現(xiàn)在已是成年人的你,希望年輕時(shí)自己能懂得哪些人生教誨呢?
下面是7位網(wǎng)友的分享,看看他們都想跟年輕的自己說(shuō)點(diǎn)什么?
1. Emily Filloramo
The Universe conspires to purposely give us negative experiences for the evolution of our souls.
在心靈成長(zhǎng)方面,上天似乎蓄意要給我們?cè)O(shè)下糟糕的經(jīng)歷。
There are going to be many painful moments but rest assured that there is a bigger purpose behind the pain.
生活會(huì)充滿(mǎn)許多痛苦時(shí)刻,但痛苦之下定有遠(yuǎn)大目標(biāo)。
It is up to us to connect the dots of our lives looking backwards and make “lemonade” out of our lemons.
所以需要我們自己懂得反思過(guò)去,將生活中的點(diǎn)滴串聯(lián)起來(lái),努力把“檸檬”變成“檸檬汁”。
Watch Steve Job’s Stanford Commencement Address ”How to Live Before You Die”, where he talks about connecting the dots of your life looking backwards.
去看看喬布斯斯坦福大學(xué)畢業(yè)演講《死前該怎樣生活》,里面就講到要回顧過(guò)去,把生活中的點(diǎn)點(diǎn)滴滴串聯(lián)起來(lái)。
2. Katie Simpson
I wish I could tell my younger self to pursue what gives me joy, what makes me passionate. Not in the sense of chasing happiness but finding meaning, contentment every day. I was so worried about what others thought of me, I didn’t give any weight to my own thoughts or opinions. I got lost in expectation, in what I should do, rather than what I wanted.
我希望能告訴年輕時(shí)的自己,去追尋能給我快樂(lè)和激情的事情。不是說(shuō)要尋求快樂(lè),而是每天要能過(guò)得知足而有意義吧。年輕時(shí)我總是擔(dān)心別人會(huì)怎么看我,卻從不曾關(guān)心過(guò)自己內(nèi)心的想法或觀點(diǎn)。我迷失在他人的期望中,做著應(yīng)該做的事情,而不是自己渴望做的事情。
In the end, our lives are our own. We must live each and every moment til death. It won’t always be easy nor fun. Still, pursuing passion has made my life worthwhile. It gives me the sense that I give my life purpose. For me, that is enough.
歸根結(jié)底,我們的人生只屬于我們自己。所以,活著的時(shí)候就應(yīng)該過(guò)好每一分每一秒。有時(shí)這既不容易也不有趣。可是,跟隨激情卻能讓我活得有價(jià)值有意義,讓我覺(jué)得生活是有奔頭的。對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō),這就夠了。
This is a very personal experience, but my younger self was much wiser, braver and daring than my older self… When we’re young life is an adventure, we’re fearless, brave and don’t think of the consequences ( or get paralysed by fear ) as much as when we’re older and went through a series of disappointments, rough times and lack of perspectives. We pile up negative emotions based on negative experiences we barely even knew exist when we were young so….
這純粹是個(gè)人經(jīng)歷,不過(guò)年輕時(shí)的我要比現(xiàn)在更加聰明勇敢吧……年輕時(shí),生活就是一場(chǎng)冒險(xiǎn),我們無(wú)所畏懼、勇敢且不計(jì)后果(或者被恐懼嚇破了膽);長(zhǎng)大之后,我們經(jīng)歷了一系列的失望、困難和無(wú)助,由于這些年輕時(shí)想都想不到的糟糕經(jīng)歷,我們變得越來(lái)越消極……
I would have to put it the other way around. What life lessons would my younger self wish my older self would keep in mind? I wish my older self could remember more often to live without fears, without over thinking about consequences or let negative past events dictate my decisions.
我寧愿換個(gè)方式來(lái)講述:年輕時(shí)的自己希望現(xiàn)在的我能知道怎樣的人生教誨呢?希望現(xiàn)在的我能時(shí)刻記得要無(wú)所畏懼地生活,不要糾結(jié)于后果或讓過(guò)去的不快經(jīng)歷影響我的決定。
Every day is a new day and a new chance to improve, push out boundaries and grow. The past is gone and taking life too seriously won’t make it brighter .
每天都是新的一天,是提高自我、打破界限并獲得成長(zhǎng)的新機(jī)會(huì)。過(guò)去的已經(jīng)過(guò)去,太一本正經(jīng)并不能讓生活變得更陽(yáng)光。
3. Chris Haigh
The lesson I wish I could have told my younger self is that life is almost never how you plan it. It unfolds in strange and terrifying and sometimes wonderful ways, but trying to control life is almost impossible – that’s not to say that you can’t control how you react to the stuff that happens.
我希望年輕時(shí)的自己能知道的人生教誨就是,生活從來(lái)都不是你計(jì)劃的那樣。生活以陌生、可怕或精彩的方式呈現(xiàn)出來(lái),而企圖控制生活幾乎是不可能的——當(dāng)然,這不是說(shuō)你無(wú)力控制自己應(yīng)對(duì)變故的方式。
Be fluid, be flexible. Enjoy what happens and let your life go where it’s supposed to go. You’ll be happier as a result. And most importantly – you’re going to be okay.
要靈活應(yīng)變,要享受當(dāng)下、隨遇而安,然后你會(huì)更快樂(lè)。而且最重要的是——你會(huì)過(guò)得還不錯(cuò)吧。
4. Jeanne Floresca
I would tell my younger self to trust her intuition. That it will never steer her wrong.
我想告訴年輕時(shí)的自己,要相信直覺(jué)。直覺(jué)永遠(yuǎn)都不會(huì)指錯(cuò)路。
I realize I could have saved myself from a lot of stupid drama in my younger adult years if I just listened to my gut instinct more.
我發(fā)現(xiàn),如果年輕時(shí)能多聽(tīng)從直覺(jué)的話(huà),或許就能避免很多愚蠢的經(jīng)歷。
The older I get, the more it is confirmed; I know what is right for me and it comes from a deep knowing. I guess you can call it “knowledge from your higher-self.”
越長(zhǎng)大我就越確信這一點(diǎn);我知道什么是適合我的,從內(nèi)心深處就知道了。我想這就是所謂 “更高自我的覺(jué)悟” 吧。
I would also emphasize to my younger self to nurture her spirituality because this is how she will hone her intuitive powers.
我還想告訴年輕時(shí)的自己,要培養(yǎng)精神成長(zhǎng),因?yàn)檫@樣才能讓自己的直覺(jué)力量變強(qiáng)大。
Yes, I said “powers” because I want her to know she is the hero of her story and all heroes have powers.
沒(méi)錯(cuò),我說(shuō)的是“力量”,因?yàn)槲蚁M贻p時(shí)的自己知道,“她”就是故事中的主角,而所有主角都擁有自己的力量。
5. Liz Brazier
I would want to sit my younger self down and tell it “you are not a failure if your life doesn’t follow the traditional marriage and children path”.
我想讓年輕時(shí)的自己坐下來(lái),然后告訴她:“要是不走傳統(tǒng)的結(jié)婚生子那條路,你也不是失敗的人。”
Telling my younger self that success in life for you does not have to be shown by having a long term relationship, and that you offer so much to the world as you uniquely are.
我想告訴年輕時(shí)的自己:成功不一定就是能維持長(zhǎng)久的伴侶關(guān)系,你是獨(dú)一無(wú)二的,你也為世界作了很多貢獻(xiàn)。
Additionally, letting the young me know that peace and happiness comes from focusing on living your life in this present moment versus worrying about decisions made in the past or events that may never happen in the future.
而且,我還希望年輕時(shí)的自己知道,平靜與快樂(lè)來(lái)自對(duì)當(dāng)下生活的享受,而不是為過(guò)去已經(jīng)做出的決定或?qū)?lái)尚未發(fā)生的事情而擔(dān)憂(yōu)。
6. Alex Strike
Now, looking back, I understand that my younger self was not confident enough. And maybe it will sound weird, but he thought a lot before doing something. All these “and what if…”, “what they will think” things, you know.
現(xiàn)在回顧過(guò)去,我發(fā)現(xiàn)年輕時(shí)的自己不夠自信?;蛟S聽(tīng)上去有些奇怪,但當(dāng)時(shí)我做事之前總是顧慮很多,總是想著“萬(wàn)一……”或“別人會(huì)怎么想……”之類(lèi)的,你懂的。
I would tell him “hey man, you are 18 (19,20 whatever)! Don’t be afraid of trying, risking, and following your dreams!”
我想告訴年輕時(shí)的自己:“嗨,你才18歲(19歲或20歲,隨便)!別害怕去嘗試、冒險(xiǎn)并追尋夢(mèng)想!”
And one more thing… I would advise him not to be afraid of love. Yes, it hurts sometimes, but it is a real blessing to experience this feeling, especially if it is mutual, but you are stupid enough not to understand that, and scared to accept that.
還有就是,我希望年輕時(shí)的自己不要畏懼愛(ài)情。是的,愛(ài)情有時(shí)會(huì)讓人受傷,但能經(jīng)歷一場(chǎng)愛(ài)情還是很美好的——尤其是兩情相悅的話(huà)??僧?dāng)時(shí)我太傻,不懂也不敢面對(duì)它。
7. Bookie Efstat
I would have loved my younger self to know just this one thing: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself - Roosevelt”. Or in other words, just that fear holds you back, does not let you live your life to the fullest, or let you make enough mistakes in order to reach your potentials, while at the same time it is totally meaningless and mostly irrational.
我只希望年輕時(shí)的自己能知道這一點(diǎn):“我們唯一害怕的只是害怕本身。——羅斯福”,或者換句話(huà)說(shuō),當(dāng)時(shí)我真的就被害怕給絆住了,沒(méi)能盡情享受生活,或?yàn)榱送诰驖撃芏赶潞芏噱e(cuò)誤,雖然這些錯(cuò)誤可能毫無(wú)意義或極其沖動(dòng)。
So if my younger self was in front of me now I would say: Too many regrets come from things we did not do just from fear of the outcome. And a life without regrets is all I would ever hope for. Please challenge your fears now!
所以,如果年輕時(shí)的自己就在我面前,我會(huì)說(shuō):“很多后悔都是因?yàn)槲覀儺?dāng)時(shí)害怕后果而沒(méi)能去做那些事情。但我從沒(méi)期望過(guò)完全沒(méi)有悔恨的生活。所以,現(xiàn)在請(qǐng)向你的恐懼發(fā)起挑戰(zhàn)吧!”