每天讀一點(diǎn)英文:那些美好而憂傷的記憶 13 寬恕
Forgiveness
Wendy
To forgive may be divine, but no one ever say it was easy. When someone is deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.
"People who forgive show less depression, angle and stress and more hopefulness” said Fredrick PHD, author of “Forgive for good.” So, it can help save wear and tear for our organ reduce wearing out of our immune system and allow people to feel more vital.
So how do you start to help heeling, try the following steps. Clam yourselves, to defuse your angle, try a simple stress management technique. Take a couple of breathes and think of something that give you pleasure. A beautiful scene of nature or someone you love. Fredrick said” don’t wait for an apology, many times the person who hurt you have no intention of apologizing.” Fredrick said” they may not want to hurt you or just don’t see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apology, you could be waiting for awfully longtime.”
Keep in mind that the forgiveness does not necessary mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning his or her action. Take the control away from your offender, mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who causes your pain. Instead focusing on your wonder felling, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. ” Fredrick said” try to see things from the other persons prospective, if you empathize with that person, you may realize he or she may acting of ignorance, fear, even love. To gain prospective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offender point of view.
Recognize the benefit of the forgiveness, researcher has shown the people who forgive reports more energy, better appetizer and better sleep patterns. Don’t forget to forgive yourselves. For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge. Fredrick said ” but it can rob you of your self- confidence if you don’t do it.”
