今天這篇文章,我花了很長時(shí)間閱讀,思考和分析,不是因?yàn)槠渲械膯卧~有多么難,而是被這篇文章的思維以及給出的方法感到十分欣賞。這篇文章主要講的是怎樣才能從最根本的意義上獲得快樂,幸福的人生。也是《早餐英語》在美文欄目中講解最長的一篇文章,今天分享給大家第一部分。希望能聽到,看到這個(gè)節(jié)目的你,真正的快樂起來,愛你們呦!
New Words:
Logotherapy n. 存在分析治療;言語療法;意義療法
crystal clear 完全透明的;極其明白,十分清楚
decision fatigue 決策疲勞
lasting adj. 持久的;永恒的
reach out to 聯(lián)系
rewire 配新電線(這里理解為改造你的大腦)
materialism n.物質(zhì)主義
select adj. 精選的;挑選出來的
Simple Ways to Shake off Sadness Right Now
1. Do what brings you meaning
Work on a project that demands your skills and abilities. If you have trouble coming up with one, then look for something important to work on that will help someone in need.
2. Start killing your options and get crystal clear on what you want
When you have many choices to make, you begin to make more poorer decisions. This is what’s known as decision fatigue.
The most important thing you can do to increase your level of happiness is by effectively reducing the amount of any unnecessary decisions you have to make in a day.
What you can do right now: Set up routines to help you accomplish the following:
a)Make most important decisions earlier in the day when your mind is more fresh.
b)Try to plan out your day the night before whenever possible.
c)Choose your meals in advance.
d)If you have to make an important decision but you’re hungry, eat first.
e)When you have too many choices, try to narrow it down and choose between a select few.
f)Automate your life as much as possible .
3. Create safe spaces to find yourself and beat the feeling of shame
Learning to have the courage to stay true to yourself is one of the keys to longer lasting happiness.
Start by looking yourself in the mirror each morning and telling yourself “I’m not perfect, but that’s ok”.
When you experience shame, talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love, reach out to someone you trust, and tell your story.
4. Get out of your comfort zone to rewire your brain
Think of a big goal in your life you’ve always wanted to accomplish, then create a situation that brings you out of your comfort zone that you’ll follow through with.
5. Kick materialism in the face and invest in experiences
material things usually only bring out a temporary amount of happiness at best. Happy experiences last as a happy memory forever.
What you can do right now:
a)Invest in a class you have always wanted to take.
b)Book a trip to somewhere you have always wanted to visit.
c)Get tickets to a popular show that you might like.
擺脫悲傷的簡單方法
1.做能給你帶來意義的事
開始一項(xiàng)能用到你技能和能力的項(xiàng)目。如果你遇到困難,那么找一些可以實(shí)質(zhì)上幫助別人的重要工作來做。
2. 消除選項(xiàng),弄清自己真正想要的
當(dāng)你不得不作出許多選擇時(shí),你就會(huì)做出更差勁的決定。這就是所謂的決策疲勞。
你提升幸福感最重要的就是要有效減少你一天中做的任何不必要的決定。
你現(xiàn)在能做什么?:
設(shè)置一個(gè)日程來幫助你完成下面的事情:
a)在你頭腦更清醒的時(shí)候,做最重要的決定。
b)盡量在可能的前一天晚上安排好你的一天。
c)提前選擇膳食。
d)如果你必須做出一個(gè)重要的決定,但你餓了,就先吃吧。
e)當(dāng)你有太多的選擇時(shí),試著把它縮小到選擇幾個(gè)之間。
3.創(chuàng)造安全空間,找到自我,戰(zhàn)勝羞恥感。
學(xué)會(huì)有勇氣堅(jiān)持自己是擁有持久幸福的關(guān)鍵之一。
從每天早晨照鏡子開始告訴自己“我不完美,但沒關(guān)系”。
當(dāng)你感到羞愧的時(shí)候,像對(duì)你所愛的人說話一樣,對(duì)自己說話,找你信任的人,告訴他們你的故事。
4. 走出你的舒適區(qū),改變你的大腦
想想你一生中一直想要完成的一個(gè)大目標(biāo),然后創(chuàng)造一個(gè)能讓你走出舒適區(qū)的局面。
5. 打擊物質(zhì)注意,投資更多體驗(yàn)
物質(zhì)的東西通常只會(huì)帶來暫時(shí)的幸福??鞓返慕?jīng)歷永遠(yuǎn)是幸福的回憶。
你現(xiàn)在能做什么?:
a)投資一個(gè)你一直想學(xué)的課程。
b)預(yù)定一個(gè)你一直想去的地方旅行。
c)買一張你可能喜歡的流行表演的票。
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