You should have it figured out by 35

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People say you can change your career thirty,that's when you meant to be settling down.

人們說你可以在你三十歲的時候改變你的職業(yè)生涯，那就是你打算安定下來的時候。

You can't change your career at 35, you should have had it figured out by then. oh my god you are not married at 38？what the hell are you doing with your life.

你不可能在35歲的時候改變你的職業(yè)生涯，你應該意識到這一點。天啊，你知道38歲還沒結(jié)婚嗎？你的生活到底在做什么？

Who Comes up with this stuff?I have no idea, This stuff plagues so many people, that I speak to.

誰提出來這些觀點？我不知道， 同我交談的人中有很多人被這樣的事情折磨著。

So many people open up to me and say Jay I just don't know how to change ，is it possible？what do you think this guy was before he became who he is? he used to be a P.E. teacher. right? sports teacher .At a high school.

許多人敞開心扉對我說：Jay，我就是不知道該如何改變，我有可能改變嗎？你們覺得這個男人以前是做什么的？他是一名體育老師，一名高中的體育老師。

How about her? She was a telemarketer for two weeks.

她呢？她做過兩周的網(wǎng)上銷售工作。

how about her? She applied to be a funeral director.

她呢？（安吉麗娜朱莉）她曾經(jīng)想當一名殯儀館館長。

that's incredible.

真實難以置信。

What happens in society is that we`re clouded by the noise.

當今社會，我們被噪音包圍著。

The noise of family expectations ,the noise of our parents ,the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations.

家人的期盼,父母的教誨，兄弟姐妹的影響。

I grew up in a family where you could either be a doctor ,a lawyer, or a failure. Right？

我長大在一個家庭，在那里你樂意成為一個醫(yī)生，一個律師，或者一個失敗者。好吧。

Those were my three options. Anything else would just count me as failure . I would have failure ,so basically ,I failed . right， I'm standing up here in front of you all ,as a failure.

這就是我的三個選擇，做其他任何事情，都會被認為是一個失敗者?；旧?，我也確實失敗了，今天我站在你們所有人面前，也是以一個失敗者的身份。

I lived as a monk for three years. I committed career suicide .I turned down two amazing corporate job offers. when I graduated from business school. I shaved my hair, I wore robes ，and lived out of a gym locker for three years.

我當過三年僧人，我放棄了事業(yè)，當我從商學院畢業(yè)的時候，我拒接了兩家特別好的公司的工作邀請。我剃了頭發(fā)，穿上了長袍，在外邊過了三年沒有健身的生活。

And I did that, because I thought I was going to do something meaningful , help impact the world. And it was one one of the best experiences of my life.

我當初那么做，是因為我想做一些有意義的事情，來幫助影響世界。那是我一生之中最美好的時光之一。

But more than becoming a monk, what that trained me to do was drop out with the rules.

但是比當一個僧人更重要的是，它教會了我拋開規(guī)則。

People told me ，if you come back in three years, you`ll never get a job, they told me, if you become a monk, People are going to thing you`re weird forever .No girl is ever going to talk to you!

人們告訴我，如果你三年后回來，你會找不到工作，他們還說，如果你成了僧人，人們就永遠覺得你怪怪的，就不會有女孩愿意和你說話。

People told me, well, when you come back to real life. Like will you even be able to talk English? And people were just really weirded out.

人們告訴我，當你回到現(xiàn)實生活當中，比方說,你還會說英語嗎?人們會感到納悶。

I`m just like, Okay I think monks speak English.

我說，好吧，我覺的僧人就是說英語的。

And there was so much different noises that I'm hearing when I made that decision.

我那時聽到很多不同的聲音，當我做出那個決定的時候。

And the funny thing is ，from having not been a monk for 4 years now, I am in one of the most incredible period of my life that I could ever have asked for.

有趣的是，還俗4年到現(xiàn)在，我處于人生曾經(jīng)最渴求的階段之一。

And so much of that is based on the fact what I decided to do something different. So many of the times are expectations are driving us in a certain scenario, we focus so much on life in what we want to be ，as opposed to who we want to be.

而這些都基于這樣一個事實，我要做與眾不同的事情。所以大多時候，期望在某種情況下驅(qū)動著我們。我們專注于在生活中，我們想成為什么，而不是成為誰。

Because we've always been told that, life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers, There's only a finite number of options. There is no formula, There is no pattern.

因為我們總是被告知，生活，工作，事業(yè)像盒子和箱子。只有一些有限的選擇。沒有公式，沒有模式。

If you know what you're passionate about ? if you know what you're good at? and you invest in that.

如果你知道哦自己的激情是什么？如果你知道自己擅長什么？并投身其中。

People say ，follow your passions， I say ，forget that, invest your passions.

有人說要追隨你的激情，我說，忘掉這個，要投資你的激情，

If you're passionate about something, go and become the best at it, go and do a course on it, go and learn from the best. Go and find a mentor who is going to make you Incredible at that trait. Not only will you be criticized and grow, you will be able to find new things about yourself that you never knew.

如果你對某事有激情，那就變得精通干這件事，去學習相關(guān)的課程，從精英哪里學習，去尋找良師益友，他們會讓你擁有不可思議的特質(zhì)。你不僅會被批評，成長，而且會發(fā)現(xiàn)自身新的特點。

Don't trade who you are for who you think the world needs, because world need you to be you, and I mean that.

不要讓自己成為你覺得世界需要的人，因為這個世界需要你做你自己，這就是我的意思。