英語美文朗讀 第411期 Secrets to become more attractive
養(yǎng)成這十個習(xí)慣，讓你更有吸引力，讓你更受歡迎！大多數(shù)人認為，有吸引力，意味著長得好看。確實，有一部分人生來就長得好看，在人生中，他們因為好看的外表而獲得了不少好處。但是，吸引力不僅僅跟面容、身材、發(fā)型或者衣著有關(guān)。接下來，讓我們一起看看這10個習(xí)慣，無論你的外貌如何，如果你能在日常生活中養(yǎng)成這些習(xí)慣，你就很快能讓自己變得更有吸引力。
Number 1: Keep your words positive. You can complain all you want about things, people or circumstances. But at the end of the day, you're not helping yourself grow. And you certainly don't make others like you any better! You see, people like to be around others who make them feel good. But, how do you do just that? Well, you can start by using positive words, and offering a lot of praise. Receiving that kind of energy makes others feel good, and they will naturally like you more.
第一，說積極的話。你可以盡情抱怨，抱怨事情，抱怨他人，抱怨環(huán)境。但是，這終究不會讓你成長，別人也會對你產(chǎn)生反感。你要知道，人們喜歡和那些令他們感到舒服的人相處。但是，你怎樣才能讓他們感到舒服呢？事實上，你可以嘗試開始說一些積極的話，多贊美他人。別人會從你的話語中獲得能量，這讓他們感覺良好，自然而然地，他們就會更喜歡你。
Number 2: Be curious. The only way to make other people curious about you is by being curious yourself. Learn how things work. Analyze why people behave the way they do, and try to figure out what makes them tick. Read some interesting books, and find out what's happening in the world around you. When you have a lot more to say, people instinctively think you're smart and fascinating.
第二，保持好奇心。如果你要讓別人對你有好奇心，那么你只能自己先做個有好奇心的人。了解更多知識，分析一下人們的行為，嘗試想一想什么會讓人們不快。讀一些有趣的書，了解你周圍的世界正在發(fā)生什么。如果你能說會道，那么人們自然會認為你很聰明，很迷人。
Number 3: Smile more. There's a reason why happy and charming people tend to have more friends and admirers. Happiness is considered the most attractive expression! People are drawn to positive emotions, and a smile conveys friendliness and openness. So, remember to smile often!
第三，多笑笑。那些快樂的人，很有吸引力的人，總是擁有更多朋友，更多崇拜者，這是自然而然的事。快樂是最迷人的表情！人們會被積極的人吸引，笑容能夠傳遞友善和包容。所以，請記得多笑一笑！
Number 4: Surprise people. When you tell someone what you're going to do for them, they automatically expect you to deliver. Instead, surprise them from time to time! It's much more memorable and impactful than doing what you've already promised. It's not the gift alone that will brighten their day, but the thought you put into the nice gesture!
第四，為人們制造驚喜。如果你告訴別人你要為他們做什么，那么他們自然會期待你去做這件事。試試另一種做法，那就是，不時給人們制造驚喜。比起你的說到做到而言，人們對小驚喜的印象更加深刻。讓人們開心的，不僅是驚喜本身，而是你在這上面花的心思。
Number 5: Say thank you. These two simple words, though overused at times, can make a world of a difference in someone's day. All it takes is a couple of seconds to think about and appreciate what you are given. Even if it's something small, like someone holding the door open for you, always remember to say thanks!
第五，說謝謝。雖然我們總在說謝謝，但是這簡簡單單的兩個字能改變別人的一天。你只需要花幾秒鐘思考一下，感激別人的給予。即使這只是一件小事，比如別人幫你把住門口，請記得要經(jīng)常說謝謝。
Number 6: Remain calm. We can all agree that it's an unpleasant sight to see someone screaming or lashing out in a destructive way. And sometimes we just can't help but lash back! Well, don't do that. Before you snap, take a minute and think about the whole situation. It's best to stay calm and just talk it out. By doing this, you'll be able to understand others much better, and as a result, you will establish closer connections to them.
第六，保持冷靜。我們都知道，如果看到一個人大喊大叫，或者大發(fā)脾氣，這可不是什么令人愉快的事。有時候，我們又無法控制自己的怒火。但，請一定要控制住自己。在你發(fā)怒之前，停下來思考一下現(xiàn)狀。最好能夠保持冷靜，平和地談?wù)撨@件事。這樣做，你能夠進一步了解他人，那么你就能減少彼此之間的距離。
Number 7: Forgive and forget. We all have been hurt and disappointed at some point in our lives. And while letting go is a difficult thing to do, it is extremely important. Anger, jealousy, and holding grudges are ugly habits. They only cultivate negativity and bring you down. Forgiving someone for having wronged you will not only make you a better person in their eyes, but you will come across as a mature and sensible person.
第七，學(xué)會原諒，學(xué)會忘記。在人生中，我們都曾經(jīng)被傷害，都曾經(jīng)感到失望。盡管我們很難做到釋然，但是學(xué)會放手是很重要的。怒火，嫉妒，怨恨，這些都是很丑陋的習(xí)慣。他們只會讓你變得越來越消極，拖你后腿。原諒一個冤枉你的人，這樣，在他們眼中，你會變成一個更好的人，而且你會給他們留下一個成熟、理性的印象。
Number 8: Strike up a conversation. Most of us feel uncomfortable when we're out of our comfort zone, and away from familiar groups of people. But people who take the initiative and introduce themselves to others are the types who are completely comfortable in their own skin – a trait that's highly attractive! So, break out of your comfort zone and strike up a conversation with someone you don't know! You'll instantly surprise them, and you might just walk away with greater confidence!
第八，主動和他人對話。當我們走出舒適區(qū)、遠離我們熟悉的人時，大部分人會感到不自在。但是，那些主動向他人介紹自己的人，正是那種自我感覺良好的人，這個品質(zhì)很能吸引人。所以，走出舒適區(qū)，主動和陌生人講話吧！你會讓他們感到驚喜，而且在對話結(jié)束時，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)自己更自信了。
Number 9: Do something nice for a stranger. Take opportunities to be kind to others every day. You'll be amazed how good it feels! Pick up a dropped wallet for someone, or simply smile at a passerby. These are little gestures most people won't take the effort to do, but will give respect if you do! Not only will you feel better, but your gracious act will be much appreciated.
第九，為陌生人做好事。每一天都抓住機會，讓別人感受到你的友好。你會感到驚喜，因為這真的會令你感到快樂。幫別人撿起掉落的錢包，或者對一個路人微笑，人們很少這樣做，但是如果你這樣對他們，他們會非常尊重你。這樣一來，你會感到愉悅，而且你的舉動會令他人很感激你。
Number 10: Take care of yourself. People who take care of themselves are more attractive because they emanate self-discipline. Being in control of yourself means that you are able to meet your basic needs, and others don't perceive you as being a burden. Eating nutritiously, exercising regularly, and attending to your physical, mental and emotional health should be an important part of your daily routine.
第十，好好照顧自己。那些能好好照顧自己的人，比常人更有吸引力，因為他們身上散發(fā)著自律的氣息。管理好自己的生活，意味著你能夠滿足自己的基本需求，那么別人就不會把你看成一個負擔。吃得有營養(yǎng)，保持有規(guī)律的運動，讓自己在生理上、精神上、情感上都保持健康，這應(yīng)該成為你的日常習(xí)慣。
Can you think of any other simple habits to add to this list?
還有哪些簡單的習(xí)慣能讓你更有吸引力、更受歡迎？你能想出來嗎？
