雙語(yǔ)美文：做自己的好朋友

Why would you want to become your own best friend? There are a number of benefits to creating your own internal support system rather than relying on your partner, friends or family to be there for you when you’resuffering. We all have it in us to give ourselves what we need, without seeking it externally.

為什么要做自己的朋友呢?在遭受苦難的時(shí)候，建立起自己強(qiáng)大的支撐系統(tǒng)有很多好處，而不是總依賴自己的伴侶、朋友、家人。我們不用尋求別人的幫助就能滿足自己的所有需求。

Isn’t it far better to know how to support yourself in times of need? Here’s how to become your own best friend.

是不是想要更清楚的知道如何在有需要的時(shí)候能自己調(diào)整?以下就是一些做自己做好的朋友的方法。

1.Be nice to yourself

對(duì)自己好點(diǎn)

The first step to becoming a friend to yourself is to treat yourself like you would treat a friend. That means that you need to stop being self-critical and beating yourself up. Start by acknowledging your good qualities, talents and abilities and begin to appreciate your own unique self.

成為自己最好的朋友的第一不就是：像對(duì)待朋友那樣對(duì)待自己，也就是說你不能太嚴(yán)格的要求自己，苛責(zé)自己。承認(rèn)自己的優(yōu)秀品質(zhì)，才能、能力，開始珍惜世界上這個(gè)獨(dú)一無二的自己。

2.Imagine how you would support a friend in the same situation

想象一下，在同樣地情況下你會(huì)如何支持你的朋友

Think about a loved one, a friend, a family member, someone dear to you and imagine that they are in the samesituation you are currently facing. Think about how they’re struggling, suffering with this problem, then consider how to best offer assistance and advice to them.

想想一個(gè)你愛的人，你的朋友，你的家人，某個(gè)你摯愛的人，想象你他們?cè)谕瑯拥那榫诚?，你?huì)怎么面對(duì)。想想他們?cè)谶@樣的情況下是如何糾結(jié)、如何難受，然后想想你能給他們最好的建議和幫助是什么。

Craft the words that you would say to your greatest friend and then say them gently to yourself. Allow yourself to feel supported, and give yourself what you need.

整理好你會(huì)對(duì)朋友說的話，然后溫柔地說給自己聽。讓自己也有個(gè)支持，給你自己你最需要的東西。

3.Honor your needs

尊重自己的需要

Following the theme of considering how you would help a dear friend, you need to start taking your own advice and putting your own needs first. Do you need a day off from work? A long hot bath?

在考慮好你會(huì)怎樣幫助你最親愛的朋友之后，你得采納你自己給的建議，首先考慮你的需求。工作之余是不是需要休息一天?洗個(gè)熱水澡?

Whatever it is that you need, allow yourself to put it at the top of the list rather than the bottom.

不管你需要的是什么，把自己放在首位，而不應(yīng)該最后一個(gè)才考慮自己。

Use these techniques to become your own best friend and start being there for yourself!

使用這些技巧做自己最好的朋友，開始學(xué)著為自己考慮。