·Spike·
Using terms of endearment like honey or sweetheart from time to time is a small but important way to keep a marriage loving. These terms make the other person feel loved and special.There are some other words that can help make your spouse feel special and aware of how much you love and appreciate him.
“Thank You.”We would not never thank a friend or co-worker for helping us out. But sometimes we forget to thank the person we love most:our spouse.All couples forget now and then to thank each other for all they do.But thanking each other is a good habit to fall into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of love.Knowing that their actions are appreciated makes a couple more giving toward each other, and the more you give to each other the more your love will grow.
“Please.”Please, like thank you, is easy to forget to say, but it too is very important in a relationship. Because it is another way of letting your partner know you don't take him for granted and that his time and effort count.
“You are great.”Do you know that this sentence can make him feel good about himself all day?Now that you know how nice it makes him feel to be complimented, you should try to do it as often as you can. As an added bonus, he will begin paying compliments to you more often.This is not surprising since, experts say, compliments are a two-way street.So the more compliments you give, the more you get.Often couples will think nice things about each other but not verbaIize their thoughts because they're just not in the habit of doing so.But when one of them starts, the other will pick up on the cue and begin doing the same.
“I love you.”in a new way. A small variation such as“I love you more each day”can make a big difference in how you feel about each other.When you say“I love you”the exact same way over and over, your spouse may start to discount it.On the other hand, a fresh phrase can help keep the relationship fresh.For instance, you can express your love for him by saying“I'm so glad you're in my life.”I'm sure he will be really impressed and touched, and you two will feel closer.
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經(jīng)常用“寶貝”“甜心”之類的親昵語,是一種讓婚姻永葆鮮活的簡(jiǎn)單但很重要的方法。這些親昵的詞語能讓人深切感受到對(duì)方的愛意,也能感受到自己在其心中的特殊地位。另外也有一些字眼能讓愛人體會(huì)到他(她)在你心中的分量,感到你有多么愛他,多么欣賞他。
“謝謝你。”我們總會(huì)在朋友或同事幫忙后表示感謝,然而有時(shí)候卻忘了感謝我們最愛的人——妻子或丈夫。夫妻間時(shí)而會(huì)忘記彼此道謝,但這是一個(gè)良好的習(xí)慣,在愛的成長(zhǎng)路途中是不可缺少的。只有自己所做的得到了對(duì)方的認(rèn)同和欣賞,我們才會(huì)樂意給予更多。彼此給予得越多,愛就會(huì)增值越多。
“請(qǐng)”和“謝謝”一樣容易被忽略,但這兩個(gè)字眼在夫妻關(guān)系中,也是相當(dāng)?shù)赜蟹至?。因?yàn)樗材茏屇愕膼廴艘庾R(shí)到,你并沒有把他所做的事看作理所當(dāng)然,他所付出的時(shí)間和努力是值得的。
“你真好?!蹦憧芍?,這句話能讓他愉快一整天嗎?既然你知道令愛人感受褒獎(jiǎng)是很不錯(cuò)的,那么,你就應(yīng)盡可能地這樣對(duì)他說。這樣做還有一個(gè)好處,就是他也會(huì)頻繁地贊賞你。專家們認(rèn)為,贊賞是條雙向街,所以,夫妻間的這種互贊效應(yīng)也就不足為奇了。你對(duì)愛人稱贊得越多,你獲得的贊揚(yáng)也就越多。通常,夫妻彼此都會(huì)認(rèn)為對(duì)方有多么多么好,只是沒在言語上表達(dá)出來,因?yàn)闆]養(yǎng)成這種習(xí)慣。但只要其中一方開了口,另一方便會(huì)領(lǐng)會(huì)其意,如此效法。
“我愛你”的全新表達(dá)法。把“我愛你”稍加改動(dòng),變成“每天愛你多一點(diǎn)”,能使夫妻的感情生活大有改觀。一遍遍地重復(fù)“我愛你”,愛人可能就會(huì)對(duì)此不以為然了。不僅如此,一種新的表達(dá)能讓夫妻關(guān)系時(shí)刻都有新鮮感。比如,要表達(dá)對(duì)他的愛意,你可以這樣說:“我真高興我的生命中有你?!蔽掖_信,他定會(huì)深深地感動(dòng)。于是,兩顆心更近了。
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核心單詞
appreciate[?'pri:?ieit]v.欣賞;感謝,感激
spouse[spauz]n.配偶
bonus['b?un?s]n.獎(jiǎng)金;額外津貼;特別補(bǔ)助;額外令人高興的事
verbaIize['v?:b?laiz]v.以言語表述;嘮叨
cue[kju:]n.提示;信號(hào);線索
discount[dis'kaunt]v.不理會(huì);不重視
impress[im'pres]v.給……極深的印象;使感動(dòng);使銘記
實(shí)用句型
But thanking each other is a good habit to faII into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of Iove.
夫妻間時(shí)而會(huì)忘記彼此道謝,但這是一個(gè)良好的習(xí)慣,在愛的成長(zhǎng)路途中是不可缺少的。
①動(dòng)名詞thanking在這里做主語。
②fall into形成。類似的表達(dá)還有fall off(數(shù)量)減少;fall out發(fā)生;fall down失敗。
翻譯練習(xí)
1.朋友們偶爾聚會(huì),暢談學(xué)生時(shí)代的美好時(shí)光。(now and then)
2.有些人常常將謠言信以為真。(take……for granted)
3.像兔和鹿這樣的動(dòng)物,整個(gè)冬天都是很活躍的,它們到處尋找食物。(such as)