他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡你 第77期:無(wú)法自由愛就不是真愛
第10章
He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (andOther Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)
如果他結(jié)婚了(或者有其它離譜的得不到的理由)那他只是沒那么喜歡你
If You're Not Able to Love Freely, It's Not Really Love
如果你無(wú)法自由去愛，那就不是真愛
This is going to be controversial, but I am going tosay it anyway.
這會(huì)導(dǎo)致爭(zhēng)議，但是我無(wú)論如何都要這么說。
No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fullyand honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.
不管你對(duì)一個(gè)人的感情多么濃烈真實(shí)，如果這個(gè)人無(wú)法全心全意的回報(bào)然后積極的愛你，那這些感情什么都不是。
Sure, they may feel powerful, deep, mythic in scope and proportion.
當(dāng)然了，也許它們?cè)诜秶捅壤细杏X強(qiáng)烈、深厚、如同神話般。
You may "never ever have felt this way before."
你也許“從未有過如此感受。”
But who cares? If the person you "love" (and I make air-quote with my fingers) cannot freelyspend his days thinking about you and being with you, it's not real love.
但是誰(shuí)在乎呢?如果你“愛”的人(我做了個(gè)手指在空中比兔子耳朵的動(dòng)作)無(wú)法自由的花時(shí)間去想念你和你在一起，那就不是真愛。
The "But His Wife Is Such a Bitch" Excuse
“但是他的妻子是個(gè)婊子”的借口
Dear Greg,
親愛的格雷格，
I'm dating my married boss. We've kept it on the down-low so no one will find out about it.
我正在跟我的已婚老板約會(huì)。我們很低調(diào)，所以別人不會(huì)發(fā)覺。
I really, really love him, and he loves me.
我真的真的很愛他，他也愛我。
I know it's wrong to date a married man, but his wife is so awful to him.
我知道跟一個(gè)已婚男人在一起是錯(cuò)誤的，但是他的妻子待他很壞。
She calls him names and tells him that he's stupid.
她叫他的名字說他蠢。
They never have sex. He tells me that I'm the only thing keeping him going.
他們從不做愛。他告訴我我是唯一讓他堅(jiān)持下去的存在。
How can I leave him when he's going through such a hard time and I love him so much?
在他經(jīng)歷如此困難時(shí)期而我又如此愛他的情況下，我怎能離他而去?
Signed Blaire
布萊爾
