be making mistakes. It gets steadily less socially acceptable as you progress in age, so go crazy!

1.謙虛恭謹(jǐn)。這是充滿挫折的十年，不過(guò)不要緊，這可能是你人生中首次必須自己一人應(yīng)對(duì)大部分事情。你要養(yǎng)活自己，規(guī)劃好時(shí)間，平衡各種壓力，處理人際關(guān)系，還得弄清楚你希望工作、學(xué)業(yè)、精神信仰等等在你的人生中占有的份量。很少有人在其20多歲時(shí)未曾經(jīng)歷過(guò)深刻的自我反省，對(duì)自己的基本信仰與行為習(xí)慣產(chǎn)生質(zhì)疑……就算有這樣的人，我也不嫉妒他們。這是你人生中去犯錯(cuò)的最佳時(shí)機(jī)。隨著年齡的增長(zhǎng)，社會(huì)對(duì)你犯錯(cuò)的包容度會(huì)越來(lái)越小。所以，盡情的去瘋吧！

2. Honesty. You don't get away with anything. Anything. If you're full of it, people will see that, no matter how vainly you struggle to hide it. The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be. That ugly person you may think you are inside is actually going to be the most compelling, most interesting, most powerful manifestation of yourself.

2.坦誠(chéng)處世。你無(wú)法在任何事上蒙混過(guò)關(guān)。沒(méi)錯(cuò)，任何事情！無(wú)論你多么枉費(fèi)心機(jī)去掩飾，人們都會(huì)看出你表里不一的地方。而這樣的事情終會(huì)帶來(lái)不良的影響，所以你越早坦誠(chéng)面對(duì)自己和整個(gè)世界，就能越早開(kāi)始著手于你想要什么，以及你想成為什么樣的人。這樣你內(nèi)心一時(shí)所厭惡的這個(gè)你，卻將成為一個(gè)最叫人信服、最令人感興趣且最有力的你自己。

3. Health. You also don't get away with self-abuse. Just because you can stay up all night drinking doesn't mean it's not taking its toll on your body. You get a bit older, and you start to meet people in their 30s, 40s, 50s who kept up that lifestyle, and believe me, you don't want to be one of them. Have your fun, but remember: they call it excess for a reason. Eat well (whatever that means to you), get exercise, get enough sleep, and try to have a steady sex life if you possibly can.

3.保持健康。放縱終會(huì)帶來(lái)惡果。僅僅因?yàn)槟阌芯νㄏ幻唢嬀谱鳂?lè)，并不意味著這些沒(méi)有在侵害你的健康。當(dāng)你再添幾歲，碰見(jiàn)30，40，50多的人仍繼續(xù)著這樣的生活，相信我，你不會(huì)想變的和他們一樣。你可以享受人生，但要記得：這些行為之所以會(huì)被冠以“過(guò)度”一詞，自然是有原因的。要健康飲食（無(wú)論它對(duì)你意味著什么），堅(jiān)持鍛煉，保持充足睡眠和，如果可以的話，規(guī)律的性生活。

4. Having said that, pay close attention to who you find yourself attracted to. They will tell you more about yourself than almost anything else.

4.話又說(shuō)回來(lái)，還要記得多注意哪些人吸引你，他們會(huì)讓你更加清晰地認(rèn)識(shí)自己是什么樣子的。

5. Get used to being wrong. Conviction can be a symptom of narrow-mindedness. Chances are, whatever you believe now will be out the window at some point in your future, so get used to being open to other assessments of what's true. Chances are also that someone out there - maybe a lot of someones - knows a lot more about X, Y and Z than you do. Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest. It's not a game. You don't win at life. So say, "Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that." or "I was wrong. I'm sorry."

5.看淡錯(cuò)誤。堅(jiān)信與偏執(zhí)僅一線之隔。你現(xiàn)在深信不疑的事情很有可能會(huì)在將來(lái)的某一刻突然崩坍，所以要開(kāi)始習(xí)慣聽(tīng)取別人的正誤觀。也有可能有人，可能有很多人，在許多方面了解的都比你多。不必執(zhí)著于對(duì)錯(cuò)，因?yàn)檫@不是一場(chǎng)比賽，不是一場(chǎng)游戲。生活里沒(méi)有贏家。所以遇到別人的質(zhì)疑，你應(yīng)該說(shuō)：“感謝你的建議，我會(huì)仔細(xì)考慮一下?！被蛘摺皩?duì)不起，是我錯(cuò)了?！?/p>

6. Perseverance. You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to keep moving forward. Keep going. Keep going!

6.堅(jiān)持不懈。生命之中，可能數(shù)十年都會(huì)挫折不斷。這讓你感覺(jué)不公，但你必須一直向前看。堅(jiān)持不懈，永不言棄！

Oh, and don't forget to have fun along the way! Enjoy any moment you possibly can.

對(duì)了，不要忘記且行且開(kāi)心！盡可能去享受每一刻。