I've yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace.The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other.Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle.Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what's wrong with something and our need to fix it.When we are zeroed in on what's wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied, discontent.
我還未碰見過一位在生活中他的內(nèi)心十分平和的真正的完美主義者。對(duì)完美的渴求及對(duì)內(nèi)心平靜的熱望水火不相容。無論何時(shí)我們想用某種比其現(xiàn)存狀態(tài)更進(jìn)一步的方式擁有某物時(shí),我們已從理論上陷入了一場(chǎng)失敗的戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)。我們不是對(duì)我們擁有的某物感到滿足,心存感激,相反地,我們將注意力集中于該事物的缺點(diǎn)及我們?nèi)绾螐浹a(bǔ)這些缺點(diǎn)上。當(dāng)我們把注意力集中在事物出了什么毛病之時(shí),它意味著我們不滿意,不滿足。