當(dāng)遲到成為一種習(xí)慣

總是勉強(qiáng)在最后一分鐘趕到公司?赴約時(shí)就算提前準(zhǔn)備幾小時(shí)的富余，最后還是會(huì)遲到?有人說(shuō)這是拖延癥的表現(xiàn)，可專(zhuān)家說(shuō)，這種情況叫 chronic lateness(慣常遲到)。

Do any of the following sound familiar?

下面這些描述，你覺(jué)得耳熟嗎?

You're always rushing at the last minute, even though you've promised yourself countless times that you wouldn't let this happen again.

你總是在最后一分鐘時(shí)沖向目的地，雖然之前你已經(jīng)無(wú)數(shù)次告訴自己不會(huì)讓這一幕再次發(fā)生。

You've tried setting your watch several minutes ahead, but you're still late.

你已經(jīng)把手表調(diào)快了幾分鐘，可你還是遲到了。

You may be punctual for work (barely) but you're usually at least 20 minutes late for meetings, appointments, class, church, theater or other non-work situations.

可能上班的時(shí)候，你勉強(qiáng)能做到準(zhǔn)時(shí);但在會(huì)議、預(yù)約、上課、教堂、劇院及其他非工作場(chǎng)合，你通常都會(huì)遲到至少20分鐘。

You make excuses, such as: "There was traffic," or "Something came up," or "I was going to call you but I didn't want to be even more late."

你會(huì)找借口，比如“堵車(chē)了”，或者“臨時(shí)有事”，又或者“我本來(lái)想給你打電話(huà)的，可我覺(jué)得太晚了。”

People become impatient or angry at your tardiness.

人們因?yàn)槟愕倪t到而不耐煩或者生氣。

You believe that you are more motivated when in a time crunch, or that you move faster under pressure.

你認(rèn)為時(shí)間緊張的時(shí)候你更有動(dòng)力，或者壓力會(huì)讓你動(dòng)作更快。

If you can identify with 2 or more of the above, you have a problem with punctuality, normally known as chronic lateness. Chronic lateness is related to procrastination. Latecomers and procrastinators have trouble NOT with time, but with self-discipline. They may also have underlying anxiety about the task they're faced with.

如果以上描述中，你有兩項(xiàng)以上為肯定回答，那么你在遵守時(shí)間方面可能有問(wèn)題，這種問(wèn)題就是“慣常遲到(chronic lateness)”。“慣常遲到”跟拖延癥相關(guān)。經(jīng)常遲到的人和患有拖延癥的人不是在應(yīng)對(duì)時(shí)間方面有問(wèn)題，而是不夠自律。另外，也有可能是他們對(duì)面前的任務(wù)有焦慮情緒。

If you have problems with being punctual, especially for things that are a bit threatening, such as doctor's appointments, new social situations, or meeting with people you don't like, then your lateness is anxiety-based. Putting off the inevitable is how your mind tries to cope with anxiety.

如果你總是遲到，在諸如醫(yī)生約見(jiàn)、新的社交場(chǎng)合或者與你不喜歡的人碰面等一些你害怕面對(duì)的事情上尤其明顯的話(huà)，這種遲到多是焦慮引起的。就算不可避免，也要盡量延后，這就是大腦應(yīng)對(duì)焦慮情緒時(shí)的做法。

But if you are habitually late for routine business and for events that don't cause you much discomfort, then the problem is mainly with self-discipline and your “inner brat,” the part of you that balks at exerting itself, and at being told what to do.

但是，如果你已經(jīng)習(xí)慣在任何常規(guī)工作和活動(dòng)場(chǎng)合遲到，那就是自律問(wèn)題了，還有你心里那個(gè)“頑劣的自己”，那個(gè)阻止你努力上進(jìn)、不讓你聽(tīng)從引導(dǎo)的自己。