TED演講-父母也會(huì)犯錯(cuò)，承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤并不難

在TED演講節(jié)目中，演講者清晰的口語表達(dá)及其內(nèi)容的寫作手法都是值得我們學(xué)習(xí)借鑒的。在親子關(guān)系里，父母總是占據(jù)著主導(dǎo)的地位，但其實(shí)父母也會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。本期的TED演講告訴我們，父母的干預(yù)很可能是錯(cuò)誤的，并且承認(rèn)自己做錯(cuò)也并不難。下面請結(jié)合視頻內(nèi)容，開始口語學(xué)習(xí)吧！

原文及翻譯

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Mistakes and struggles, come with the job. Repair assumes there's been a rupture, so to repair, you have to mess up, which means the next time I snap at my kid, instead of berating myself like I did that night in the kitchen, I try to remind myself, I'm focusing on getting good at repair. 

世上沒有完美的父母。做父母難免會(huì)犯錯(cuò)，也會(huì)遇到困難。修復(fù)的前提是雙方關(guān)系已經(jīng)破裂，所以要想修復(fù)，就必須把事情搞砸，這意味著下次我發(fā)脾氣時(shí)，我不會(huì)像那天晚上在廚房里那樣責(zé)罵自己，而是試著提醒自己，我要專注于修復(fù)。

Name what happened, take responsibility, and state what you would do differently the next time. It could come together like this: "I keep thinking about what happened the other night in the kitchen. I'm sorry I yelled. I'm sure that felt scary, and it wasn't your fault. I'm working on staying calm even when I'm frustrated." A 15-second intervention can have a lifelong impact. I've replaced my child's story of self-blame with a story of self-trust safety and connection.

說出發(fā)生了什么，承擔(dān)責(zé)任，并說明下次你會(huì)做些什么不同的事情。可以這樣說：“我一直在想那天晚上在廚房里發(fā)生的事情。我很抱歉我大喊大叫。我肯定那感覺很可怕，這不是你的錯(cuò)。我正在努力保持冷靜，即使我很沮喪?！?15 秒的干預(yù)可能會(huì)產(chǎn)生終生影響。我已經(jīng)用一個(gè)自我信任、安全和聯(lián)系的故事取代了孩子的自責(zé)故事。

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