時(shí)差N小時(shí):為酗酒的女兒煩惱
親愛Annie：我還未婚的30歲女兒養(yǎng)成了飲酒的壞習(xí)慣，這么多年都沒有得到改善。
We have encouraged Terrie to get alcohol counseling or attend A.A.
我們鼓勵(lì)過Terrie去戒毒所或參加戒酒互助會(huì)。
She tried it once and quit. I believe she is bipolar, but mental health counselors will not treather until she quits drinking.
她曾經(jīng)嘗試過，但還是放棄了。我覺得她處于兩個(gè)極端，但是心理健康咨詢師說直到她把酒癮戒掉才能給她心理上的治療。
After her last outburst, I sent her a text message and said we could no longer have arelationship unless she gets help.
在她上次發(fā)病后，我寫給她一張便條，上面寫著除非她接受治療，要不我們就斷絕關(guān)系。
Shortly after, she left town and moved to Florida with a friend who also drinks.
不久后，她離開了，和一個(gè)同樣酗酒的朋友搬去了佛羅里達(dá)州.
Should I keep the lines of communication open, or will my ultimatum help her reach bottomso she can start climbing back up?
我應(yīng)該與她保持溝通,或者再最后忍耐一下，也許這樣她就可以回來了?
I tried Al-Anon, but the members only offer support and friendship to each other, which is nice,but it doesn't change my daughter.
我去過匿名戒酒者協(xié)會(huì)，但那兒的成員都是彼此提供支持與幫助，那兒很好，不過卻沒能改變我女兒。
— Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: Al-Anon is not intended to change the alcoholic's behavior,only your response to it.
一位母親提到：匿名戒酒者協(xié)會(huì)不是在有意改變酗酒者的行為，而要改變你們的反應(yīng)。
Choosing not to stay in touch would be for your mental health, not hers.
選擇不去交流，可能對(duì)你的精神健康有益，而不對(duì)她有益。
No one can "fix" Terrie until she admits she has a problem, and she doesn't seem ready.
沒人能修正Terrie的人生，除非她能正視自己的問題，而且現(xiàn)在看來，她好像還沒有準(zhǔn)備好。
Many who are bipolar self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and there are treatmentprograms that address both disorders.
世界上有很多極端地使用酒精或毒品的人，而且現(xiàn)在也有許多針對(duì)這兩種神經(jīng)錯(cuò)亂的治療方案。
If Terrie wants help, she should contact a university medical center department of psychiatryfor a referral.
如果Terrie需要幫助，我建議她聯(lián)系大學(xué)醫(yī)療中心的心理科。
