如果你在新年前夕無人接吻,同時你也因此而感到不悅,那么就要在2017年大膽地去尋找愛情。
Instead of being passive and spending time swiping on different apps to find the one, the author of How to find a Prince and Marry Mr Right, George Watts, has some golden rules to follow.
不要再被動,也不要花時間在各種app上尋找愛情,《如何找到白馬王子并與他成婚》的作者喬治·瓦特提出了一些黃金規(guī)則。
DON’T BE LAZY!
不要懶惰!
Nowadays we all tend to be a bit lazy about the whole thing, thinking we can just sign up to an app or website and happiness will just land on our laptops. Wrong. The dating environment is more competitive than ever and therefore you need to give 200 per cent if you are really in the zone to make a success of it.
現(xiàn)在,我們都傾向于對所有的事情懶惰,認為只要在一個app或者是網(wǎng)站上注冊,幸福就會到來。大錯特錯!約會環(huán)境比以往任何時候都要激烈了,因此如果你真的想要成功,就要付出2倍的努力。
IF YOU DON’T LIKE THEM, MOVE ON
如果不愛,那就離開
Never persevere with someone for the sake of it when you know it’s time to move on.
永遠不要在你知道是時候離開了還要糾纏他人。
Reserving energy is paramount in this game, because finding ’the one’ can be both mentally and physically exhausting.
保持體力是首要的,因為找到“TA”可能會令你身心俱疲。
RELAX AND STOP SECOND GUESSING
放松、不做事后諸葛
We tend to try and second guess what the other person is thinking when on a date, but it’s important to remember that they are in the same boat too and we should just let go of all that pointless anxiety.
我們傾向于試圖事后揣測別人在約會時想著什么,但是請記住他們和我們的處境相同,我們應(yīng)該讓所有無關(guān)緊要的焦慮都散去。
DON’T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE TO FIND ’THE ONE’
不要為了找到“TA”而改變自己
Don’t try and morph into something you are not to please anybody else. Just be yourself and let nature take it’s course...
不要為了取悅他人而試圖改變自己。做自己就好,順其自然……
SECOND DATES ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE FIRST
第二次約會和第一次約會同樣重要
GET SOMEONE ELSE TO PLAY CUPID
讓別人扮演紅娘
FIND A HOBBY
培養(yǎng)一個愛好
Think about your hobbies or interests and hunt out a local group you can join to help meet people with similar interests.
想想你的愛好或興趣,在當(dāng)?shù)卣乙粋€你能夠加入的團體,從而幫助你與志趣相投的人相遇。
LOVE YOURSELF
愛惜自己
If confidence is an issue, try to embrace and love you a little more before beginning to think about anyone else.
如果你缺乏自信,那么試圖在考慮別人之前愛自己多一點。
STOP AND THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE YOU WANT
不要幻想你想要的未來
The problem is most of us don’t stop and think about the future when we are in the thick of something that seems to be going well.
問題即是,我們大多數(shù)人在事態(tài)向好之時就會去思考未來。
This is a fatal error because actually what we need to do is exactly that - stop and think.
這是一個致命的錯誤,因為我們需要的正是停止幻想。
AND FINALLY...
最后是……
Routines breed boredom, a little randomness is also good for both heart and soul and your relationship too.
慣例會滋生厭倦,稍微隨性對雙方的心靈和靈魂以及你們的關(guān)系也有好處。