Quora精選：孩子更親近他媽媽 怎么辦？

My 18 month old son has a slight preference for his mother. How can I win his favor?我18個(gè)月大的兒子喜歡他媽媽多一點(diǎn)，我要怎么做才能贏得他的喜愛？

 

獲得216好評的答案@Marc Bodnick

That is totally normal. My recommendation:這很正常。我的建議是：Be chill. The woman (your wife; his mom) played a much bigger role than you did in his early life, so you are pretty much screwed if you expect an even playing field for the first few years.冷靜點(diǎn)。這位女性（你的妻子，他的媽媽）在他早年的生活中扮演的角色比你重要得多，所以如果你希望在最初的幾年得到一樣的愛，那你會很生氣。As a rule, you should pretty much let him be with his mother whenever he wants; that's the best way to build trust.一般來說，只要他想，你就應(yīng)該讓他和他的媽媽在一起，這是建立信任的最佳方式。When you are with him, do a really good job of taking care of him -- feeding him, changing him, putting him to sleep, etc. Get him to trust that you're competent and confident.當(dāng)你和他在一起的時(shí)候，你就要好好照顧他——給他喂飯、給他換尿布、哄他睡覺等等，讓他相信你是個(gè)稱職且自信的爸爸。When you are with him alone, you should be able to distract him quickly from thinking about mom.當(dāng)你和他獨(dú)處時(shí)，你應(yīng)該讓他能從對媽媽的想念中轉(zhuǎn)移注意力。

 

獲得21好評的答案@Stefanie Wauk

It's normal for children to be more attached to one parent than the other at various times during their development.在孩子的成長過程中的不同階段，他們更親近父母中的一方是很正常的事。At times it will be for one parent, and later, without any rhyme or reason, it can switch to the other parent.有時(shí)他們更喜歡父母中的一位，接著莫名其妙地，這份喜歡可能會轉(zhuǎn)移到另一位身上。As long as there's not something in your relationship with your son that might be causing the distance (ie, lack of time together, lack of affection, anything that might be effecting a strong bond forming), then don't worry, your time will come!只要沒有發(fā)生什么會疏遠(yuǎn)你們父子關(guān)系的事情（比如缺少共處的時(shí)間、沒有感情，任何可能會影響你們之間形成牢固聯(lián)系的事情），那就不用擔(dān)心，你會有機(jī)會的！

 

(來源:滬江)