里昂夜讀英語美文[314]:奔三綜合癥
If you're approaching the big 30 and feeling suddenly aimless and insecure about your career and relationships,
如果你正在奔三的道路上，突然覺得自己對于職業(yè)生涯和感情關(guān)系缺乏目標(biāo)、又充滿不安全感，
you might in the middle of what we know anecdotally as a pre-30 meltdown.
也許你已經(jīng)患上了奔三綜合癥。
A Sense Of Not Measuring Up
癥狀一：什么都沒搞定的挫敗感
Now that your adult life seems to have officially arrived, you may be feeling the need to get it together, fast.
快步入30歲了，似乎意味著你的成年人生活正式到來，你或許有種迫切感要把一切該做好的事情盡快做好。
Try not to stress about getting all your ducks in a row by the time you hit 30
試著不要給自己壓力，讓自己在30歲一到就把這些事都挨個(gè)地完成。
the most important thing at this point in your life is to figure out what you want and be working towards it,
你生活中最重要的事情是知道自己到底要什么，并且朝著自己的目標(biāo)努力，
not to already "have it all."
而不是“把一切做完”。
Increased Insecurity About Dating And Relationships
癥狀二：對約會(huì)和戀愛缺乏安全感
Sadness and stress over a breakup, romantic relationship or lack of relationship
20幾歲之后，對于分手、戀愛或者單身都變得難過和焦慮，
is a common symptom of a late 20-something crisis.
這也是奔三綜合癥的癥狀之一。
It doesn't matter whether you're single, married, dating around, or coupled in any form
無論你現(xiàn)在是單身、已婚、還是約會(huì)中，
your relationship status becomes a daily source of stress and anxiety during the pre-30 crisis.
這些身份都會(huì)成為日常生活中壓力和焦躁的來源。
You may find yourself suddenly unsatisfied with a long-term relationship
你會(huì)突然就對長期的戀愛關(guān)系感到不滿，
or anxious about not having gained enough dating experiences in your 20s.
或者對20幾歲沒有多談戀愛變得焦慮起來。
Money Worries
癥狀三：擔(dān)心錢的問題
Suddenly, your financial situation may feel forebodingly unstable
突然間，你的經(jīng)濟(jì)狀況會(huì)讓你感到很不穩(wěn)定，
and looks a whole lot more pathetic than it ever did before.
比從前任何時(shí)候都讓人揪心。
By the age of 30, everyone should have learned to master certain basic money skills, like keeping a budget.
到了30歲，每個(gè)人都應(yīng)該學(xué)一些基本的理財(cái)方式，比如堅(jiān)持做預(yù)算。
There are plenty of tools available online and off to help you move towards financial stability going forward.
現(xiàn)在有很多線上和線下的理財(cái)工具，可以幫助你實(shí)現(xiàn)財(cái)務(wù)的穩(wěn)定和增值。
Constantly Comparing Yourself To Your Peers
癥狀四：常常與同齡人比較
The pre-30 crisis feeds on comparison to others of the same age,
奔三綜合癥的人會(huì)常常與同齡人去比較，
and it can lead to a constant nagging feeling that your life doesn't measure up.
造成的后果就是感到自己什么事都沒搞定。
You may be going on social media to check up on former friends and enemies to see who has their adult like "together" -- and who doesn't.
你也許會(huì)上社交媒體去看看過去的朋友和敵人現(xiàn)在都過得怎么樣了，有誰混得好了，有誰混不下去了。
But of course, in the end, neither outcome will make you feel better about your own situation.
無論結(jié)果如何，都不會(huì)改善你對自己的看法。
Sometimes, admit where you are, and refuse to be ashamed of it.
有時(shí)候，承認(rèn)自己所處的位置，不要因此而羞愧。
You're doing the best you can.
你就已經(jīng)做到了最好。
