如何原諒那些傷害過(guò)你的人

Man is a social animal and ought to socialize, but with company around, there are times when egos tend to mingle along as well. This could result in exchanges of words that could put a strain on relationships. Continuous bashing of words with an individual could turn ugly and lead to hatred.

人都是社交動(dòng)物，無(wú)法離開(kāi)社會(huì)而生存，然而一旦周圍有了同伴，自尊心往往會(huì)作祟，這就會(huì)導(dǎo)致言語(yǔ)交際時(shí)引發(fā)的緊張關(guān)系。持續(xù)用言語(yǔ)打擊別人可能會(huì)導(dǎo)致關(guān)系惡化，甚至招來(lái)仇恨。

The impact of hatred

仇恨帶來(lái)的影響

Hating someone is injurious to one’s own health since it causes anger within, and this annoyance can take a toll on one’s health if it builds too high.

討厭一個(gè)人對(duì)自身的健康也有壞處，因?yàn)轶w內(nèi)總有一股怒氣，如果積壓的怒氣過(guò)多就會(huì)對(duì)身體帶來(lái)傷害了。

Why Forgive?

為什么選擇原諒?

Mental balance applies towards good health. Since health is wealth, forgiveness is the way to go. Forgiving someone is like having a mental balance by letting go of any resentment or grudges towards an individual, which will help to clear the conscience and is very crucial for resolving relationships.

精神的平和對(duì)可以帶來(lái)健康。健康是無(wú)價(jià)之寶，那為何不選擇原諒呢。原諒別人就好比放下一些怨恨，達(dá)到精神的平和，可以凈化心靈同時(shí)解決關(guān)系危機(jī)。

There are a couple of C’s involved in burying the hatchet:

下面這些C字關(guān)鍵詞是你“放下仇恨”時(shí)應(yīng)該做到的：

Categorize

歸類

Many a time, we are not aware of why we hate someone and continue to walk on a path that disturbs one’s mental and physical well-being. We should be able to recognize the pattern that arises when we come across a certain human being. Once we are able to categorize the pattern, we can move to the next step.

很多時(shí)候，我們都沒(méi)有意識(shí)到到底為什么討厭這個(gè)人，卻仍固執(zhí)的怨恨著，擾亂著自己的精神和身體健康。遇到某個(gè)人的時(shí)候我們需要能夠歸類到底該采取何種方式對(duì)待他，一旦能夠歸類了，我們就可以到下一個(gè)步驟。

Cause

緣由

We should try to search within ourselves with regard to what and how the individual has hurt us, and why we hate them. Finding a cause helps us to bring closure within ourselves, and we can open up to discussion within the self, and even with the person whom we hate.

我們要從自身出發(fā)找出到底這個(gè)人是如何以及怎么傷害到我們的，以及我們?yōu)槭裁从憛捤麄儭Ｕ业礁茨茏屪约和Ｖ辜m結(jié)下去，我們可以和別人甚至和討厭的那個(gè)人去開(kāi)誠(chéng)布公的討論。

Confront

面對(duì)

Coming face-to-face with the person whom one hates is a challenge, but confronting the individual will lead to peace of mind and a sound sleep at night. Brave up and face that person.

和討厭的人面對(duì)面的確是個(gè)挑戰(zhàn)，但面對(duì)別人時(shí)，頭腦會(huì)趨于冷靜，晚上也會(huì)睡個(gè)好覺(jué)。所以鼓起勇氣去面對(duì)這個(gè)人吧。

Conversation

對(duì)話

Once in the presence of the person who is hated, start a conversation and communicate about what bothers you. Being frank about what and how that person’s behavior irks oneself will help both discuss issues, and will eventually lead to clarification.

如果你討厭的人出現(xiàn)了，不妨兩個(gè)人好好聊聊，一起說(shuō)說(shuō)到底什么惹到你了。坦白的說(shuō)說(shuō)這個(gè)人的什么行為如何惹到了你，這對(duì)討論以及最終解除誤會(huì)都有很大的幫助。

Contrite

悔悟

Apologizing to the disliked person can do wonders for one’s physical and mental being, bringing happiness and contentment. Keeping one’s egos aside and expressing remorse is the key to forgiveness.

對(duì)不喜歡的那個(gè)人道歉對(duì)人的精神和身體會(huì)帶來(lái)幸福和滿足感，很神奇的哦!把什么自尊放到一邊去，表達(dá)出悔恨才是原諒的核心。

Be Compassionate with yourself

對(duì)自己有惻隱之心

Once you forgive a person, be patient and kind to your self. Time is a big healer, thus give time to heal—physically and emotionally. Express your pain and anxiety, and do not keep it bottled up. Appreciate the goodness of people around you, and visualize a new life with positive energy each day. This will help to shape each day free of pain and suffering.

一旦原諒了別人，對(duì)自己有點(diǎn)耐心，也對(duì)自己好一點(diǎn)。時(shí)間是偉大的治愈師，會(huì)慢慢治愈你身體和精神上的創(chuàng)傷。把自己的痛苦和焦慮都表達(dá)出來(lái)，不要憋在心里。感激周圍人對(duì)你的好，每天用積極的態(tài)度看待新的生活。這樣能有效幫助你慢慢從痛苦中解脫出來(lái)。

Caution

謹(jǐn)慎

Once you made amends, set your boundaries to avoid repeating history so that you do not get hurt again. Be sure to keep a good distance from the person who triggered chaos in your mind and made you lose your sleep at night. Since we cannot change an individual, it’s smart to keep away from them.

一旦有了教訓(xùn)，你需要設(shè)定底線來(lái)避免歷史重演，這樣才能保證你不會(huì)再受到傷害。和那些會(huì)讓你頭腦發(fā)暈失眠的人保持點(diǎn)距離吧。既然我們無(wú)法改變一個(gè)人，不如聰明點(diǎn)遠(yuǎn)離他們。

Humans want to walk on the forbidden path, and there are chances that we can get attracted to people who have raised our blood pressure previously. Thus, retrain your thinking by wishing well about the person whom you just forgave. Hope the best for him while being intelligent and making wise decisions with respect to your mental well-being.

人們總喜歡選擇走不該走的路，也有可能我們會(huì)愛(ài)上先前讓我們血管爆棚的人。不管怎樣，換個(gè)思考方式，祝福那個(gè)你剛剛原諒的人吧。為了自己的精神健康，真心去祝福他真的是智慧和明智的決定。