找回生活熱情

Do you feel passionless — as though everything you do is a shade of dull gray?

感覺(jué)生活沒(méi)有熱情，所做的所有事都籠罩著一層暗灰色，了無(wú)生趣?

Is work boring or empty, or just plain awful? Do you lack adventure and fun in your life? Do you feel stuck but have no idea how to get unstuck?

是工作太空虛乏味?找不到生活的樂(lè)趣和刺激?你是否感到自己陷入困境卻不知如何擺脫呢?

A life passion isn’t something that drops on you from the heavens or appears from thin air. Discovering your passion is a process of self-discovery and detective work. It requires stripping yourself bare and examining the “real you.” This is the you without limiting beliefs, old wounds, ego-based pursuits, and fear.

生活熱情不會(huì)平白無(wú)故從天而降，抑或浮現(xiàn)在稀薄的空氣中。它是自我發(fā)現(xiàn)的過(guò)程，需要你真誠(chéng)面對(duì)自己，仔細(xì)審查內(nèi)心的“真我”。這個(gè)“真我”沒(méi)有信仰限制，沒(méi)有過(guò)去的傷疤，更沒(méi)有自我為中心的追求和畏懼。

If you want to begin today to bare your true self and reveal your own passion in life, here are 15 small actions you can take to get started:

如果你希望從今天起，展現(xiàn)真實(shí)的自己找回對(duì)生活的熱情，以下15招教你踏上轉(zhuǎn)變之旅：

1. Shift your thinking. If you believe, like I did, that you aren’t great at something, or you don’t feel excited about anything and therefore have no passion — then release that notion. If you believe that you are too old, reject that falsehood. Those are excuses which will keep you stuck.

轉(zhuǎn)變思維。如果你像我曾經(jīng)一樣，認(rèn)為自己做不好任何事或?qū)θ魏问绿岵黄饎艃憾鴮?dǎo)致你失去熱情，那馬上擺脫這樣的想法。你認(rèn)為學(xué)新知識(shí)太遲?甩掉這些假話(huà)吧，它們是你讓自己繼續(xù)淪陷的借口罷了。

2. Become aware of joy. Get a small pocket notebook and keep it with you. Keep track of the times when you feel happy and fulfilled. What are you doing when you feel good? Write it down in your notebook. Pay attention to what feels good to you.

留心發(fā)現(xiàn)快樂(lè)。隨身攜帶一個(gè)小筆記本，記下當(dāng)你感到快樂(lè)和滿(mǎn)足時(shí)的每一刻。當(dāng)你感覺(jué)開(kāi)心時(shí)你正在做什么呢?用筆記下來(lái)，并且留意那些讓你感到美好的事物。

3. Pinpoint the major drag. What’s causing you the most frustration? Your job? A relationship? Your leisure time? A general lack of purpose? Isolate the primary cause and the elements of it that bring you down.

查明讓你停滯不前的主要原因。是什么特別使你萎靡不振?工作?感情?你的閑暇時(shí)間?沒(méi)有目標(biāo)?將最主要的那個(gè)原因和其他次要原因分開(kāi)寫(xiě)出來(lái)。

4. What were your dreams? When you were younger, or even now, what did you dream of being, doing, achieving, discovering? Write those down in your notebook. Dredge them up and reignite those dreams.

你曾經(jīng)的夢(mèng)想是什么?當(dāng)你年少時(shí)或就是現(xiàn)在，你想成為什么人，做什么事，獲得何種成就或者發(fā)現(xiàn)什么?努力回憶這些內(nèi)容，將它們寫(xiě)在本子上，重新點(diǎn)燃你的夢(mèng)想!

5. Acknowledge your skills. Maybe you aren’t a virtuoso at something, but you have many skills. You may not recognize them as skills, but others do. Ask your friends and family what you are good at — no matter how small. Make a list of your skills, and make note of the skills you really enjoy.

肯定自身的才能?；蛟S你不是一名藝術(shù)鑒賞家，但你有許多其他才能。你可能沒(méi)把那些看作是自己的一技之長(zhǎng)，但其他人卻恰恰相反。問(wèn)問(wèn)你的朋友家人你擅長(zhǎng)什么——不管多么微不足道，將這些才能列成清單，并將自己所青睞的幾個(gè)打上記號(hào)。

6. Let go of shoulds. Many people hold themselves back from happiness because of the word “should.” I should stay in this job because I can’t find a better one. I should become a teacher because my parents want me to. I should not try something new because I’ll look foolish. Dismiss this word from your vocabulary while on your passion search.

讓“應(yīng)該”的條條框框隨風(fēng)去。許多人由于“應(yīng)該”要做什么而失去了自己的幸福感。我不可能再找到更好的工作所以我應(yīng)該繼續(xù)呆在原公司。我應(yīng)該成為一名教師因?yàn)榘謰屜Ｍ疫@樣。我不應(yīng)該嘗試新東西，那樣看起來(lái)太傻了。將這個(gè)詞從你的人生字典里甩掉，踏上尋找熱情的旅途吧!

7. Try something new. Anything. Go for a weekend trip to a new location. Take a class on bird watching or painting or dancing. Strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know well. Shake up your life a bit. Peep out past your current existence. It will broaden your perspective.

嘗試新事物。任何新的事物。周末去陌生地點(diǎn)旅游，報(bào)名觀(guān)鳥(niǎo)、繪畫(huà)或舞蹈課程，和不太熟的朋友聊天等等。從點(diǎn)滴激發(fā)你的生活樂(lè)趣，讓你的存在感慢慢顯露。它將會(huì)開(kāi)拓你的視野。

8. Be a voyeur. Investigate someone else who is living an amazing, passionate life. These are all regular people who have learned how to live passionate, adventurous lives.

做個(gè)生活“偷窺家”。留心觀(guān)察那些對(duì)生活充滿(mǎn)激情的人，他們都是懂得如何將生活變得生機(jī)勃勃并富有創(chuàng)造力的聰明人。

9. Unlock your past. If you have something holding you back, an old trauma or past anger, do something about it, or you will undermine your efforts at passionate living. How can you live with passion when you have a hole in your heart? Go to a counselor or other helping professional and heal the past so you can create your future.

對(duì)過(guò)去敞開(kāi)心扉。若過(guò)去的創(chuàng)傷或憤怒阻止你向前，一定要采取措施面對(duì)，否則這些過(guò)往會(huì)一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)破壞你充滿(mǎn)激情的生活。試想，當(dāng)你的心有空洞時(shí)你怎能積極地生活呢?讓咨詢(xún)師或心理專(zhuān)家?guī)椭阒斡愕倪^(guò)往吧，你將會(huì)創(chuàng)造屬于自己的未來(lái)。

10. Define your values. What is important to you? What values define you? Your passion must be centered around your primary values so that your life reflects who you are.

認(rèn)清你的價(jià)值。什么是你認(rèn)為最重要，最有價(jià)值的?你的熱情必須圍繞著你最在乎的東西，從而可以通過(guò)生活發(fā)現(xiàn)自己究竟是誰(shuí)。

11. Sketch out a vision. It’s two years down the road. Who are you now? What are you doing? Start sketching a vision for yourself, as though you have no limitations on who you can be or what you can do. Just pretend for now.

擬定一個(gè)大致目標(biāo)。將目標(biāo)期望實(shí)現(xiàn)時(shí)間定為兩年?，F(xiàn)在你是誰(shuí)?正在做什么?開(kāi)始為自己擬一個(gè)計(jì)劃吧。你可以成為什么樣的人，你可以做什么，一切都可以隨意發(fā)揮。從現(xiàn)在開(kāi)始假設(shè)。

12. Research. Start to create a little curiosity and interest in possibilities. Look online at other careers, or adventurous travel, or classes in basket weaving.

鉆研。培養(yǎng)對(duì)可能實(shí)現(xiàn)的事情的興趣和好奇心。上網(wǎng)找找其他可發(fā)展的事業(yè)，嘗試冒險(xiǎn)的旅行或參加竹籃編織家政課等都是不錯(cuò)的途徑。

13. Consider an education boost. You don’t have to go back to get your MBA to change careers. There are many certification programs that train you to begin something brand new.If you have the time and money, then go for the MBA!

考慮學(xué)業(yè)進(jìn)修。你不必出于事業(yè)考慮而專(zhuān)門(mén)重返校園拿MBA證書(shū)——除非你有足夠的時(shí)間和資金?，F(xiàn)在有許多證書(shū)培訓(xùn)課程就是為想改頭換面的你而設(shè)置的。

14. Weigh your priorities. Money is often the factor that holds people back from their dreams. If I had to choose between a lot of money but living in mediocrity or living with less money but feeling happy and fulfilled — I would choose the latter. How about you? If so, decide the least amount of money you and your family could live on, and work from there. You might have to move, scale back, live lean. Is it worth it to you?

分清優(yōu)先級(jí)。金錢(qián)總是最阻礙人們實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想的因素。如果要在“活得平庸卻有很多錢(qián)”和“錢(qián)少點(diǎn)但卻充實(shí)快樂(lè)”中選擇，我會(huì)選擇后者。你呢?如果你也是，那么就從能支撐你和你家庭最基本的錢(qián)開(kāi)始努力吧!你可能會(huì)搬家，節(jié)衣縮食，深居簡(jiǎn)出，你認(rèn)為那樣值得嗎?

15. Keep trying. The process of finding my passion took a couple of years. You may have to try a few and eliminate a few things before you discover what feels great. It may creep up on you rather than knocking you in the head. Have patience. Keep digging.

堅(jiān)持不松懈。找回?zé)崆榈倪^(guò)程花了我?guī)啄甑臅r(shí)間。在途中你可能不得不嘗試一些，又放棄一些，直到你找到真正使你滿(mǎn)意的東西。熱情只會(huì)緩慢降臨在你身邊而不會(huì)突然出現(xiàn)。你得有耐心，一直挖掘下去吧!

You do have a passion, but you can’t wait for it to come to you. You have to go find it. Actually, you have to uncover it because it’s already with you.

其實(shí)你本來(lái)?yè)碛袩崆?，但你不能只是坐著等待它的降臨，它需要你努力去尋找。事實(shí)上，它已經(jīng)在你身邊了，只等著你去發(fā)現(xiàn)。