無(wú)悔人生 勇追目標(biāo)
你會(huì)不會(huì)對(duì)某件新事物抱以三分熱情?開(kāi)始的時(shí)候斗志昂揚(yáng),接著半途而廢。一遇到絆腳石,就喪失信心,然后很挫敗地想:“還是放棄眼前的努力算了。”
Well, you're not alone. Following through is one of the most challenging tasks, specifically when it comes to something you are doing for yourself. I say this because if you were working at a job for somebody else, I am sure you have no problem completing the task on time, and following through to the end. After all, your job and weekly pay depend on it.
其實(shí),不止你有那樣的遭遇。世上最大的挑戰(zhàn)就是始終如一地堅(jiān)持,要是這個(gè)堅(jiān)持關(guān)乎自己,難度尤甚。我這樣說(shuō)的依據(jù)是當(dāng)你為別人效力時(shí),肯定會(huì)將準(zhǔn)時(shí)完成任務(wù)的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)貫徹到底。畢竟,那決定了你的業(yè)績(jī)和薪水。
However, for some reason, when it comes to your personal goals, you let things slide.
遺憾的是,在追求個(gè)人目標(biāo)途中心有旁騖之際,你就毅然放棄了。
What gives?
有沒(méi)有搞錯(cuò)?
Why the hell do we work harder for others than ourselves?
為別人工作居然比為自己還賣力,這究竟是怎么了?
Isn't that a little backwards?
應(yīng)該是顛倒了主次吧!
Don't your dreams matter?
你的夢(mèng)想還在嗎?
If you said, “YES!” I have 3 ways to get you to follow-through on your goals.
如果你有所醒悟,我就給你三條勇追目標(biāo)的忠告吧。
1. Decide If You Really Want It:
This is a tough one. There are things we think we want, and then there are things we really want. Imagine you say to yourself, “I want to start taking Zumba classes.” Yet, you don't follow through. When you don't follow through, you need to ask yourself if you really want it. If you just say you want it because your friend is doing it, or because you read somewhere that it's fun, then you won't have the inner motivation to take action. However, when the motivation comes from within, the desire to take action is a lot stronger. Basically, you need to get honest with yourself, and decide if you are intrinsically motivated to take action, or if it is merely something you think you should be doing.
堅(jiān)定目標(biāo)
認(rèn)清內(nèi)心的渴望有點(diǎn)難度,世上有兩樣?xùn)|西,一樣是我們想要的,另外一樣是我們渴望的。如果你中途放棄了目標(biāo),那就問(wèn)問(wèn)自己是否真有那么需要它。如果你的初衷僅僅是想追隨朋友,或因小興趣而致,那你就沒(méi)有付之行動(dòng)的內(nèi)在動(dòng)力。一旦內(nèi)在動(dòng)力爆發(fā),執(zhí)行力度絕對(duì)強(qiáng)硬。最為主要的還是誠(chéng)實(shí)地面對(duì)自己,看自己是渴望熾烈地追求目標(biāo),還是僅僅想打發(fā)時(shí)間而已。
2. Wash Fear Aside:
Once you establish that you want it, you may still encounter fear. You may think, “I really want to try Zumba, but I am afraid I will look silly… or, what if I don't know what I'm doing?” Those are the old fear patterns that are bound to come up. When you REALLY want something, the want must overpower the fear. This is where giving yourself a pep-talk works wonders to get you to take action, despite the fear. Just think about what I said earlier: if this was a job requirement, you would do it anyways. Well this is Project YOU. Decide to give yourself as much care and attention you would to your job. There will never be a magic pill to get you to take action. Life is too precious to not follow your dreams. Pep-talk yourself until you get yourself taking action. Imagine your life depends on it. Oh, it does.
勇敢追求
即使你堅(jiān)定了目標(biāo),也會(huì)在追求的途中倉(cāng)皇失措。有時(shí)會(huì)覺(jué)得,“我超想跳尊巴,但又覺(jué)得自己跳起來(lái)很丑……有時(shí)都不知道該跳哪一拍。”那些潛伏的恐懼也會(huì)接踵而至。如果你真的渴望去做某些事情,那份渴望定能克服恐懼。勇敢之心產(chǎn)生的奇跡能助你掃除一切阻礙,即使恐懼又怎樣。仔細(xì)揣摩我前面說(shuō)的話:如工作時(shí)遇到麻煩,你都會(huì)排除萬(wàn)難。那要是關(guān)于你自己的夢(mèng)想呢?可否把對(duì)工作的熱情和關(guān)心等量加在自己身上?世上沒(méi)有任何魔法能驅(qū)使你追求夢(mèng)想。人生也因夢(mèng)想才顯得那么珍貴。唯有你才能鼓勵(lì)自己放手去追。生命的精彩全呈現(xiàn)在這追逐的過(guò)程里。真的全在這里。
3. Schedule it in:
Once you have decided that you want something and that you are ready to take action, you need to make sure you take action. Not all things can happen right now, in this moment. If they can, get to it! Otherwise, you must schedule it in your calendar, the same way you do a doctor's appointment or important meeting. Recognize that your commitments to yourself need the same care that commitments to others receive. Furthermore, when you write it down, it makes it more concrete. It is the first physical step to taking action. This action alone starts to build the momentum you need to continue taking action to following through on your goal.
高瞻遠(yuǎn)矚
一旦你決定了要為夢(mèng)想奮力一搏,那么你就要有個(gè)精密的計(jì)劃。實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想并非眼前的一步之舉。機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)臨之時(shí),只有經(jīng)過(guò)萬(wàn)全的準(zhǔn)備才能將其一舉拿下!要是時(shí)機(jī)未到,就要細(xì)細(xì)地規(guī)劃一下,像約見(jiàn)醫(yī)生或開(kāi)重要會(huì)議一樣寫個(gè)行程表。對(duì)自己的承諾跟對(duì)他人的承諾同樣重要。白紙黑字地寫出計(jì)劃,夢(mèng)想會(huì)變得更加明確。然這僅是實(shí)際行動(dòng)的第一步。它能為后面追求的道路打下了夯實(shí)的基礎(chǔ)。