7個實際可行的提高情商的方法

　　Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ) describes a person's ability to recognize emotions, to understand their effect, and to use that information to guide thinking and behavior — helping you make better decisions and reach goals more quickly.

　　情緒智商指的是一個人能夠辨別情緒變化,理解它們的影響,并使用這些信息來指導(dǎo)思想和行為的能力，可以幫助您做出更好的決策,更快地達到目標。

　　Here are 7 practical ways to sharpen your EQ.

　　下面有7個實際可行的方法來提高你的情商。

　　1. Reflect on your own emotions

　　1.反思自己的情緒

　　For example, think about how you typically respond when you read an email that makes you angry. By identifying your own emotions and reactions, you become more mindful and can start to build control.

　　例如，想想您在讀讓您生氣的電子郵件時，通常會作何反應(yīng)。你會變得越來越謹醒，并開始注意自我控制。

　　2. Ask others for perspective

　　2.征詢別人的觀點

　　We see ourselves differently than others see us. Ask a friend or close colleague how you react when they're emotional. The answers will help you achieve a more accurate view of yourself.

　　我們看自己不同于別人看我們。問你的朋友或者關(guān)系好的同事，他們情緒化時，你的反應(yīng)如何。他們的答案將幫助您對自己有個更準確的定位。

　　3. Be observant

　　3.要細心些

　　Armed with this newly acquired knowledge, you can be more observant of your current emotions. Self-reflection and thinking about what others have shared will help you to be more in tune with what you're feeling.

　　有了這些新獲得的知識,你可以對自己當(dāng)下的情緒表現(xiàn)地更細心。自我反省和思考別人所分享的觀點將會幫你跟自己的感覺更加地一致。

　　4. The pause

　　4.三思而后行

　　"The pause" is as simple as taking a moment to stop and think before we act or speak — an ability that's hindered by factors like added stress. Practice pausing before responding to an upsetting email, or before posting comments on social media.

　　“三思而后行”簡單如：停一停，欲說話或行為前停下來先作思考，就是一種因外加壓力而受阻的能力。學(xué)會在回復(fù)讓人情緒不安的郵件或發(fā)布社交媒體評論前先停下來好好思考的習(xí)慣。

　　5.Focus on feelings, not events

　　5.關(guān)注個人感受而不是事件

　　Showing empathy means trying our best to see a situation through another person's eyes. We may not understand why they feel uncomfortable, angry, or hurt. But we can all relate to those feelings, and that helps us relate to the person.

　　換位思考意味著站在別人的角度看待事情本身。我們可能不理解為什么他們感覺不舒服,生氣,或者受傷。但是我們可以通過聯(lián)系那些情感來幫助自己聯(lián)系那些人。

　　6. Don't take offense

　　6.別動怒

　　Criticism is never easy to take: But when you receive it, there are two choices: You can let emotion get the best of you, or you can learn from it. Don't let emotion close your mind to negative feedback. Use it to make you better.

　　批評不容易接受，但在受到批評時，你有兩個選擇：可以讓情緒打敗你或者可以從中學(xué)習(xí)。不要讓情緒蒙蔽自己，讓自己消極以對。而是要利用它使自己變得更好。

　　7. Practice, practice, practice

　　7.練習(xí),練習(xí),再練習(xí)

　　Like any other skill or ability, practice makes ... better. Of course, it's impossible to have perfect control over your emotions. But keep practicing these steps and you'll start to harness the power of emotions — and use them to work for you, instead of against you.

　　像其他任何一種技能或者能力一樣，熟能生巧。當(dāng)然，人不可能完美地控制自己的情緒。但是堅持練習(xí)這些步驟，你就會開始管理情緒，讓它們?yōu)槟愎ぷ?，而不是攻擊、阻礙你。