Quora精選：孩子更親近他媽媽 怎么辦？

My 18 month old son has a slight preference for his mother. How can I win his favor?我18個(gè)月大的兒子喜歡他媽媽多一點(diǎn)，我要怎么做才能贏得他的喜愛(ài)？

 

獲得216好評(píng)的答案@Marc Bodnick

That is totally normal. My recommendation:這很正常。我的建議是：Be chill. The woman (your wife; his mom) played a much bigger role than you did in his early life, so you are pretty much screwed if you expect an even playing field for the first few years.冷靜點(diǎn)。這位女性（你的妻子，他的媽媽）在他早年的生活中扮演的角色比你重要得多，所以如果你希望在最初的幾年得到一樣的愛(ài)，那你會(huì)很生氣。As a rule, you should pretty much let him be with his mother whenever he wants; that's the best way to build trust.一般來(lái)說(shuō)，只要他想，你就應(yīng)該讓他和他的媽媽在一起，這是建立信任的最佳方式。When you are with him, do a really good job of taking care of him -- feeding him, changing him, putting him to sleep, etc. Get him to trust that you're competent and confident.當(dāng)你和他在一起的時(shí)候，你就要好好照顧他——給他喂飯、給他換尿布、哄他睡覺(jué)等等，讓他相信你是個(gè)稱職且自信的爸爸。When you are with him alone, you should be able to distract him quickly from thinking about mom.當(dāng)你和他獨(dú)處時(shí)，你應(yīng)該讓他能從對(duì)媽媽的想念中轉(zhuǎn)移注意力。

 

獲得21好評(píng)的答案@Stefanie Wauk

It's normal for children to be more attached to one parent than the other at various times during their development.在孩子的成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程中的不同階段，他們更親近父母中的一方是很正常的事。At times it will be for one parent, and later, without any rhyme or reason, it can switch to the other parent.有時(shí)他們更喜歡父母中的一位，接著莫名其妙地，這份喜歡可能會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)移到另一位身上。As long as there's not something in your relationship with your son that might be causing the distance (ie, lack of time together, lack of affection, anything that might be effecting a strong bond forming), then don't worry, your time will come!只要沒(méi)有發(fā)生什么會(huì)疏遠(yuǎn)你們父子關(guān)系的事情（比如缺少共處的時(shí)間、沒(méi)有感情，任何可能會(huì)影響你們之間形成牢固聯(lián)系的事情），那就不用擔(dān)心，你會(huì)有機(jī)會(huì)的！

 

(來(lái)源:滬江)