美國文化脫口秀 第394期:英語social如何聊出質量?

和外國人聊三句就沒話題?談資老套、聊不出質量?聽Jenny和Spencer分享英語聊天實用建議;學自然、有質量的英語交流方法!

關鍵詞：

Run out of topics?

沒話題、很尷尬?

Do you run out of things to talk about or always talk about superficial topics?

你是否聊著聊著沒話題或者只能聊些很淺的內容?

英語聊天，主要靠：

Daily learning (日常累積)：英語+文化

Practical approach (實際步驟)：選擇切入點+適當擴展

How do you strike up conversations naturally with people whom you just met? 如何跟剛認識的人自然地開啟話題?

*Spencer對中文“搭訕”的理解有誤*：

strike up a conversation: 開始聊天，通用詞

hookup: 搭訕

Keep it natural

中國人、外國人都是人

放下壓力，松弛自然地交流

Don't memorize fixed things to say to people: 不要像背稿子一樣死記硬背

That's one of the reasons your conversations are very stale and limited. 那樣的話，你聊的內容總是很老套、很局限

Learn a useful train of thought or flow of logic: 掌握一些實用的談話邏輯

Jenny, Spencer先示范一下：

Assume we are at a social networking event and we don't know each other: 假設我們在一個社交場合，不認識彼此

Let's improv: 我們現(xiàn)場即興演示一下

自然的英語自我介紹方法

J: Hi, I'm Jenny. Nice to meet you!

S: Hey, how's it going? My name is Spencer. Where are you from?

J: I'm from Shanghai. What about you?

S: I come from the States, come from D.C. But I bounced around a bit over the past few years, so it's kind of hard to tell where I'm really from at this point.

J: I've been to the States almost ten times. But I've never been to DC, and I've always wanted to go.

S: You should check it out sometime. We've got a lot of cool stuff there. A lot of free museums are really fun to go to.

J: But I guess it's a bit crazy this time of the year, given all the election talks.

S: It's not as crazy as you may think it is. But if that guy, Trump, gets into the office, then all bets are off.

總結：

初次見面，聊天很簡單，從自己談起!

Talk about yourself: who you're, where you're from;

但是別兩句話結束, 多擴展一些.

Build on the conversation.

“What's your name?”

聽起來像小學生

怎么問?

Introduce your name first.

And say"And you are?"

例如:

Hi, I'm Jenny, and you are?

其實對方在聽了你的名字后，基本上會自然地告訴你他/她的名字。

擴展：談場景、談場合

Talk about the event, the immediate surroundings

Spencer's tip: I usually say something that has to do with the event.

Example: Someone just gave the speech. I might turn to somebody and say, "Hey, is it just me or did that speech make you wanna go to sleep, too?" 如果有人剛做了個演講。我可能就會對某人說：“嘿，是只有我一個人覺得困還是剛才那個演講讓你也犯困?”

It's just a way to open up the conversation. I can just be joking. I like to start off with some sort of joke. 這就是一種開場的方式。我喜歡講笑話。我喜歡用玩笑來開始對話。

If you don't have Spencer's sense of humor, just say: That was a great speech. 如果你沒有Spencer的幽默，那么就說：那個演講真不錯!

Then the conversation naturally flows from there. 然后對話就自然發(fā)展下去啦。

如何談工作?

除了"What's your job?"，還有更多問法：

如果你已經知道對方工作的行業(yè)(industry specific)，可以這么問：

What company are you with?

如果你什么都不知道，那么可以這么問：

What do you do for a living?

What kind of work do you do?

接著這些問題，可以繼續(xù)問下去：

How long have been working at this company/in this industry?

How long have you been in that line of work?

How long have you been working in (industry)?

How long have you been working in marketing?

When did you start your own company?

Have you always been in education?

Tailor your questions to what they do: 按照對方的行業(yè)進行擴展

"Where are you from?"

每個地方都有豐富的故事

Tie your conversation to the place he/she comes from.

Spencer's tip: People like to know that you're knowledgeable of where they come from. 人們喜歡你知道一些他家鄉(xiāng)的事。

I can meet someone from practically any corner of the world. 我會遇到從世界各地來的人。

Some little tidbit or some little piece of information I can throw out at them. They will feel: Wow, you know where I'm from! 我說一點跟他們家鄉(xiāng)有意思的小事情，他們都會覺得：哇，你知道那里!

It will lead to very interesting and meaningful exchange. 這會讓對話變得有意思，而且有意義。

英語social如何聊出質量?

累積美國文化知識，絕對用得到!

If you've been to where they're from or know something about the place, talk about that: 如果你去過那里，或者知道那里的特色，就可以談談

即使你沒去過，也有很多可以說!

What is (where they're from) like? 你的家鄉(xiāng)是怎么樣的呀?

I've always wanted to go there but I haven't had the chance. Tell me more about it. 我總想去那兒，但一直沒機會。你給我講講吧

In return, talk about your city. 反過來，你也可以講講你的城市

怎么自然地結束談話?

Wrap up a conversation gracefully

Another role play 再來演一下

S: It's been a real pleasure meeting you today. I hope to encounter you at another one of these events.

J: Likewise. Do you use WeChat?

S: That, I do. But I'm usually out of China. So when I'm out, I usually use WhatsApp. Do you have WhatsApp? I know we're a little behind with the WhatsApp. It's easier to contact me on there.

J: No, you have to get on WeChat, especially if you travel to China. It's great. In any case, I'm on LinkedIn, or we can exchange email.

S: Cool, why don't we just exchange email and maybe I'll get on that WeChat thing a bit in the future.

J: OK, sure. It's a pleasure meeting you and enjoy the rest of the evening.

S: Enjoy your stay here in Beijing.

結束談話，用下面三個步驟：

1.釋放結束信號(Signal)

It's been really nice meeting you.

It's been a pleasure meeting you.

It's been very nice talking to you.

2.交換聯(lián)絡方式 (exchange contact information)

Let's keep in touch.

Are you on WeChat?

Do you have a card?

3.最后說 (Enjoy...)

Enjoy the rest of ________.

Enjoy the rest of the/your day.

Enjoy the rest of the/your stay.

Enjoy the rest of the/your evening.

有質量的英語交流，一定要靠平時累積：

You need to build up your English skills and culture understanding.累積英語能力和文化認知

We should be bilingual and bicultural. 不僅有雙語能力，還有跨文化的理解