Quora精選：怎樣知道被人利用了？

How can I tell if someone is just using me?我如何知道有人在利用我？

 

獲得74.1k好評的回答@Derrick Chavez：

Definition: Give a false impression of one desire in hopes of receiving another.定義：為了達(dá)到某種目的假裝有另外一個(gè)目的。Here is a scenario:看下面這個(gè)情節(jié)：The girl女孩1.She wants a relationship.1.想戀愛。2.She wants deep connection.2.想深入交往3.She cares for her potential parnter in many ways.3.在很多方面都在乎未來的男朋友。On the other hand,相反，The guy男孩1.The guy pretends to want a relationship.1.這個(gè)男孩假裝想談戀愛。2.He pretends to care deeply for the girl.2.他假裝很在乎那個(gè)女孩。3.He truly and only desires the sexual activity. He convinces the girl he wants more.3.他真的只想發(fā)生關(guān)系，但說服女孩相信他不只是想發(fā)生關(guān)系。4.He deceives, lies, and cheats.4.他蒙蔽你、對你說謊、欺騙你。To use someone means to deceive them, to lie, and to cheat in hopes of receiving something in return.利用別人就意味著蒙蔽、說謊、欺騙，只是為了達(dá)到某種目的。To answer your question:現(xiàn)在回答你的問題：1.Are their actions aligned with their words?1.他們言行是否一致？2.Are their stories and words untrue?2.他們的故事和話是否虛假？3.Are they not meeting your needs directly?3.他們是不是不會(huì)直接滿足你的要求？These are signs he is using you for something else.以上跡象就表明他們是在為某種目的利用你。

 

獲得264好評的回答@Ovidiu Fulea：

1.See what happens when you refuse them on multiple occasions1.看看各種情況下你拒絕他們會(huì)怎樣。2.Ask something of them as well, see if they refuse or accept2.也向他們提出一些請求，看看他們拒絕還是接受。In all of the above, look at their reaction, see if they care or that you did that for them or not, or if they were annoyed that you couldn’t do it.在上述所有情況下觀察他們的反應(yīng)，看看他們是否在乎你幫不幫他們的忙，或者你做不到時(shí)他們是否會(huì)生氣。Also, think. How often do they ask you of things? Wold you rather do something else instead of helping them? When you see that person, are you annoyed?而且你要思考一下，他們多久向你提一次要求？你寧愿做點(diǎn)別的也不愿意幫助他們嗎？你見到這個(gè)人會(huì)生氣嗎？

 

獲得411好評的回答@Maureen Sharkey：

They always take, always ask, and never do the same back to you.他們總是索取，總是要求，卻從未給你回報(bào)。They may be nice, polite, and nice to be around. But you will never ever get the same from them. Also, it may be the only time you hear from them or see them is when they want something.他們可能人很好，有禮貌，很好相處，但你從他們那里永遠(yuǎn)得不到回報(bào)。而且可能只有當(dāng)他們有要求時(shí)才會(huì)跟你說話或見面。Those are some of the indications.以上都是暗示。

 

（翻譯：菲菲）

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