以下這些小技巧,讓你在任何場合下都顯得信心十足。
Step 1: Speak to inner gremlins
1. 自我暗示
Get rid of those subconscious negative thoughts that make you seem more shy and self-conscious. Telling yourself that you are great and that will reflect in your body language.
拋掉那些潛意識(shí)里消極的想法,因?yàn)樗鼈冎荒茏屇憧雌饋砀π?,更忸怩。告訴自己,自己是很棒的。這在你的肢體語言中也會(huì)有所體現(xiàn)。
Step 2: Realign posture
2. 調(diào)整姿勢
When you feel shy or nervous, you tend to curl up and do barrier gestures, which make your posture seem more negative. Stretch up to your full height,as if you are trying to touch the ceiling with the top of your head. Bring your shoulders back and down, arch your back slightly and make sure your weight is evenly divided on both feet.
感到害羞或是緊張時(shí),人總會(huì)放不開手腳,做一些阻擋性的動(dòng)作,這會(huì)讓你的舉止顯得不夠落落大方。舒展身體,就像你要用頭頂?shù)教旎ò逡粯?。肩膀向后下方微傾,后背稍成弧度,確保兩腳均勻承受身體重量。
Step 3: Stress
3. 應(yīng)對壓力
Stress can tighten jaw muscles, creating a rigid mouth which can affect your speech. Pressing the tip of your tongue into the roof of your mouth will relax your jaw and make your face look more relaxed.
當(dāng)人感到壓力時(shí),顎部的咀嚼肌會(huì)緊張,導(dǎo)致口齒不靈活,影響你講話。用你的舌尖頂上牙膛可以讓你的顎部肌肉放松,也讓你的臉部表情顯得更自然。
Step 4: Stretch up
4. 放開手腳
Use more open and emphatic gestures and stop using body barriers, such as folded arms and legs and other self-comforting gestures. Stand with your hands down around waist height, using them to gesticulate rather than fiddle.
放開手腳,多用些吸引他人注意力的手勢,不要用阻擋性的肢體語言,比如合攏手臂,盤起大腿,以及其他一些自我安慰性的肢體語言。站立時(shí),雙手下放,置于腰際。記住,雙手是用來做些手勢的,而不是用來亂擺弄的。
Step 5: Denial gestures
5. 杜絕小動(dòng)作
Combat the small little facial gestures, such as little shrugs and rolling of eyes that take the confidence out of your speech, especially when talking about yourself.
杜絕某些小動(dòng)作,如聳聳肩,滾滾眼球什么的,因?yàn)檫@會(huì)讓你在說話時(shí),特別是談到自己時(shí),顯得自信不足。
Step 6: Eye contact
6. 加強(qiáng)目光接觸
Increase eye contact, look a little bit longer when talking to people, but don't turn it into a stare.
加強(qiáng)目光接觸,和別人說話時(shí)多看對方幾眼,但不要盯著人家看。