今天就來教大家如何發(fā)起談話吧。雖然我們所說的這些開場白非常簡單,但這可不是在愚弄大家,因為它們確實有效。有一點大家必須知道,使用這些開場白的目的是引起談話,我們所要做的只是打破沉默,而不是逗別人開心或引起別人的好感。因為如果你想著要用第一句話就讓人眼前一亮、對你刮目相看,那只會令你自己感到緊張而怯于發(fā)起談話的。
這次要跟大家分享的是那些適用于在任何情況下對任何人發(fā)起談話的開場白。
1. 換個方式問"How are you?":
"How are you doing right now?"
"How's your day been so far?"
同樣是問"你過得怎樣?"但是如此問的效果要好很多,因為沒人想去回答甚至思考一下像"How are you?"這樣一個過于陳腐的問題。
2. 人們總是樂意談?wù)撟罱l(fā)生的新鮮事:
"What's happened for you today?"
"How was your trip?"
"How'd you sleep last night?"
3. 借助情境,簡單評論一下身邊事物:
"What do you think of that book?"
"Looks like a great drink. What is it?"
"I love this place because it's got great energy."
4. 以贊美來開頭:
"I like your posture. It makes you stand out nicely."
"Nice shirt. Where did you get it?"
"I love your style!"
5. 談?wù)勌鞖猓?/p>
"It's so hot today."
"The great sun is burning this afternoon."
"It's freezing! Do you know the temperature?"
這個方式經(jīng)常被提到,但是美國漫畫家Kin Hubbard說,"Don't knock the weather. Nine-tenths of the people couldn't start a conversation if it didn't change once in a while."要用天氣這種通常情況下沒有太多變化的東西來發(fā)起談話并非一定容易,所以也不可過分倚重于此。