男朋友向你求婚后你會(huì)想些什么？婚后會(huì)馬上生孩子嗎

今天的這段對(duì)話(huà)，在討論求婚，

男朋友向你求婚后你會(huì)想些什么？婚后會(huì)馬上生孩子嗎

來(lái)聽(tīng)今天的講解:

A: I need to tell you. He proposed to me.

我要跟你說(shuō)，他向我求婚了。

B: You're kidding. Really? What are you going to do?

開(kāi)玩笑，真的?。磕銜?huì)怎么做呢？

A: I don't know. I'm going crazy. It's really too fast.I told him I couldn't decide yet.

我不知道。我快瘋了，他真的太快了。我跟他說(shuō)還無(wú)法決定。

B: Well, what do you think?

那你怎么想？

A: I know it would make my life easier here.But I would never marry someone just to get lower tuition or a green card.

我知道那會(huì)讓我在這兒的生活容易些。但是我絕不會(huì)為了學(xué)費(fèi)較低或綠卡而嫁人的。

B: I know. You are not that kind of person.

我了解，你不是那種人。

A: But we are really good together.And I know he really loves me. And I love him too.Still... I just don't know. What is it like being married?

但是我們真的很要好。他真的愛(ài)我，而我也愛(ài)他。我只是不知道結(jié)了婚會(huì)如何。

B: I think it is different for every couple.When you think about marrying him, you have to ask yourself a few questions.

對(duì)每對(duì)夫婦來(lái)說(shuō)都很不一樣。當(dāng)你考慮要嫁給他時(shí)，你必須問(wèn)自己一些問(wèn)題。

A: Like what?

比如什么？

B: Well, first you have to be confident you and he can be friends. That's important.Now you are boyfriend and girlfriend. But can you be best friends too?Can you be together every day and really feel like comrades?

首先你必須有信心你們可以成為朋友，那很重要的?，F(xiàn)在你們是男女朋友，但是也能成為最好的朋友嗎？你們能每天在一起并且覺(jué)得是好伙伴嗎？

A: I don't know. We don't live together now.

我不知道。我們現(xiàn)在沒(méi)住在一起。

B: It's an important question.Because after you're married awhile, your relationship will change.You and he need to be able to get along in a lot of different ways.

這是很重要的問(wèn)題。因?yàn)楫?dāng)你結(jié)婚一段時(shí)間后，關(guān)系會(huì)改變。你和他在很多不同方面要能夠相處。

A: We have a lot in common, he and I. So maybe we can.

他和我有很多共同點(diǎn)，也許我們可以。

B: And another thing too. You both should have similar ideas about life.About the future, I mean. Do you both want to live in New York?

還有一點(diǎn)，你們兩個(gè)要有相似的生活理念。我是指關(guān)于未來(lái)，你們兩個(gè)都想住在紐約嗎？

A: Well, maybe not New York. But we want to stay in the States.

也許不會(huì)在紐約，不過(guò)我們想待在美國(guó)。

B: And what about kids and careers?Does he want you to have babies right away?

那么孩子和工作呢？他想要你馬上生孩子嗎？

A: Oh, no. I would never want that.He's not looking for a housewife.He wants us both to study, and then find jobs together.

不會(huì)，我絕對(duì)不想。他不是在找家庭主婦，他要我們一起念書(shū)，然后一起找工作。

B: I don't know what to tell you, Natasha. It's up to you, of course.You're a strong woman, and I think you know how to decide things. Probably...

我不知道該說(shuō)什么，娜坦莎。這當(dāng)然要看你自己。你是個(gè)堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的女性，知道該如何決定。也許……

A: What?

怎么樣？

B: Probably you made the right decision not to answer yet.Getting married is a serious thing. I have a lot of friends who are divorced now.And it's because they didn't take marriage seriously.So you need to be sure. And him too. He should be sure in his mind.Before you say yes, make sure he really understands what he wants.

也許你還沒(méi)答復(fù)是對(duì)的。結(jié)婚是件嚴(yán)肅的事，我很多朋友現(xiàn)在都離婚了。因?yàn)樗麄儧](méi)有嚴(yán)肅地看待婚姻。所以你要很確定，他也是，他應(yīng)該確定自己的心意。在你同意之前，最好確定他是否知道自己要的是什么。

A: That's a good idea. I shouldn't think only about me.I should try to think about why he really wants to get married.

好主意。我不應(yīng)該只考慮到自己。我應(yīng)該試著想想為何他真的想結(jié)婚。

B: That's right. That's an important question.Because a lot of times people have expectations that aren't realistic.

沒(méi)錯(cuò)，那是很重要的問(wèn)題。因?yàn)槿藗兯A(yù)期的通常并不實(shí)際。