孩子在公共場(chǎng)合淘氣了你會(huì)如何管教

今天的這段對(duì)話，在討論管教孩子，
 
孩子在公共場(chǎng)合淘氣了，你會(huì)如何管教
 
來聽今天的講解:
 
A: So I was wondering about disciplining kids in public. You have kids, right?
 
我想知道在公共場(chǎng)所如何管教孩子。你有孩子，對(duì)吧？
 
B: Yeah. I have two kids. I have a three-year old and a one-year old.
 
對(duì)，我有兩個(gè)孩子。一個(gè)三歲，另一個(gè)一歲。
 
A: Are they ever naughty when you're out in public?
 
你們?cè)诠矆?chǎng)所時(shí)，孩子們淘氣嗎？
 
B: Yes. They are naughty out in public. And I think that you shouldn't discipline your children in front of other people. So if I'm out in public and my three-year old starts to be naughty and she's crying because she wants a toy from the store or something, I will pick her up and I take her somewhere quiet until she's calm. Like I might take her to the family bathroom or a quiet hallway, so she can stop crying and stop making noise.
 
淘氣。他們?cè)诠矆?chǎng)所非常淘氣。我認(rèn)為不應(yīng)該當(dāng)著其他人的面管教自己的孩子。所以，如果在公共場(chǎng)所，我三歲的孩子開始淘氣，因?yàn)樗胍獜纳痰昀镔I玩具而哭鬧，那我會(huì)把她帶到安靜的地方，直到她冷靜下來。我可能會(huì)把她帶去家庭衛(wèi)生間或是安靜的大廳，直到她停止哭鬧，不再制造噪音。
 
A: I see. So you wouldn't just give her the toy she wants.
 
我明白了。你不會(huì)給她買她想要的玩具。
 
B: No. I don't think you should do that sort of thing to make your child be quiet, just give them something until they are quiet because then they'll be bad more in the future. If they know they can cry and scream, and mom and dad will give them what they want, they'll just be worse and worse.
 
不會(huì)。我認(rèn)為不應(yīng)該用那種方法讓孩子安靜下來，不應(yīng)該給他們一些東西讓他們安靜下來，因?yàn)檫@樣的話，孩子以后會(huì)越來越難管。如果他們知道他們可以通過哭鬧來讓父母給他們想要的東西，他們會(huì)變本加厲。
 
A: Oh, I see. They'll learn that it's okay. They can get what they want by crying.
 
我明白了。他們會(huì)認(rèn)為那樣做沒問題。他們可以通過哭鬧來得到想要的東西。
 
B: Yeah.
 
對(duì)。
 
A: But don't you think you'll – won't you lose more time if you have to take your kids to some quiet place to calm down?
 
但是你不認(rèn)為，如果你把孩子帶去安靜的地方，讓他們冷靜下來，這樣會(huì)花費(fèi)更多時(shí)間嗎？
 
B: Yeah. You lose time but I think it's worth it because I think of the future and the time I'll save by making sure that my child is better behaved in the future. And the other thing too is I'm always trying to think about other people. So I don't want other people to have to listen to my child scream and cry. And I also don't want them to see me talking sternly to her because they'll maybe be annoyed or feel uncomfortable. And maybe my child will scream more because she can feel that. So I try to go somewhere quiet.
 
對(duì)。會(huì)花費(fèi)時(shí)間，但是我認(rèn)為那很值得，因?yàn)槲艺J(rèn)為那會(huì)節(jié)省我以后的時(shí)間，我要確保我的孩子以后舉止更得當(dāng)。而且我一直試圖為他人考慮。我不希望其他人聽到我孩子的哭鬧聲。別人可能會(huì)感到很煩和不舒服，我不希望他們因?yàn)檫@樣就責(zé)罵我的孩子。因?yàn)楹⒆涌梢愿杏X到，她可能會(huì)哭鬧得更大聲。所以我要帶她去安靜的地方。
 
A: Oh, I see.
 
我知道了。
 
B: Sometimes that's impossible though. Sometimes, if you're on the plane or on a train, you can't go anywhere or do anything. You have to stay in your seat.
 
不過有的時(shí)候可能做不到。比如在飛機(jī)或火車上的時(shí)候，你不能帶孩子去其他地方，不能做其他事。你只能待在位子上。
 
A: What if you're on an airplane, then do you give your child whatever they are crying for as soon as possible?
 
那如果你在飛機(jī)上的時(shí)候，你的孩子哭鬧，那你會(huì)馬上把他們想要的東西給他們嗎？
 
B: Yes, I do. I try to plan ahead and I think, okay, I need to have enough toys. I need to have lots of snacks, lots of fun things so that I prevent them from becoming naughty or crying or screaming. But sometimes, you can't help it. And if you're child or baby starts to be loud at that point, I will. I'll give them candy or food or toy, whatever they want.
 
我會(huì)。我盡量提前做好計(jì)劃，我要準(zhǔn)備足夠的玩具。還要準(zhǔn)備大量零食和有趣的東西，這樣就可以防止孩子不聽話或是哭鬧。不過有時(shí)真沒有辦法。如果孩子或是嬰兒開始吵鬧，我會(huì)把他們想要的東西給他們，無論那是糖果、食物還是玩具。
 
A: Oh, I get it. So I think you're saying, you think there might be a different reason why kids become naughty. Besides what they want...
 
哦，我知道了。我想你的意思是，孩子淘氣有不同的原因。除了他們想要一些東西以外……
 
B: Yeah.
 
對(duì)。
 
A: For example, they're hungry or bored.
 
比如，他們可能餓了或是感到無聊。
 
B: Yeah. I think a lot of the times, children are naughty because maybe they're tired or they're hungry, or they want to play and stretch their legs but they can't because they're on the plane or they're in a stroller at the shopping mall.
 
對(duì)。我認(rèn)為，很多時(shí)候孩子不聽話是因?yàn)樗麄兒芾刍蚴丘I了，或者他們想玩一會(huì)兒，或是因?yàn)橄雱?dòng)一動(dòng)但是卻不行，因?yàn)樵陲w機(jī)上，或者因?yàn)樵谫?gòu)物中心時(shí)他們要坐在嬰兒推車?yán)铩?br />  
A: So instead of waiting for bad behavior and then doing some discipline like yelling at your kids or grabbing their arms, maybe it's better to prevent bad behavior by making sure the kids sleep enough and don't get bored.
 
所以，相比在孩子做出不好的行為時(shí)，用沖他們大喊或是抓他們胳膊方式的管教他們，通過確保孩子睡眠充足、不會(huì)感到厭煩來防止不好行為的出現(xiàn)，可能是更好的方式。
 
B: Yeah. That's what I'm saying. And, you know, my kids are young. Just three and one. So a one-year old can't really be naughty. They're just a baby. So if they need something, I give them food or what they need. But a three-year old, they can throw a tantrum. And so, they can be very naughty.
 
對(duì)。我就是這個(gè)意思。你知道，孩子還小。只有三歲和一歲。一個(gè)一歲的孩子不會(huì)太淘氣。他們還是嬰兒。如果他們有需要，我會(huì)給他們食物或是他們想要的東西。但是三歲的孩子會(huì)發(fā)脾氣，非常不聽話。
 
A: A tantrum?
 
發(fā)脾氣？
 
B: Yeah. When they scream and maybe they fall down on the floor, and they kick their legs. Sometimes they try to hit you. It's really bad. But I think all two-and-three-year-old children sometimes they do them.
 
對(duì)，他們會(huì)尖叫，跌坐在地板上踢腿。有時(shí)他們還會(huì)打你。這種行為非常糟糕。不過我認(rèn)為所有兩歲和三歲的孩子都會(huì)這樣做。
 
A: Oh, I've heard of that. It's called the Terrible Two's.
 
對(duì)，我聽說過。那被稱為“可怕的兩歲”。
 
B: Yes. But it also lasts into three.
 
對(duì)，而且這種情況會(huì)持續(xù)到三歲。
 
A: Well, it sounds like you're a good parent.
 
聽起來你是名優(yōu)秀的家長(zhǎng)。
 
B: Oh, I try.
 
哦，我盡力。