影響你一生的電影：相伴一生的愛

　　世界上最動(dòng)聽的呼喚，莫過于"母親"；世界上最偉大的名字，莫過于"母親"；世界上最柔軟的記憶，莫過于"母親"。記得曾經(jīng)有這樣一則征人啟事：征求一位女性，能煮飯、能縫紉、會(huì)護(hù)理、會(huì)補(bǔ)習(xí)功課、早起晚睡、永遠(yuǎn)忍耐、忘掉自己，每日工作至少十八小時(shí)，必要時(shí)能二十四小時(shí)不眠不休。每周工作七日、無娛樂、終身不得辭職......必要時(shí)能犧牲自己的生命。啟事下端寫了一句話：除了母親，誰(shuí)能榮膺？

孩提時(shí)，母愛是......

　　孩提時(shí)，母愛是入夢(mèng)前的搖籃曲，是黎明醒來后的親吻，是不小心摔倒時(shí)的安慰和關(guān)懷......那份愛無處不在、無微不至，以致我們?cè)谛腋r(shí)忘卻了母親的存在。那時(shí)的我們生活在母愛的海洋中，卻不知道母愛是什么?！赌概樯睢分虚_篇的一幕便是最好的詮釋。

Terms of Endearment《母女情深》

　　上映時(shí)間：1983年11月（第56屆奧斯卡最佳影片等五項(xiàng)大獎(jiǎng)得獎(jiǎng)得主）

　　劇情簡(jiǎn)介：故事圍繞一對(duì)深愛著彼此的母女Aurora和Emma展開。Aurora早年喪夫，對(duì)唯一的女兒Emma雖視如珍寶，亦十分專制。而表面看似溫柔的Emma實(shí)際上十分倔強(qiáng)、任性，于是母女間的爭(zhēng)執(zhí)不斷。長(zhǎng)大成人后的Emma更是一心想擺脫母親的控制。她不聽母親的勸阻，執(zhí)意嫁給了沒有固定工作的Flap，并在婚后隨Flap遷往外地，先后有了三個(gè)孩子。Aurora在Emma遠(yuǎn)離后，逐漸變得不再傲慢自大，對(duì)女兒也愈加思念。而離開母親的Emma過得卻并不如意：丈夫移情別戀，經(jīng)濟(jì)窘困，撫養(yǎng)孩子的重?fù)?dān)壓在肩頭。最終，Emma經(jīng)受不住生活的磨難和精神上的苦惱，患了癌癥，即將離開人世。Aurora聞?dòng)嵑?，焦急萬分，放下架子，趕往醫(yī)院照顧女兒。這對(duì)冤家母女糾纏了三十年的復(fù)雜愛恨終于得以釋懷。Aurora在Emma去世后，挑起了照顧三個(gè)外孫的重任。

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　　[初為人母的Aurora總是擔(dān)心尚在襁褓中的女兒Emma發(fā)生意外，常常不顧丈夫Rudyard再三勸阻，半夜起來查看女兒是否安好。]

　　Aurora: Let me go, just for a minute.

　　Rudyard: Honey, it's not good for you to be checking on the baby every five minutes and imagining one terrible thing or another.

　　Aurora: Oh, I know. I know.

　　Rudyard: Here it starts. Here we go.〔1〕

　　[女兒在熟睡，但過分擔(dān)心的Aurora卻以為發(fā)生了不測(cè)。]

　　Aurora: Rudyard ... Rudyard, she's not breathing.

　　Rudyard: Honey, she's sleeping. The baby is sleeping.

　　Aurora: No. Rudyard, it's crib death (嬰兒猝死癥).

　　Rudyard: It's sleep! She's asleep, honey.

　　Aurora: Maybe.

　　Rudyard: Come on!

　　[Aurora試圖爬進(jìn)嬰兒床檢查，但礙于裙子的阻擋，只得踩著椅子俯下身去不顧一切地吻著女兒，直到女兒被吻醒哭了，確認(rèn)女兒只是睡著而不是死亡，才放心離開。]

　　初為人母的Aurora對(duì)女兒Emma充滿了無盡的擔(dān)心。我們年幼時(shí)，我們的母親又何嘗不是如此？深夜里一次次地為尚在襁褓中的我們哺乳，換洗尿布；白天里寸步不離地悉心照料。

童年時(shí)，母愛是......

　　童年時(shí)，母愛是早晨晚起時(shí)的催促，是上學(xué)前的再三叮嚀，是晚上做作業(yè)時(shí)燈光下的陪伴，是取得進(jìn)步時(shí)的贊揚(yáng)與喜悅，是考試受挫時(shí)的鼓勵(lì)和幫助......母親就像是神的化身，處處給孩子力量，呵護(hù)著孩子慢慢長(zhǎng)大?？赏蝗挥幸惶欤⒆硬荒茉巽逶≈笎坶L(zhǎng)大了，那是怎樣一種憾痛？讓我們一起看看《母女情深》片尾的一幕。

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　　[身患重癥將不久于人世的Emma躺在病榻上，對(duì)大兒子Tommy及小兒子Teddy做臨終前最后的叮囑。]

　　Emma: ... I want you to make a lot of friends. And I want you to be real nice to the girls 'cause they'll be real important to you, I swear.

　　Tommy: We're not afraid of girls. What makes you think that?

　　Emma: Well, you may be later on.

　　Tommy: I doubt it.

　　Teddy: Why didn't you shut up? Shut up!

　　Tommy: You shut up!

　　Emma: Teddy, give me a kiss. Come on. Tommy, you be sweet. Be sweet. And stop trying to pretend like you hate me. I mean, it's silly ... I know you like me. I know it. For the last year or two, you've been pretending like you hate me. I love you very much. I love you as much as I love anybody, as much as I love myself. And in a few years when I haven't been around to be on your tail about something or irritate you, you couldn't remember. You'll remember the time when I bought the baseball gloves when they were too broken or when I read you those stories, or when I let you goof off〔2〕 instead of mowing the lawn, lots of things like that. You gonna realize that you love me, and maybe you gonna feel badly because you never told me. But don't. I know that you love me. So don't ever do that to yourself, all right?

　　頻繁的生育讓Emma無暇過多顧及長(zhǎng)子Tommy，這讓Tommy有些怨恨自己的母親。他表面上裝作不在乎，可內(nèi)心深處卻極其渴望得到母親的關(guān)愛。Emma此刻已經(jīng)深深理解了母親Aurora對(duì)自己的那份愛，她不愿意兒子Tommy重蹈舊轍，像當(dāng)年的自己，年少時(shí)不識(shí)母愛，長(zhǎng)大后徒留遺憾，所以說了上面的一席話，令人肝腸寸斷。

少年時(shí)，母愛是......

　　少年時(shí)，母愛開始變成了沒完沒了的嘮叨，變成了厭煩的責(zé)備，變成了惱人的壓力，變成了焦灼、企盼和期望。真遺憾，我們?cè)谝惶焯鞚u漸長(zhǎng)大，可是，母愛卻仿佛成了禁錮我們長(zhǎng)大的牢籠。于是，我們開始逃避母愛，拒絕母愛，時(shí)時(shí)盼望著能沖出母愛的"牢籠"，自由自在地的飛翔......這其中免不了沖突，免不了斗爭(zhēng)。讓我們一起看看《瘋狂星期五》中的這對(duì)母女冤家吧！

Freaky Friday《瘋狂星期五》

　　上映時(shí)間：2003年8月

　　劇情簡(jiǎn)介：人到中年的心理醫(yī)生Tess守寡多年，和15歲的女兒Anna及年幼的兒子Henry一起生活。母女二人雖深愛彼此，卻看不慣對(duì)方的品味。她們對(duì)發(fā)型、服裝、音樂以及異性的看法南轅北轍，終日爭(zhēng)吵不斷。在一個(gè)周四的晚上，母女間的沖突達(dá)到了頂點(diǎn)：Anna生氣媽媽不讓她參加千載難逢的樂團(tuán)表演；Tess則生氣自己婚期在即，女兒卻依然不給繼父Lynn好臉色看。母女倆互相指責(zé)，都說如果自己是對(duì)方，肯定不會(huì)過得那么失敗。沒想到，這個(gè)無心的"愿望"竟然真的實(shí)現(xiàn)。一覺醒來，母女倆彼此被困到了對(duì)方的身體中。二人為了各自的利益，首次達(dá)成一致，幫對(duì)方完成心愿?？杉賻兔驼胬斫馔耆莾苫厥?，沒有真正為對(duì)方著想，就無法換回真身。眼看星期五母親的訂婚儀式在即，女兒期待已久的樂團(tuán)演出到來，一場(chǎng)好戲拉開了帷幕。

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　　[倒霉的Anna在學(xué)校被往日的好友Stacey Hinkhouse陷害，又被當(dāng)年追求母親受拒的老師Mr. Bates故意打了低分，憋了一肚子的氣，回到家又遭到淘氣小弟的誣陷，連她臥室的門也被偏聽偏信的母親Tess給卸走了，毫無隱私可言。怒氣沖天的Anna去找母親理論，卻不知母親剛剛接到學(xué)校打來的電話，得知Anna在學(xué)校的表現(xiàn)一塌糊涂，此刻也憋著一肚子氣。]

　　Tess: ... and Maybe you can just calmly explain to me why you were in detention twice today?

　　Anna: Okay, I went to detention. That was only because Stacey Hinkhouse kept hitting me on the head with volleyball ... You'd know that if you paid a speck of〔3〕 attention.

　　Tess: Anna!

　　Anna: What?

　　Tess: I think you know I pay attention, Anna, enough to know that you got an "F" in English today.

　　Anna: Well, Mr. Bates is out to get me〔4〕 ... You know, he just looks for ways to torture me. [Anna想到了今天剛結(jié)識(shí)的男孩Jake] Like today, the one time Jake even spoke to me, he totally ...

　　Tess: Who's Jake?

　　[Anna突然聽出了母親聲音中的警覺。]

　　Anna: He's just nobody.

　　Tess: You say I'm not interested, Anna. I'm interested. Try me.

　　Anna: Okay, he's just ... this really amazing guy, Mom.

　　Tess: Where'd you meet him?

　　Anna: Detention, but ...

　　Tess: That's promising.

　　[母親的冷嘲令A(yù)nna自尊受損，她想坦白的想法頃刻間蕩然無存。]

　　Anna: See. Do you see? Why do I even bother telling you anything? [繼父的無意插話更令A(yù)nna怒火中燒] Aah! You're ruining my life! I'm moving out and never coming back ever, ever, ever again!

　　我們也常常嫌棄老媽和我們之間有"代溝"而不愿多溝通，為何就不能試著換位思考一下呢？

　　這一幕你是否感覺特親切，特熟悉呢？有多少次你和母親因?yàn)椴焕斫舛嗷?zhēng)吵？多少次，你大聲嚷嚷"我要離家出走！"想要逃離那讓你"窒息"的母愛？面對(duì)生母尚且如此，面對(duì)繼母豈不更是難事？可實(shí)際上，繼母的心也是一顆母親的心。一起聽聽《親親小媽》中兩位母親的對(duì)話吧！

Stepmom《親親小媽》

　　上映時(shí)間：1998年12月

　　劇情簡(jiǎn)介：由于性格不合而離異的Luke和Jackie輪流照顧他們的女兒Anna和兒子Ben?？扇旰?，比Jackie年輕漂亮許多的女?dāng)z影師Isabel闖入了Luke的生活，即將成為孩子們的繼母。Isabel竭盡所能想做個(gè)好繼母，但孩子們卻故意處處和她作對(duì)；孩子們的生母

　　Jackie更是容不得Isabel替代自己在孩子們心目中的位置，盡管Jackie由于已到癌癥晚期，不得不請(qǐng)Isabel代為接送孩子上學(xué)。即便如此，Isabel依然真心誠(chéng)意地對(duì)待兩個(gè)孩子，并逐漸贏得了孩子們的信任，最終Jackie也被Isabel的誠(chéng)摯之情感動(dòng)。影片結(jié)尾，Isabel的相機(jī)拍下了兩位母親同時(shí)在場(chǎng)的一張?zhí)厥馊腋！?/p>

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　　[在經(jīng)歷過種種不快和較量之后，Jackie也逐漸開始接受Isabel。這天她約Isabel去了一家咖啡店。Jackie坦誠(chéng)地告訴了Isabel自己并不像她想象地那么完美，也曾弄丟過孩子。]

　　Isabel: I never wanted to be a mom. Well, sharing it with you is one thing. Carrying it alone the rest of my life ... always being compared to you ... You're perfect! They worship you. I just don't want to be looking over my shoulder every day for 20 years, knowing that someone else would've done it right ... done it better the way that I can't.

　　Jackie: What do I have that you don't? Isabel: You're Mother Earth incarnate (化身的).

　　Jackie: You're ... hip and fresh〔5〕.

　　Isabel: You ride with Anna ...

　　Jackie: You'll learn.

　　Isabel: You know every story, every wound ... every memory. Their whole life's happiness is wrapped up in you. Every single moment. Don't you get it? Look down the road to her wedding. I'm in a room alone with her, fitting her veil, fluffing her dress, telling her "No woman has ever looked that beautiful." And my fear is ... that she'll be thinking" I wish my mom was here."

　　Jackie: And mine is she won't. But the truth is... she doesn't have to choose. She can have us both, love us both, and she will be a better person because of me ... and because of you. I have their past and you can have their future.

　　Jackie的一句"I have their past and you can have their future."不禁令人感嘆母親為兒女愿意付出自己一切的寬廣胸懷。而兩個(gè)曾經(jīng)處于對(duì)立面上的女人因?yàn)?quot;母親"這個(gè)特殊的身份，最終結(jié)成了好友。

成年時(shí)，母愛是......

　　不知不覺中我們長(zhǎng)大了，甚至已為人母。此時(shí)的母親怕自己的愛會(huì)再次讓我們感到厭煩，感到壓力，所以這時(shí)的母愛開始變成了一種無聲的放任，哪怕她曾是"最有原則、規(guī)矩"的母親！《喬治亞法則》中的Lily和Georgia便是一個(gè)很好的例證。

Georgia Rule《喬治亞法則》

　　上映時(shí)間：2007年5月

　　劇情簡(jiǎn)介：父母的離異、繼父的騷擾、母親Lily的不解令女孩Rachael沖動(dòng)、暴躁，性格叛逆，成了"麻煩"的代言人--尖叫、詛咒，時(shí)不時(shí)地還情緒失控。束手無策的Lily想到了自己嚴(yán)苛的母親Georgia。在Lily眼中，Georgia簡(jiǎn)直就是"規(guī)矩"的代言人，她為自己制定了一系列不容打破的規(guī)矩，并要求她身邊的人一同遵守。少女時(shí)代的Lily就是因?yàn)椴焕斫釭eorgia對(duì)自己恨鐵不成鋼般的愛，更難忍受那些苛刻的Georgia rules而遠(yuǎn)走他鄉(xiāng)的。毫無疑問，嚴(yán)苛的Georgia必然能用她那些Georgia rules管好叛逆的Rachael。事實(shí)證明，Lily的想法十分正確。再次回到母親家后所發(fā)生的一切不僅徹底消除了兩代母女間的隔閡，更讓她們真正意識(shí)到了彼此內(nèi)心深藏著的愛。

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　　[Lily從母親Georgia那里意外得知，自己現(xiàn)在的丈夫、Rachael的繼父居然一直背著自己騷擾女兒！她痛苦不堪，想借酒消愁，而曾經(jīng)"規(guī)矩至上"的母親也居然破天荒地主動(dòng)買酒給她喝。喝了一天酒的Lily拒絕進(jìn)餐，心痛的母親最終忍不住端著食物闖了進(jìn)來。]

　　Georgia: Oh, you cut your hair.

　　Lily: It was getting in the way of my drinking. All I remember are Dad's hugs, his laugh. After all of it, just good things. Why ... why did you try so hard to take that away from me?

　　Georgia: Did I?

　　Lily: Little things. We loved to watch TV together, so you took it away.

　　Georgia: Television was a distraction. Your grades were slipping (下滑).

　　Lily: Were you afraid how much Daddy and I were alike? How much he relied on me? How little he wanted from you?

　　Georgia: You know, mostly ... I was afraid you'd run off and marry an idiot, lose everything you had a chance at, just like me.

　　Lily: I blamed you for his drinking.

　　Georgia: Oh. For yours, too?

　　Lily: Yeah. You know what I really don't understand, I mean, along with all the rest of it?

　　Georgia: I haven't got a clue.

　　Lily: If you ever really loved me?

　　Georgia: Don't be ridiculous!

　　Lily: No, I mean, just ever. It wouldn't have to include right now.

　　Georgia: What do you think the rules were? Why would I ... why would I waste my time on somebody that I didn't care about?

　　可憐天下母親心！母親未必一定會(huì)對(duì)你說"我愛你"，但這三個(gè)字卻深深地刻在她心中，滲透在她為你做的一切事情之中。

　　幼年時(shí)的母愛，透露著關(guān)懷與照顧；少年時(shí)的母愛，流露著照料與期望；青年時(shí)的母愛，充滿著鼓勵(lì)與期盼；中年時(shí)的母愛，表現(xiàn)出更多卻是堅(jiān)忍與妥協(xié)。在母親眼里，我們永遠(yuǎn)是依偎在她懷里的孩子，無論漂泊多遠(yuǎn)，我們一刻也未曾離開過母親的牽掛。"媽媽，您辛苦了！"