盤點:情侶談心常出現(xiàn)的問題

        WHAT HE SAYS: “Uh huh. Right. Yeah。”

　　WHAT YOU HEAR: “I couldn’t be less interested in what you’re saying。”

　　WHAT HE MEANS: “I want to hear your story, but it’s been 10 minutes and still no punch line2.” Men don’t process information in the lengthy way that women do, so telling him a story in the drawn-out way you would to one of your girlfriends isn’t going to work. In short, cut to the chase and you’ll get more of a reaction。

　　他說：“嗯哼。對。是的。”

　　你的理解：“我對你所說的事情一點都不感興趣。”

　　他的意思是：“我想聽你的故事，但十分鐘過去了你還是沒說出個所以然來。”女人處理的信息冗長，而男人不是這樣，所以像跟你的一個姐妹淘閑聊那樣沒完沒了地講給他聽是行不通的。總之，說話直截了當(dāng)，你會得到更多回應(yīng)。

　　WHAT HE SAYS: “I didn’t tell you about the layoffs?”

　　WHAT YOU HEAR: “My job’s in jeopardy and I didn’t even bother to tell you。”

　　WHAT HE MEANS: “I didn’t want to worry you。” Most men don’t like to advertise their fears or what they might perceive as weaknesses – especially to the person they feel they need to protect (that’s you)。

　　他說：“我沒告訴你裁員嗎？”

　　你的理解：“我的工作不保了，我甚至懶得告訴你。”

　　他的意思是：“我不想讓你擔(dān)心。”大多數(shù)男人不喜歡將他們的恐懼或他們認為是自己弱點的地方公之于眾——特別是對他們覺得需要保護的人(就是你)。