People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
人們走進(jìn)你的生活,或者是為了一個(gè)原因,或者他們只停留一段時(shí)期,或者他們永遠(yuǎn)與你相隨。一旦明曉其中究竟,你就知道該如何面對(duì)他們了。
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
有的人出現(xiàn)在你的生活中是有原因的,通常他們填補(bǔ)了你流露出來(lái)的需要:幫你渡過(guò)難關(guān),指點(diǎn)和支持你,切實(shí)地在情感上、精神上幫助你。
They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die.
他們出現(xiàn)是因?yàn)槟阈枰麄?。然后在一個(gè)你無(wú)可引咎而又不便的時(shí)候,這人說(shuō)了什么或者做了什么令你們終止了這段關(guān)系。有時(shí)候他們離你而去,有時(shí)候他們冒出歪理而逼得你要奮起反抗,有時(shí)候是因?yàn)樗麄兪攀馈?/p>
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
我們必需認(rèn)識(shí)到,自己的需要已經(jīng)滿(mǎn)足了,愿望已經(jīng)實(shí)現(xiàn)了,他們的工作也就完成了。你的需要得到了回應(yīng),接著的是要繼續(xù)前行。
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
有的人在你的生活中只會(huì)停留一段時(shí)期,那是因?yàn)槟愕搅诉@樣的一個(gè)時(shí)候:成長(zhǎng)、學(xué)習(xí),并和別人一起分享你的世界。他們讓你體會(huì)平和,也讓你歡笑。他們可能也教會(huì)你做一些從沒(méi)做過(guò)的事情。他們常能給你帶來(lái)無(wú)數(shù)歡樂(lè)。相信這一點(diǎn)!這是真的!可這,只能維持一段時(shí)間。
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
持續(xù)一生的情誼將令你終生受益;一點(diǎn)一滴地努力吧,建造一個(gè)堅(jiān)不可摧的感情基礎(chǔ)。你要做的只是去接受經(jīng)驗(yàn),對(duì)一生相隨的人付出關(guān)愛(ài),并將你所學(xué)到應(yīng)用到生命中的其他關(guān)系和方方面面中。愛(ài)情令人盲目,而友誼能醍醐灌頂,據(jù)說(shuō)如此。