雙語(yǔ)智慧書·修正你的判斷

132．修正你的判斷
　　修正你的判斷。反復(fù)思量，行事才比較可靠。尤其是在行動(dòng)線路還不明確之時(shí)，你更要花時(shí)間核準(zhǔn)或修正你的決定。這能為你加固和確證自己的判斷提供新的根據(jù)。如果是送給別人禮物，考慮周全要比迅速送出更讓人珍視：獲得夢(mèng)寐以求之物，就是最高獎(jiǎng)賞。如果不得不拒絕某事，就要費(fèi)時(shí)決定在何時(shí)以何種方式讓"不"更合乎情理，以免傷人。畢竟，最初的熱望消逝之后，熱血也不再沸騰，這時(shí)再遭到拒絕，所產(chǎn)生的反感就不會(huì)那么強(qiáng)烈。尤其是在別人急著要求你答復(fù)的時(shí)候，最好拖延一下--這通常是分散他人注意力的假動(dòng)作。


132．Revise your judgments
　Revise your judgments. To appeal to an inner Court of Revision makes things safe. Especially when the course of action is not clear, you gain time either to confirm or improve your decision. It affords new grounds for strengthening or corroborating your judgment. And if it is a matter of giving, the gift is the more valued from its being evidently well considered than for being promptly bestowed: long expected is highest prized. And if you have to deny, you gain time to decide how and when to mature the No that it may be made palatable. Besides, after the first heat of desire is passed the repulse of refusal is felt less keenly in cold blood. But especially when men press for a reply it is best to defer it, for as often as not that is only a feint to disarm attention.