怎樣走出初戀失敗的陰影

[視頻文本]
It’s never easy healing a broken heart, especially after your first love. Find out how to pick up the pieces and get on with your life.

 

You Will Need

*Time to wallow
*Reflection
*Advice
*Friends and activities
*Perspective
*Books (optional)
 

 

Step 1: Wallow 讓自己沉溺一會兒。想哭就大聲的哭出來。
Let yourself wallow for a while. Listen to sad songs and cry if you feel like it. Feeling the pain will help you let it go faster.

Step 2: Remember why you broke up 記住你分手的原因。
Remember what caused your breakup and reflect on your relationship. As time passes, you may only think of the good things. Consider your differences and why you’re not together now.

Step 3: Don't be friends 既然分手，就不要再做朋友。
Don’t try to be friends with your ex while you’re getting over them. You may be able to hang out platonically later on, but not until you’re completely over each other.

Delete your ex’s e-mail address, their phone number, and social media connections.

Step 4: Ask for advice 向過來人尋求幫助。
Ask your family and older friends how they got over their first loves. It’ll give you much-needed perspective.

Step 5: Surround yourself with friends and activities 多參加社交活動，多跟朋友聚聚，忘掉這段感情。
Surround yourself with friends and stay socially active. Pursue your favorite hobbies or interests or develop new ones.

If you are alone, pick up a book — reading is a great escape.

Step 6: Realize there will be someone else 向前看，真命天子終究會出現(xiàn)。
Realize someone else will come along and you’ll fall in love again eventually. A first love is called a “first” for a reason.

British researchers found that people who have a more “pragmatic” view of their first love, rather than expecting the same passion with a new person, are more likely to have successful relationships.

 

[重點講解]

wallow vi. 打滾；沉迷；顛簸

Let us not wallow in the valley of despair.

我們不能陷入絕望的幽谷卻無法脫身。

 

surround vt. 圍繞；包圍

Surround yourself with positive people.

讓你的周圍都是積極向上的人。