自愛(ài)不是把想要的一切都交給自己

True self-love is not selfish pleasure,

真正的自愛(ài)并不是指一個(gè)人的享樂(lè)

but rather the origin of discipline and willpower.

而是自律和意志力的源泉

Self-love is not giving yourself everything you want,

自愛(ài)不是把想要的一切都交給自己

but rather giving yourself the things that are good for you.

而是把對(duì)自己有好處的東西交給自己

Spending the weekend eating pizza and watching movies can feel great,

把周末的時(shí)間花在吃披薩餅和看電影上，你或許會(huì)覺(jué)得很棒

but that is not self-love.

但這并不是自愛(ài)

Self-love is discipline.

自愛(ài)是紀(jì)律

It says,

它會(huì)告訴你

“You may not like this,

現(xiàn)在的你可能不喜歡這樣

but the future You will want to start this.”

但未來(lái)的你會(huì)希望你這樣開(kāi)始走向他

If we simply do whatever we want,

如果我們一味的為所欲為

it is akin to letting a toddler run wild and be spoiled.

就像讓一個(gè)兩三歲的孩子放任自流，敗壞心性

The parent of a spoiled toddler gives the kid everything they want,

被寵壞的孩子能從父母那里得到他想要的一切

and the parent believes they are loving the kid,

父母也相信他們是在愛(ài)孩子

but their actions are not loving.

但他們的行為卻不是真正的愛(ài)

The kid needs guidance.

孩子需要管教

The kid is chasing pleasure first,

孩子總是首先追求享樂(lè)

and as a consequence,

結(jié)果

is not acting in their best long-term interests.

他們不能為了自己的長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)利益行事

If a parent guides and directs a toddler ,

如果父母能夠指導(dǎo)和指引孩子

and the toddler grows up into a mature, responsible person,

孩子就會(huì)成為成熟，具有責(zé)任感的成年人

the parent acted in a loving way.

父母的行為才是真正的愛(ài)

Self-love is being the second parent to yourself,

愛(ài)自己就是成為自己的第二任父母

because we have a tendency to behave like the spoiled toddler at times.

因?yàn)槲覀兣紶枙?huì)傾向于做出和被寵壞的孩子一樣的行為

Self-love is knowing what needs done

自愛(ài)既是知道什么是必須做的

and doing it anyway.

并且堅(jiān)持完成這件事

Self-love brings actions into your life

自愛(ài)會(huì)讓你在生活中做出一些舉動(dòng)

that you don’t regret later.

事后你絕不會(huì)后悔

When we allow true self-love to guide our actions,

當(dāng)我們讓真正的自愛(ài)指導(dǎo)自己的行動(dòng)

it naturally increases our willpower to resist temptations

自然而然，我們抵制誘惑的意志力也會(huì)增強(qiáng)

that appeal to the spoiled toddler in all of us.

我們內(nèi)心的小孩時(shí)常會(huì)受到這些誘惑的影響

Self-love is looking out for yourself,

自愛(ài)是在大局之中看到自己

not in a selfish way,

不是顧影自憐

but in a healthy way.

而是用一種更健康有益的方式

Once we develop this discipline ,

一旦我們練就了這種素質(zhì)

we can use it in all sorts of life areas,

我們就能在生活的方方面面加以運(yùn)用

like going to bed early,

比如早睡早起

keeping up with physical activities,

經(jīng)常鍛煉

saying no to junk food,

向垃圾食品道別

dedicating time to read and learn,

花時(shí)間閱讀和學(xué)習(xí)

and so much more.

還有很多很多

Quell the spoiled toddler ,

讓心中的小孩安靜下來(lái)

become the correct parent of your own mind.

成為你自己心智的明辨對(duì)錯(cuò)的家長(zhǎng)