北大高材生發(fā)萬字長文控訴父母

A UNIVERSITY psychology researcher in Beijing released an open letter to the media, in which he attributed the psychological disorder he has suffered since childhood to his parents, who he has not spoken to for 12 years. Southern Metropolis Daily comments:

北京一高校的心理學研究人員近日通過媒體發(fā)表了一封公開信。信中他痛訴父母，令其從小遭受心理障礙，而他和父母也已經有12年沒說過話了?！赌戏蕉际袌蟆吩u論如下：

It is the straight-A students who fall prey to mental problems associated with overly controlling parenting more often than the backward students.

和差生相比，往往是學霸們更多地被父母的“過度關愛”所困擾，導致出現心理問題。

Wang Meng, in his 30s, is a straight-A student, who graduated from Peking University with a bachelor’s degree in biology and who studied for a master’s degree in psychology at a university in the United States. Yet despite his excellent academic record, he lacks the basic ability to take care of himself, and could not even peel an egg until middle school, which made him a laughing stock among his peers.

現年30多歲的王猛是一位高材生，在北大獲得生物學學士學位后，又赴美攻讀心理學碩士。然而，盡管成績優(yōu)異，他卻缺乏照顧自己的基本能力，上中學了甚至還不會剝雞蛋，成了同齡人眼中的笑話。

He says his lack of self-confidence is so serious that he cannot get along with other people, and this is only part of his mental health issues.

王猛表示，自己自卑的問題很嚴重，無法和他人好好相處，而這只是他心理問題的一部分。

When he applied to do research in the US, the university psychologists concluded he suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder.

當他申請美國的研究項目時，美國高校的心理專家推斷他具有創(chuàng)傷后應激障礙。

According to reports, his life was meticulously arranged by his parents, who are both civil servants in a small town in Southwest China’s Sichuan province, and they brooked no adjustment or questioning of what they considered best for him.

據報道，王猛的父母都是四川省一座小城的公務員，兩人在認為怎樣對孩子好的事情上，容不得絲毫變通與質疑，并一絲不茍地安排著王猛的人生。

Although his parents admit there are some problems with their parenting, they still take pride in Wang’s academic record.

盡管王猛的父母承認兩人的教育方式存在問題，但他們仍為孩子的成績而自豪。

The incident casts light on the issue of children’s development. Achieving a good academic record is by no means the sole purpose of life, and it must not be taken as the only criterion to evaluate the performance of the children, whose development and learning are expected to be based primarily on their curiosity and interests.

這一事件揭示了兒童發(fā)展的問題。取得優(yōu)異的學習成績并非人生的唯一目標，也不應被視為評價孩子表現的唯一標準。孩子們的發(fā)展與學習首先應該從他們自己的好奇心與興趣出發(fā)。