如果你想改變你的人生,我的意思是,徹底地改變你的人生,你必須首先改變你對(duì)自己的看法。這一切都與信念有關(guān),因?yàn)椴还茉趺礃?,無(wú)論你工作得多賣(mài)命,無(wú)論你付出了多少時(shí)間,如果你不相信自己可以改變?nèi)松?,那你就做不到。你做不到,是因?yàn)楫?dāng)你遇到困難的時(shí)候,你會(huì)放棄。你會(huì)耽誤時(shí)間。你會(huì)編造出各種各樣的借口,因?yàn)槟悴幌嘈抛约赫娴目梢愿淖內(nèi)松?/p>
But if you identify yourself as someone who does achieve that particular thing, when you get to those impossible moments, you will rise to the occasion! You will rise! You will rise because you will believe you can do it. Even if there's only 1% of people in the world capable of achieving it, you'll believe you are in that one percent. Because you identify yourself as a winner, you identify yourself as someone who will do whatever it takes, someone who is willing to go through the pain to get to the other side. You identify yourself as someone who will win, in the end, no matter what.
但是,如果你認(rèn)為自己是一個(gè)真的能夠有所成就的人,當(dāng)你遇到困難時(shí),你就會(huì)迎難而上!你會(huì)走上坡路!你會(huì)往高處走,因?yàn)槟阆嘈拍隳茏龅健>退闶澜缟现挥邪俜种坏娜擞心芰ψ龅?,在那時(shí)你也會(huì)相信自己就是那百分之一。因?yàn)槟銓⒆约阂暈閯僬?,將自己視為一個(gè)愿意為此付出所有努力的人,一個(gè)勇于接受歷練煎熬去越過(guò)高峰的人。無(wú)論如何,你會(huì)將自己看作終將勝利的人。
Think about habits and addictions you want to change. If you're a smoker for example, no matter what processes you go through to change your habit of smoking, you'll never change it long term if you still identify yourself as a smoker, if you see the process as hard, or see it like it is taking something away from you. It's taking away your stress release, or whatever story you tell yourself. You see, the people who quit smoking without cravings, they do so because their new identity has changed. They're not smoking anymore. Smoking is equal to death. Smoking, the bad habit, is viewed as something that takes away from their life, not adds to it. It's the same for any habit, any addiction, anything you want to change in your life.
想一想那些你想改變的習(xí)慣和嗜好。比如,如果你是個(gè)煙民,不論你戒煙要經(jīng)歷何種困難,只要你還認(rèn)為自己是個(gè)煙民,只要你認(rèn)為這個(gè)過(guò)程過(guò)于困難,或者認(rèn)為這會(huì)讓你失去一些東西,那么你就永遠(yuǎn)無(wú)法長(zhǎng)期戒煙。你看,那些成功戒煙的人,他們能夠做到這樣,是因?yàn)樗麄冊(cè)谛闹袨樽约簶?shù)立了新的形象。他們?cè)僖膊粫?huì)吸煙了。吸煙等于死亡。他們認(rèn)為,吸煙這個(gè)壞習(xí)慣百害而無(wú)一利。這和其他習(xí)慣、嗜好或者任何你想改變的東西,道理都是一樣的。
Change your identity, and change the meaning you give to that thing and you'll be able to remove it and replace it with something that takes you to a much better place, somewhere you actually want to be. You've got to take a moment, by yourself and ask some deep and honest questions. You might want to write these down. Ask them, write your answers, then after that, write down how you want to see yourself.
改變自己的身份,改變你賦予它的意義,你會(huì)將舊的意義抹去,用能讓你變得更好的意義去替換它。你必須花點(diǎn)時(shí)間好好問(wèn)自己一些深刻的、誠(chéng)懇的問(wèn)題。也許你會(huì)想把它們寫(xiě)下來(lái)。問(wèn)自己這些問(wèn)題,并寫(xiě)下你的答案,然后寫(xiě)下你希望如何看待自己。
So, what is your current identity? How do you view yourself? In regards to your health, how do you view yourself? Are you someone who is healthy? Are you someone who has discipline to eat foods that make you stronger every day? Are you someone who exercises every day? If no, why not? If yes, can you train better, harder, differently so you feel at your peak every day?
那么,你現(xiàn)在的身份是什么?你是如何看待自己的?健康方面,你如何評(píng)價(jià)自己?你是一個(gè)健康的人嗎?你能自覺(jué)地吃那些讓你的身體更強(qiáng)壯的食物嗎?你每天都會(huì)運(yùn)動(dòng)嗎?如果你的回答是不,為什么?如果你回答是,你是否能更有效、更努力、甚至換種方式去鍛煉來(lái)讓自己每天都處于最佳狀態(tài)呢?
In regards to your achievements in life, can you do more? If yes, why haven't you? What is holding you back? Do you enjoy what you do for a living? What can you change to enjoy it more? How would you describe yourself in 3 sentences? Write it down. If you were to explain your qualities and struggles in 3 or less short sentences, to a complete stranger, how would you describe yourself? Write down whatever comes to your mind. This is not about being perfect or looking good. This is private. This is honest and if you're real and ready it will lead to change.
關(guān)于你現(xiàn)在的成就,你可以去爭(zhēng)取更多嗎?如果可以,為什么你還沒(méi)做到?是什么拖了你的后腿?你享受你的工作嗎?你能通過(guò)做出什么改變來(lái)使自己更享受這份工作?如果要用三個(gè)句子來(lái)描述自己,你會(huì)怎么說(shuō)?寫(xiě)下來(lái)。如果讓你用短短的三句話(huà)來(lái)向一位陌生人描述你的品質(zhì)和遇到的困難,你會(huì)如何描述自己?想到什么就寫(xiě)什么。這不是說(shuō)要讓你顯得很完美或很體面,這是私下的交流。這是真誠(chéng)的描述。如果你足夠誠(chéng)懇、做足了準(zhǔn)備,那么改變就會(huì)發(fā)生。
Now, write down how you want to see yourself. Picture one year from today. Imagine yourself one year from today after all the daily work you've put in to transform your life. Look at yourself from a birds-eye view. You're looking with pride because you are the exact person you want to be. You created this. You built this character.
接下來(lái),寫(xiě)下你想看到怎樣的自己。構(gòu)想一下一年后的今天。想象一下,一年后的今天,你在付出了這么長(zhǎng)時(shí)間的、日積月累的改變?nèi)松呐χ?,你?huì)是什么樣的。從鳥(niǎo)瞰的角度看一下你自己。你內(nèi)心感到自豪,因?yàn)槟憔褪悄莻€(gè)你想成為的人。你創(chuàng)造了這一切,你鍛造了自己的角色。
Now write down what qualities this person has. Write down in 2-3 short sentences who this person is. Is it someone who is completely authentically themselves? Is it someone who you see smiling all the time, someone with great relationships, someone who lights up everyone they come into contact with? Is it someone who has a crazy amount of physical energy? Someone who has unbreakable discipline – but that discipline comes easy? Is it someone that makes life look easy and fun? Someone who has created the wealth and happiness exactly as they pictured? Is it someone who learns and applies that learning to achieve results? Is it someone who keeps going and going and going? Who is that person?
現(xiàn)在,寫(xiě)下這個(gè)人所擁有的品質(zhì)。用兩三個(gè)短句描述一下這是誰(shuí)。他是一個(gè)真實(shí)的自己?jiǎn)??他是一個(gè)經(jīng)常將笑容掛在臉上的人的人嗎?是一個(gè)擁有良好的社會(huì)關(guān)系的人嗎?是一個(gè)能為他周?chē)娜藥?lái)光亮的人嗎?他是一個(gè)精力充沛的人嗎?他是一個(gè)極其自律、且自律對(duì)于他而言輕而易舉的人嗎?他是一個(gè)讓生活安適又有趣的人嗎?他是一個(gè)能創(chuàng)造出自己所期許的財(cái)富和幸福的人嗎?他是一個(gè)不斷學(xué)習(xí)并用學(xué)到的東西獲得成就的人嗎?他是一個(gè)堅(jiān)持不懈的人嗎?他是誰(shuí)?
Now, write one sentence. Who are you now? I am… I am someone who lives with passion. Someone who is disciplined with ease. I am someone who only consumes that which makes me stronger. Food. Learning. People. I am someone who lives every day to the fullest and pushes myself every today so I am stronger every tomorrow. I am someone who knows exactly where they are going so I only take actions that get me closer to that place in every area.
接下來(lái),寫(xiě)一句話(huà)?,F(xiàn)在,你是誰(shuí)?我是……我是一個(gè)懷著熱情去生活的人。我是一個(gè)能自如地做到自律的人。我是一個(gè)只做能讓我更強(qiáng)大的事的人。吃有益的食物,終身學(xué)習(xí),與優(yōu)秀的人交往。我是一個(gè)將每一天都活出極致的人。我是一個(gè)不斷鞭策今天的自己、去成就明天更優(yōu)秀的自己的人。我是這樣的一個(gè)人:我目標(biāo)明確,無(wú)論是在什么方面,我都只做讓我不斷靠近我的目標(biāo)的事情。
Who are you?
你是誰(shuí)?
Who are you?
你是誰(shuí)?
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