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What kind of people will not succeed in life?生活中什么樣的人不會(huì)成功？

 

獲得17.1k好評(píng)的回答@J.P. Ribner：

Based upon my own observations and experiences, here are the types of people who typically do not succeed in life:基于我個(gè)人的觀察和經(jīng)歷，以下是生活中典型的不會(huì)取得成功的人：1.People who do not take personal responsibility for themselves or their decisions.不為自己或自己的決定負(fù)責(zé)的人。2.People who blame other people for their mistakes.因?yàn)樽约旱腻e(cuò)誤指責(zé)別人的人。3.People who believe there is some vast conspiracy to keep them down due to their race, skin color, religion, gender, or other similar identity factors.認(rèn)為由于他們的種族、膚色、宗教信仰、性別或其他類(lèi)似的身份因素被人算計(jì)而精神不振的人。4.People who normalize the symptoms of generational poverty, i.e., drug and alcohol abuse, violence, etc.把代際貧困的表現(xiàn)正常化的人，比如吸毒、酗酒、暴力等。5.People who are parasitic upon other people.寄生生活的人。6.People who believe that they are somehow owed success without putting in the commensurate amount of work needed to be successful.認(rèn)為不用付出成功所需的努力就能成功的人。7.People who are easily distracted by partying, going out, etc.很容易被聚會(huì)、外出等分心的人。8.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from their mistakes and make the necessary adjustments.過(guò)于固執(zhí)或自負(fù)而不愿意從錯(cuò)誤中汲取教訓(xùn)并做出必要調(diào)整的人。9.People who are too stubborn or proud to learn from others. This stifles both personal and professional growth.過(guò)于固執(zhí)或自負(fù)而不愿意向他人學(xué)習(xí)的人，這會(huì)阻礙個(gè)人和職業(yè)的發(fā)展。10.People who make poor life decisions that have long-lasting consequences, such as getting married/having children before you can properly provide for them, marrying the wrong person, living beyond one’s means, etc.制定有長(zhǎng)期影響的貧窮生活計(jì)劃的人，比如在能負(fù)擔(dān)得起之前就結(jié)婚生子、找錯(cuò)結(jié)婚對(duì)象、入不敷出等。11.People who believe that there is some sort of nobility in poverty. Example: “I might not have much but at least I’m a good person.” This is typically a justificationfor their current life circumstances.以為人可以窮得高貴的人，比如：“我可能沒(méi)錢(qián)，但至少我是個(gè)好人。”這是典型的在為目前生活狀況狡辯。12.People who care more about what other people think of them than they care about their own success. This typically results in self-destructive searching for validation.相較于自己理想中的成功更在乎別人看法的人，這通常會(huì)導(dǎo)致自虐式地尋求別人的贊同。13.People with past trauma that causes them to engage in self-destructive behavior. In most cases, this type of person will sabotage their own success at pivotal moments in their careers so they can be “in control” of the failure they anticipate they will experience.有產(chǎn)生自虐行為的心理陰影的人。大多數(shù)情況下，這種人會(huì)在事業(yè)關(guān)鍵時(shí)刻毀掉自己的成功以便能控制他們預(yù)見(jiàn)到的失敗。14.People who are unable to believe that they can ever be great and do great things.不能相信自己能成功、能做大事的人。I’m sure there are other reasons but you get the general idea. Success is a mindset. You have to believe you will be successful. Once you can do that, you free yourself up to do the things you need to do to succeed, such as working hard, researching, trying new strategies, etc. Some of the biggest success stories in life were written by people who weren’t any smarter than the average person. The only thing they had was this undying belief that they could do it… and they did.一定還有其他原因，我給出的是普遍情況。成功是一種心態(tài)，你要相信自己能成功。一旦你有自信就能放開(kāi)去做獲得成功所需要做的事，比如努力、鉆研、嘗試新方法等等。譜寫(xiě)生活中最大成功事跡的人并不比普通人更聰明，他們唯一擁有的就是這種不朽的信念：他們能成功，結(jié)果他們確實(shí)成功了。

 

（翻譯：菲菲）

(來(lái)源:滬江)