如果你真的愛自己，一定不會做這7件事

很多人，如果問他們的話，他們或許會說他們愛自己。但是當你觀察他們怎么對待自己時候，或許會得到一個不同的答案。
 

Here are 7 things you won’t do if you really love yourself.

如果你真的愛自己，你不會做這七件事。

1. You won’t over commit

你不會做過度承諾

People who love themselves know how to say no to a lot of things so they can say yes to the things that are really important to them.

愛自己的人知道怎么拒絕很多事情，所以他們才能去做真正對自己重要的事情。
 

2. You won’t be afraid to ask for help

你不害怕尋求幫助

You love yourself enough to know when you need help or when you will be helping another by letting them get involved.

你足夠愛自己，你知道什么時候自己需要幫助，或什么時候讓別人進入自己的生活是有幫助的。

You know you don’t have to be all things to all people and you don’t have to do everything yourself.

你知道你不需要為所有人做所有事，你也不需要什么事都自己做。
 

commit /k?'m?t/ v. 犯罪，做錯事;承諾

important /?m'p?: t(?)nt/ adj. 重要的，重大的

involve /?n'v?lv/ v. 包含;牽涉
 

3. You won’t rely on others to make you happy

你不需要依靠別人讓自己開心

Happiness is an inside job. If you wait for the perfect job, the perfect friend, a romantic outing planned by someone else – you may find yourself waiting to be happy.

幸福是一個關(guān)乎內(nèi)在的事情。如果你等著一份完美的工作，一個完美的朋友，一次由別人計劃的浪漫約會 — 你或許就會發(fā)現(xiàn)你在被動的等待幸福。

If you really love yourself, you will know what makes you happy.

如果你真的愛自己，你會知道什么會讓你開心。

4. You won’t compare yourself to others

你不會把自己和別人做比較

They say “comparison is the thief of joy”. Comparing your life, your job, your success to someone else is a recipe for disaster. You don’t have all the information and know that it’s best to focus on yourself and stop the comparison game.

他們說“攀比會偷走快樂”。和別人攀比你的生活，你的工作，你的成功就是制造災(zāi)難。你不需要什么都知道也明白最好關(guān)注自身，停止攀比游戲。
 

rely on /r?'la?/ 依賴;依靠

perfect /?p?: f?kt/ adj. 完美的;最好的

compare /k?m'pe?/ v. 相比;比較

comparison /k?m'pær?s(?)n/ n. 比較;對照

recipe /'res?p?/ n. 食譜;處方;秘訣

disaster /d?'zα: st?/ n. 災(zāi)難，災(zāi)禍

5. You won’t second guess your decisions

你不會重復(fù)猜疑自己的決定

While some people can make decisions quickly and others deliberate a long time, people who love themselves don’t second guess the decisions they make that can’t be undone.

當一些人能夠迅速做出決定而另一些人猶豫再三，那些愛自己的人不會重復(fù)猜疑他們做下的決定會做不到。

You learn from decisions and might make different ones the next time, but you don’t spend time and energy second guessing yourself.

你可以從自己做的決定中吸取教訓，下次可能會做出不同的選擇，但是你不要浪漫時間和精力重復(fù)猜疑自己。

6. You won’t feel guilty for taking “me time”

你不會因為有“自我時間”感到內(nèi)疚

When you fly, they always remind you that “in the case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others.” People who love themselves realize that that applies to everyday life as well.

當你坐飛機時，他們總是提醒你“以防緊急情況，在幫助別人之前先戴上自己的氧氣罩。”愛自己的人意識到這同樣適用于每天的日常生活。

Taking some “me time” to do things you enjoy and that renew you isn’tselfish, it’s vital.

用一些“自我時間”做一些自己喜歡的事，還可以充實自己，這并不是自私，這是很重要的。
 

decision /d?'s??(?)n/ n. 決定，決心

deliberate /d?'l?b(?)r?t/ adj. 故意的;深思熟慮的

undone /?n'd?n/ adj. 破滅的;未完成的

guilty /'g?lt?/ adj. 有罪的;內(nèi)疚的

remind /r?'ma?nd/ v. 提醒;使想起

emergency /?'m?: d?(?)ns?/ n. 緊急情況;突發(fā)事件

oxygen /'?ks?d?(?)n/ n. 氧氣

selfish /'self??/ adj. 自私的;利己主義的

vital /'va?t(?)l/ adj. 至關(guān)重要的
 

7. You won’t beat yourself up for making a mistake

你不會因為自己犯了錯而“痛打”自己

You forgive yourself, just as you forgive others, for making mistakes. Many people put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and then beat themselves up when they aren’t – not you! Because you love yourself, you know that you are human and that you can learn from your mistakes.

你原諒自己，就像你原諒別人犯了錯一樣。很多人給自己太大壓力一定要完美，當自己無法做到時就會自我厭棄，那不是你!因為你愛自己，你知道你是人，你可以從自己錯誤中學習。

The best form of self love is self-awareness, seeing when you are being unloving towards yourself and changing course.

自愛的最好的形式是自我意識，能察覺到你不愛自己，然后做出改變。

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you are perfect, it means you take care of yourself, are kind to yourself and show up in the world as best way you can every day.

愛自己并意味你是完美的，這意味著你照顧自己，對自己友善，并每天能夠以自己最好的狀態(tài)面對這個世界。
 

mistake /m?'ste?k/ n. 錯誤;誤會

forgive /f?'g?v/ v. 原諒;免除

pressure /'pre??/ n. 壓力;壓迫

self-awareness /,self?'we?nis/ n. 自我意識

towards /t?'w?: dz/ prep. 朝，向;對于