英語(yǔ)聽(tīng)力課堂教你如何安慰人(雙語(yǔ))

Breathe. It will be okay.

深呼吸，你能行的。

1. Not so good – “God will never give you more than you can handle.”

不要說(shuō)：“上帝不會(huì)讓你承受更多苦難。”

Better – “This must be so hard for you.”

不如說(shuō)：“我知道你肯定非常難受。”

2. Not so good – “I’m sure it’s all for the best.”

不要說(shuō)：“我想這一切可能是最好的結(jié)果。”

Ack! Try really hard not to say this! Right now, the grieving person doesn’t see that anything is for the best except to have her loved one back.

我的天，千萬(wàn)別說(shuō)這句話(huà)!這個(gè)沉浸在悲痛中的人并不覺(jué)得一切是好結(jié)果，除非她的至親能夠復(fù)活。

Better – “It’s hard to understand why these things happen.”

不如說(shuō)：“真不知道為什么會(huì)發(fā)生這樣的事情。”

3. Not so good – Saying nothing at all.

不要：什么都不說(shuō)。

Better – “I’m not sure what to say but I want you to know I’m here for you.”

不如說(shuō)：“我不知道該說(shuō)些什么，你只要知道我一直都在你身邊。”

4. Not so good – “He’s in a better place” or “Just be happy he isn’t in pain anymore.”

不要說(shuō)：“他去了更好的地方” 或 “開(kāi)心點(diǎn)，他不再痛苦了。”

These things are always so well-intentioned, but ouch! The place the griever wants him to be is with her, no matter how much pain he was in or how difficult the caregiving was.

這些話(huà)的初衷的確是好的，但是悲痛者還是希望至親就在自己身邊，無(wú)論至親有著什么樣的痛苦或者無(wú)論照顧起來(lái)是多么的麻煩。

Better – “You must miss him terribly.”

不如說(shuō)：“你肯定十分想念他。”

5. Not so good – “I know exactly how you feel.”

不要說(shuō)：“我完全知道你的感受。”

This is very tempting to say, but be careful: Even if you have experienced a loss, each person has their own unique path to travel so you can’t know exactly how he feels.

我們總會(huì)說(shuō)這句話(huà)，但是記住，即使你也失去過(guò)親人，但每個(gè)人的生命旅途不一樣，所以你并不可能完全知道別人的感受。

Better – “I can’t begin to understand how you feel”

不如說(shuō)：“我沒(méi)法真正體會(huì)你現(xiàn)在的感受。”