生活英語(yǔ)聽(tīng)力文章：建立至關(guān)重要的人際關(guān)系
Building Relationships That Last
建立持久的人際關(guān)系。
While the Internet now allows us to connect in new ways and stay connected regardless of where we are, the fundamental skills of building relationships remain unchanged.
雖然現(xiàn)在網(wǎng)絡(luò)提供了忽略距離的保持聯(lián)系的新方式，但是建立人際關(guān)系的基本技能并未改變。
Today’s lesson is an important reminder for all of us that the key to any long-term relationship is making sure that you give at least as much as you get.
今天的課程對(duì)我們所有人說(shuō)都是一個(gè)重要的提示，那就是保持長(zhǎng)久人際關(guān)系的關(guān)鍵是確保你在人際關(guān)系中付出的至少和收獲的一樣多。
The value of relationships
人際關(guān)系的價(jià)值。
One of the most basic needs of humans is to have meaningful relationships with other people. Relationships connect us to each other in every aspect of our lives.
人類最基本的需求之一就是和他人建立有意義的人際關(guān)系。在生活的每一個(gè)方面，人際關(guān)系讓我們和他人連在了一起。
One of the greatest regrets many individuals express at the end of their lives is the lack of time they spent with their spouse, children, and special people. It’s time given to our loved ones and friends that fulfills us and brings meaning to our lives.
很多人在他們生命即將走完時(shí)最后悔的一件事是他們陪伴愛(ài)人、孩子、其他特別的人的時(shí)間太少?，F(xiàn)在是該為我們的愛(ài)人和給我們的生活帶來(lái)意義和滿足的朋友付出的時(shí)候了。
There are other benefits as well. Wholesome, long-term relationships bring happiness and health to our lives. Studies show that people with enriching relationships really do have more happiness and they experience less stress.
還有其他的好處呢。健康的長(zhǎng)久的人際關(guān)系能給我們的生活帶來(lái)幸福和健康。研究表明具有豐富關(guān)系的人確實(shí)有更多的幸福感，有更少的壓力。
Long-term relationships require deposits
長(zhǎng)久的人際關(guān)系需要存款。
Enduring relationships are those that may last 5, 10, 15, or more years. Clearly, not every relationship falls into this category, but if you want to build a long-term relationship—one that feeds and sustains you in the different areas of your life—you will need to be deliberate about the time and attention you give.
長(zhǎng)久的人際關(guān)系指至少維系了5年，10年，15年的關(guān)系。并不是每段人際關(guān)系都會(huì)這么久，但如果你想建立一段長(zhǎng)久的人際關(guān)系---一段能在生活的不同方面都滿足和支撐你的關(guān)系--你需要慎重考慮你所能付出的時(shí)間和精力。
For any relationship to last over a long period of time, it must be the kind where you offer value and meet the needs of the other person. I sometimes refer to this as making deposits into the relationship.
對(duì)于任一個(gè)持續(xù)很久的人際關(guān)系，他一定屬于這種在哪個(gè)地方你有價(jià)值并能迎合他人的需求。有時(shí)我更喜歡把這當(dāng)成是對(duì)人際關(guān)系的存款。
I like the way Anthony Robbins explains this concept.
我喜歡Anthony Robbins解釋這個(gè)概念的方式。
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”
人際關(guān)系里最大的挑戰(zhàn)來(lái)自于人們都想從中獲取東西。他們努力去尋找能讓他們感覺(jué)舒服的人?，F(xiàn)實(shí)中，人際關(guān)系持久的唯一方式是你把人際關(guān)系當(dāng)做一種給予的渠道，而不是從中得到東西。
You can make deposits to any relationship by starting to do the little things that show your interest and that you truly care. Here are just a few of the 101 things you can do:
你可以從你感興趣和你真正關(guān)心的小事上開(kāi)始對(duì)你的任一個(gè)人際關(guān)系進(jìn)行投資。以下僅僅是101個(gè)你可以做的事情中的一部分。
Send an email just to say hi without asking for anything.
Call to see how a son or daughter performed in a recent activity.
Send a card or email on a holiday or birthday to tell them you are thinking about them.
Express appreciation through a thank-you note or phone call for something done for you.
Help them in times of need.
Encourage them when starting new things.
Compliment them on the things they do well.
Be a support during times of struggle and grief.
I try my best to make regular deposits into all my relationships. From listening to offering a helping hand when needed, I am intentional about putting more into the relationships I value than I ever plan to take out. Not only does this give me satisfaction from knowing that this is the right thing to do, it feels good and draws me closer them.
發(fā)封郵件不為任何事只為打聲招呼。打電話看看最近一次活動(dòng)中兒子或女兒的表現(xiàn)。在節(jié)假日或生日時(shí)寄張賀卡或發(fā)封郵件告訴他們你很想念他們。通過(guò)感謝短信或電話向那些為你做了事情的人表達(dá)感謝。在他們需要時(shí)幫助他們，當(dāng)他們開(kāi)始新事情時(shí)鼓勵(lì)他們，當(dāng)他們?cè)谀承┦虑樯献龅暮芎脮r(shí)贊揚(yáng)他們，在他們掙扎和悲傷時(shí)支持他們。我一直盡力對(duì)我所有的人際關(guān)系進(jìn)行定期的投資。在他們需要的時(shí)候從傾聽(tīng)到提供幫助，我一直有意的去投入更多。這樣做不僅讓我感到滿足，因?yàn)槲易隽苏_的事情，而且我很舒服并且讓我們靠的更近。
How to nurture your relationships
怎么培養(yǎng)你的人際關(guān)系?
The best way to nurture your relationships is to contribute to each of them according to their needs and expectations. Take a few moments to ask yourself these questions:
培養(yǎng)人際關(guān)系最好的方式就是根據(jù)他們的需要和期望為他們中的每一位做貢獻(xiàn)。花點(diǎn)時(shí)間問(wèn)問(wèn)自己下面這些問(wèn)題。
What are the specific needs and expectations of my employer, customer, or client?
What are the needs and desires of my spouse or significant other?
What do my friends need in their relationships with me?
To help you put this lesson into perspective, make a note of the five people closest to you. These should be people with whom you have or desire to have a lasting relationship. Include on your list at least one family member, one friend, and at least one person you work for or with whom you do business.
我老板，顧客或者客戶的具體需求和期望是什么呢?我愛(ài)人或其他重要的人的需求和愿望是什么?我的朋友在這段人際關(guān)系里需要什么?為了把這節(jié)課更透視化，現(xiàn)在記錄5個(gè)和你親近的人。這些人應(yīng)該是和你有持久關(guān)系或你希望有持續(xù)關(guān)系的人。你列舉的這里面至少有一個(gè)家庭成員，一個(gè)朋友，至少有一個(gè)你的老板或商業(yè)合作伙伴。
Next, ask yourself, What does ________ (someone’s name) need from a relationship with me and what can I do to provide it?
然后問(wèn)自己，這些人需要從這段關(guān)系中得到什么以及你能為他們做些什么?
Remember that what you decide to deposit into each relationship should depend on that person’s specific needs.
請(qǐng)牢記你決定在任一段人際關(guān)系中投資什么應(yīng)該依賴于這些人具體的需求。
When you start asking what you can do to improve your relationships with others—rather than asking what they can do for you—your relationships will bring you joy and satisfaction and brighten the lives of those you care about.
當(dāng)你開(kāi)始詢問(wèn)你做些什么能提高你的人際關(guān)系而不是詢問(wèn)他們能為你做些什么時(shí)，你的人際關(guān)系將給你帶來(lái)開(kāi)心和滿足并且點(diǎn)亮你關(guān)心的人的生活。
