女生戀愛(ài)你必須要了解的9件事

Here are some things you should keep in mind if you plan on having a relationship in your 20s.Recommend For You

如果你計(jì)劃在20多歲時(shí)談一場(chǎng)戀愛(ài)，那就好好讀讀下面幾條建議吧。

1. Make Time for a “Date Night”

為“約會(huì)之夜”抽出時(shí)間

Young couples are constantly going out, spending time with friends, working, or going to school. In order to show one another how much you care, it’s a very good idea to plan a date night, even if it’s just once a month。

年輕情侶總是忙忙碌碌，不是和朋友聚會(huì)，就是工作，要么上學(xué)。為了向?qū)Ψ奖硎娟P(guān)切，“約會(huì)之夜” 是個(gè)很不錯(cuò)的主意，哪怕一個(gè)月只有一次也好。

2. Take Turns Paying for Dinner

輪流付帳

The days where the man pays for everything are gone. It’s okay to take turns paying for whatever it is that you do. Whether one pays for the dinner and the other the movie, it doesn’t matter. You’re both young, just starting out, and this will help keep your relationship balanced。

男人是錢(qián)包的理念已不時(shí)尚。不論做什么，最好輪流付帳。一個(gè)請(qǐng)吃飯，另一個(gè)請(qǐng)電影，誰(shuí)先誰(shuí)后都無(wú)所謂。你們還年輕，生活剛剛開(kāi)始，這樣做將有助于保持戀愛(ài)關(guān)系的平衡。

3. Set Honest Expectations

明確期望值

The most important rule when it comes to any kind of dating is to be clear what your expectations are with the relationship. If you see it lasting for the long run, then make sure that your partner knows that. In other hand, if you’re looking for someone just to have sex, then say that as well。

就各種約會(huì)而言，最重要的一條是，明確你期望從關(guān)系中得到什么。如果你希望長(zhǎng)期相處，讓對(duì)方明白。另一方面，如果你只是在尋找“炮友” ，也要坦誠(chéng)說(shuō)明。

Believe me, being honest with what you expect will show that you’re confident and will earn you a lot of respect from your partner. Don’t disregard this。

相信我，誠(chéng)實(shí)講出你的期望不僅可以顯示出你的自信，還能贏(yíng)得對(duì)方的尊重。不要忽略這一點(diǎn)。

4. You Can Still Have Friends

你仍然可以有朋友

It’s very important to not exclude yourself from your social circle to hang out with your partner 24/7. This person isn’t the only thing that’s important in your life. You still have other people who want to spend time with you. Be sure to keep up with your friends and do fun things together. You need to give each other space to keep the relationship fresh。

不要脫離社交圈，時(shí)時(shí)刻刻與戀愛(ài)泡在一起，這一點(diǎn)很重要。這個(gè)人不是你生活的唯一，還有其他人希望與你共度時(shí)光。一定要與朋友保持聯(lián)系，一起做些有趣的事。你需要給對(duì)方留出空間，以保持新鮮感。

5. Nagging Isn’t Cool

嘮嘮哪叨要不得

Your partner will do things that piss you off. Don’t nag. This is immature and you will lose your partner’s respect for doing it. Calmly discuss your opinion and why you feel the way you do。

如果對(duì)方做一些惹你生氣的事情，千萬(wàn)別嘮叨。嘮叨是不成熟的表現(xiàn)，你會(huì)因此失去對(duì)方的尊重。心平氣和地講出你的想法，并說(shuō)明理由。

6. Be Yourself & Let Your Partner Do The Same

做自己，也給對(duì)方做自己的機(jī)會(huì)

One of the key aspects of every relationship is letting yourself and your special someone be themselves. You were attracted to this person for a reason, and there’s no need to try and change them。

戀愛(ài)中關(guān)鍵的一點(diǎn)是，讓自己和你的那個(gè)她(他)做自己。你被對(duì)方吸引不無(wú)緣由，沒(méi)必要下功夫去改變他們。

Likewise, don’t let someone try to change you. You are who you are, and if that’s not good enough for either of you, then this isn’t really a relationship that’s going to work。

同樣，不要讓對(duì)方改變你，你就是你，如果互相覺(jué)得不適合，那不如趁早散伙。

7. Be Adventurous & Enjoy Your Time Together

敢于嘗試，并一起享受生活

This is another one that’s very important. Remember that you’re still in your 20s and you should be having as much fun as possible。

這也是很重要的一點(diǎn)。你們才20多歲，應(yīng)該盡情地享受生活。

Set aside time to do both of your favorite activities and hobbies. Be adventurous and try something new that you’ve both never done before. Don’t take yourself that seriously. Make jokes and laugh about anything and everything。

為喜愛(ài)的活動(dòng)與愛(ài)好留出時(shí)間。敢于冒險(xiǎn)，嘗試新事物。別太把自己太當(dāng)回事，說(shuō)說(shuō)笑話(huà)，盡情歡笑。

8. Communication is Important

交流亦重要

Every relationship expert will emphasize the importance of communication in a long-lasting relationship. Each night, talk about your day, your concerns, your thoughts, and your dreams with one another. As the other person is talking, be sure to listen attentively, and communicate your interests and feelings。

戀愛(ài)專(zhuān)家都強(qiáng)調(diào)交流在持久戀愛(ài)過(guò)程中的重要性。晚上，一起聊聊白天的工作、關(guān)心的事情、想法和夢(mèng)想。當(dāng)對(duì)方講述時(shí)，用心傾聽(tīng)，了解對(duì)方的興趣和感受。

9. Trust, But Without Being Naive

信任，但不抱幻想

Trust is important. It’s the backbone of all relationships, especially those in your 20s. Avoid hacking your loved one’s cell phone, computer, and emails. This isn’t going to solve anything。

信任很重要，它是各種關(guān)系的基石，尤其對(duì)20多歲的年輕人來(lái)說(shuō)。不要窺探愛(ài)人的手機(jī)、電腦和郵件。這解決不了問(wèn)題。

When situations arise, trust only reliable sources, such as those who aren’t trying to sabotage your relationship. On the flip side, don’t be naive about the situation either。

有疑問(wèn)時(shí)，只依賴(lài)可靠信息源，例如那些沒(méi)有破壞你戀愛(ài)關(guān)系企圖的人。如果確有情況，也不要抱有天真幻想。

You both deserve to be happy, and if things don’t work out, as they say, there are other fish in the sea。

你們兩人都應(yīng)該快樂(lè)，如果戀愛(ài)不成功，記住人們常說(shuō)的那句話(huà)，天涯何處無(wú)芳草。

Following these simple relationship rules—if you’re meant to be together—is truly the way to make your relationship work, and last a lifetime。

如果你們注定在一起，遵循這些簡(jiǎn)單的戀愛(ài)準(zhǔn)則毫無(wú)疑問(wèn)會(huì)促進(jìn)你們的關(guān)系，并讓你受益終生。